I've found that I really suck at making friends, like really really suck at it. I feel like I'm lagging behind on the friend train. My boyfriend has a lot of friends, a lot of people he hangs out with and keeps regular contact with. Aside from him, I hang out with one other person, and really infrequently. And I don't want to just latch onto his friends because they're his friends. I have people I would hang with if I still lived up north but I don't, and making local friends hasn't really happened - and I've been here six years.
I get along well enough with people at work and school, but none of them are people I would actually want to hang out with outside of those venues, and on the rare occasion that I do want to, I feel like their "friend base" (for lack of a better term) is already established and they don't need/want any other people, so I never ask if they want to do anything.
My one coworker for example, I like her well enough to talk to at work, but I'd never hang out with her outside of work, because sometimes she says shit that's just so fucking stupid I can't even reconcile with it. And I feel like the only thing we have in common is our job and the fact that we like the same type of music. Not a basis for a friendship.
Any pointers for making friends? I mean most of the time I'm content to keep a lot of people at arm's length and communicate only via the internet where the pressure for interaction is lower and I can log off at any time (which is significantly easier than walking away from a situation I don't like) but as far as in person friends, I just don't know how to get from casual conversation to "let's hang out sometime." Strangely enough, I never have this issue when I'm trying to date someone, so idfk.
tl;dr: You're lazy. It was four easy paragraphs.