So I've been thinking a lot lately about how divided America's become politically. There's not a lot of dialogue that seems to happen, and there's a lot of misunderstandings about what's really important about what's important.
So, I have a couple of questions.
First, what is the absolute single <b>most</b> important political question for you? And, which political question(s) would you concede, even temporarily, if the other side of the aisle would grant it?
Second, what do you think most people on the other side of the aisle find the single most important issue, and what political questions would they have to concede before you would consider the compromise fairly won for your side?
And while I know the initial impulse for many is to say, "We can't give up anything! It's human rights! It's too important" Consider that the other side of the aisle legitimately believes the same (however valid or invalid you find their perspectives, they are equally convicted), an an insistence on absolute victory or nothing isn't politics, it's incredibly divisive, and it's contrary to negotiation. The idea is to feel like you gained more than you gave up, while at the same time finding out what is MOST important to the "other side"-- it's amazing what kind of revelations you can have about your fellow humans when you're more interested in understanding than persuading. It's also amazing how often you can be fighting over things that you don't need to be fighting about, because you want different parts of the same thing, neither of which is exclusive... it's just that the habit of fighting is so strongly ingrained, and the belief that "I want X policy for Y reason, they must want Not X for Y reason."
There are some things that can be parceled up-- the economy, education, and other issues are so multi-faceted, that we're really talking about a whole variety of issues. But others tend to be pretty all-or-nothing for folks. And so, I want to know: What are your all or nothings? What would you be willing to concede to get them? What do you think the other side values most, and what would you demand in return? What could you live without, what must be won fastest and first?