I think this can explain it perfectly
I think this can explain it perfectly
Certainly there is some truth to it. A bit of struggle can certainly be a good thing. But too much of it is absolutely not. How many gay black trans women do you know who are successful artists, run a business, or are great writers or scientists? All of the ones i know are homeless or were recently, and are too busy trying to stay alive to do any of that. Even if you don't give a single shit about these people at all (which is terrible), and only care about their contributions to art, science, or industry, oppressing them to the extent that is done to some people is not a good strategy.
Not never. As archi has mentioned, it's fine if they seem like they want to talk to you, based on body language, or an existing relationship. The thing is, 99% of the time you see a cute girl you've never met on the street, she is not going to want to talk to you. Unless you have a good reason to think otherwise, it's best to just leave them alone. If you do though, then by all means, say hi.
This isn't really the same situation. In that case, gaming is something you have in common, and might be interested in talking about. There's a MUCH larger chance you would want to talk to someone about a hobby you share than a woman is to want to talk to a random guy who thinks she's attractive and knows nothing else about her. If you see a girl on the sidewalk knitting something, and you also like to knit, then it would be totally fine to try talking about knitting with them.
It's really easy to say "just leave and make something for yourself", but the reality isn't that simple for a lot of people. A lot of people literally cannot do that, no matter how hard they try. You may not have had a great start in life, but being an able straight white guy afforded you opportunities that others would not have to move past that. I'm glad things worked out for you, but you should recognize that not everyone can do the same, and it's not because they're lazy.
Not that obvious, since most people here are saying it's perfectly fine.
Oh, stop it. No one is suggesting suing people for being mean. The goal is simply to stop harassment.
I said "you too" once when it made absolutely no sense and I felt completely attacked and triggered by societal expectations of small talk proficiency. This is sexism and I absolutely will not tolerate it or anyone who disagrees with me on this matter.
Honestly, with the amount of flippancy that's coming out from the anti-feminist posters in this thread, I don't even know why this thread is still kept open. There's no discussion going on. It's mostly just anti-feminist dudes taking periodic dumps on the thread.
Serious question: Why is it a problem for men who advocate equal rights to NOT identify as feminist?
yes, because ridiculing the idea that basic human interaction is harassment totes makes someone anti-feminist
Cat-calling and bludgeoning a female with weak ass "game" can all die in a fire. Period. Rich, poor, white, black, latino, it's all chauvinistic bullshit. Superficial females might be receptive to that noise, but I bet a lot of dudes trying to defend these outdated pick-up angles are some of the same anti-social fuckboys who subscribe to those PUA books on how to manipulate people to get what they want. You can spot one of these try-hards (not the frat boys who work in teams) at nearly every small venue or event, usually sparking up "debates" or making a scene to draw attention. Don't be that guy.
I'm assuming there's no context for this and you're just jumping in on this page. I don't particularly think it is a problem; that being said, if you believe in the same messages and ideas of feminism but are vehemently opposed to identifying as one, you're implying that feminism is about something else and has bad aspects to it, which helps to fuel the misconception that it is toxic, which helps to defeat the ultimate goals of equality.
More likely though, I would say if you're vehemently opposed to identifying as feminist, you're probably not as much of an advocate for equal rights as you think you are.
Maz is correct. There is no context.
So you believe it isn't possible to support feminism without identifying as feminist, or you believe the two are mutually exclusive?
I'm trying to understand this, so you can fuck off with that noise Sal.
No no, plenty of men choose to identify as "allies" for example. In fact, depending on the space that I'm interacting in, I've identified as such. You can also just not identify as anything while doing good work. I guess it would be more about the tone of how you're rejecting the label of feminist. If you say shit like "I'm a humanist, not a feminist" or some such non-sense, I would consider that problematic.
I think that if you "support feminism", you are a "feminist". Whether you choose to identify as such isn't particularly relevant, although I don't see why not to, unless your concern is anti-feminists being upset?
I have a reason to not be feminist, which is my own thing. However, I mentioned pages back that there are many AA women and transgender who don't associate with feminism because they feel their needs have been greatly overlooked. AA women feel they have to fight for equality first based on race before they even get to the hurdle of gender. Transgenders are still recovering from feminists trying to stop transgender rights in the past. While it's not the voice of the majority now, I can see why they are jaded and don't want to have anything to do with the movement.
I'm having a tough time even researching quickly anything about gay black trans women, let alone having known anything about them that would be valuable to the thread before, so forgive me for completely ignoring that point in the rest of this post. That probably says a lot about the issue, too
Anyway, do you think it's possible any under privileged groups of people get into worse positions because of "awareness raising" like this thread? It's all so negative, how does talk like this not just oppress a group of people further? Convince a group of people that they have it impossibly hard and I would not be surprised if they do actually have it impossibly hard because of their own mental prisons.
& is a view like this wrong?: Just telling people of privilege that they've got it easier and others have it way harder is literally undermining the problems they deal with and I can't imagine any other response (on average) besides being pissed off @ the people pointing out how much better the privileged have it
I'm so certain that "addressing the issue" needs to be done tactfully otherwise you'll just be creating more opponents than allies and/or hurting the very people whose issues are being addressed.
I really like Diddy's approach to it (albeit probably not on purpose, and plenty of other people have done the same.. it's just I'm familiar with that video of him saying it poetically) where you've got an adversity, achieve all hell in spite of it, identify wholeheartedly with that adversity (so don't hide being gay, trans, etc), and blame your success on your adversity. That's a hard thing to do, because it's so EASY for that person to instead lord it over everyone else because they've achieved something that people more privileged than them have not. As far as I'm concerned this is the type of stuff that causes the most change in the hearts and minds of people living with privilege today