Given the recent loss of another poster to this topic lets try to have a civil talk about the realities and cause / effect of suicide. I am well aware this is a very touchy subject for a lot of people.
That said lets preface this with some background from my end.
Me personally have my own depression issues and not the high school sally didn't take me to prom kinda depression. Currently the best example of a bad day is something like this:
Went to work one morning great day the day before its a tuesday or wed nothing exciting or major happening , im in the back cutting pc boxes open to assemble for the day. When suddenly the mood for me shifts 110% wave of thoughts just start. No "trigger", nothing caused it, just me with my headphones listening to music while cutting boxes lalala.Now i remember this incident in clarity because of one crystal clear though "i know why robin williams did it" and this thought was one i couldn't get to go away. I stood there at work effectively alone with the tools necessary in hand to just end it all. This feeling of "dread" settles in not the fear of dying but the excitement of being done, that the fights over just let it go and the rest you'll never need to worry about. Now this isnt my first rodeo with suicidal thoughts but it was the most intense of 2015.
Why i mentioned any of the above is simply so that i could say this.
I fully understand the appeal of suicide and understand that it is indeed an out. i'm curious as to how others deal with the emotional side of it be it the loss of someone to suicide or the feelings you suffer yourself. Or how you cope with those feelings.
For myself i have the following actions i take. I contact 3 of my friends and alert them that im having a bad day, All 3 are aware that this isnt a normal text. ive also made it clear that ive no plans to actively take my own life *will be explained*,
and that there isnt anything i need or want them to do im simply informing them.
I do this for 2 reasons:
1. i hate how sudden suicide is, how much it hurts those left behind, and all the questions left unanswered.
2. i don't want pity or sympathy or even comfort i just want those i've chosen to know, to infact know it may indeed happen.
I use the term actively because while i have pretty strong self will not to commit suicide, nor to not put my friends family etc through the pain of suicide. I'm also well aware that one day the emotions may win. I dont joke about it nor say it casually its a fight that most days is an easy win and on the rare days is a near loss.
Thats enough about me , discuss