Online Dating - Anyone tried/willing to share experiences and/or tips?

[Yuri-G]

online dating seems built on the paradigm that anyone who likes you is unattractive, and anyone you like won't be interested. can't tell you how many messages I've gotten on various sites from nasty creepers, and how many I've sent that have been ignored. haven't done that in a long time though.

part of the problem comes from judging someone's looks by a picture. some people are naturally photogenic, most are not. so you're left with either taking a sneaky myspace-angle type of deal with perfect lighting where you try to make yourself look hot, or you're honest and just throw something normal-looking up there, which leads to people who would have fallen head over heels for you in real life not giving you the time of day in the internet world.

but I'm cynical, give it a try. I might do it again, I've never used a site like okcupid or match.com that actually uses an algorithm to match people. back when I did online dating it was in its infancy, I'm sure it's better now. and it does have its advantages, rejection hurts a hell of a lot less over the internet than it does in real life because you can make up all sorts of excuses in your head (he found someone else, he never got my message, etc.) plus it takes a lot less courage to send a PM than it does to approach someone you've never met before. and you never know when you'll hit on someone who's already taken, whereas that happens a lot less with internet dating (although some people forget to update their profiles when they're dating... or were they just trying to let me down easy? damn!)

I wish there was a real-life equivalent of online dating. I guess there are things like singles clubs but I don't know of any around here, espcially ones that cater to gay men. I wouldn't mind a monthly meeting where a bunch of single guys just got together to shoot the shit and see what happens. clubs and bars aren't as useful in this aspect because you never know who's taken, who's just looking to get laid, etc. I've heard the grocery store is great for meeting singles, but you have to be pretty good at reading people to tell who's interested in you and who's just getting a loaf bread, a container of milk, and a stick of butter. and I can't read people very well.

[Headspace]

Anonymous browsing son

[archibaldcrane]

Sup Woozie. All I had to do is see a black guy with your geeky handle to know it's you

[Ratatapa]

I met my girlfriend online on lolkijiji montréal

I put an add about wanting a 1 night stand or serious relation that both worked.

She sent me a message and we started talking for about 2 weeks on MSN. After maybe 1 week we accepted to have a webcam discussion for the proof that we wernt someone else, and we both stayed online for 2-3h chatting on webcam.

When i went to her house for the one night, she presented me her parents and when i woke up the following morning, she asked me if i minded to pass the weekend with her, and that's how it started.

We've been together for 6months tomorrow and we love each other really much

[Lucavi]

Totally agreeing with Miz here: you can meet plenty of fuckups in bars. Online lets you filter them more quickly, and as people are widely attesting to here, it is possible to meet quality people through dating sites.

I didn't know you could meet anything other than a fuckup in a bar.

Just blew my mind, man.

[Woozie]

Sup Woozie. All I had to do is see a black guy with your geeky handle to know it's you

Yeah, when I clicked your profile I immediately realized how obvious I was lol. There's only like three black math guys in America, and you knew I wasn't NDT or Mizango.

[Mizango]

Its rare but it happens.

[Mizango]

Yeah, when I clicked your profile I immediately realized how obvious I was lol. There's only like three black math guys in America, and you knew I wasn't NDT or Mizango.

ROFL

[Headspace]

NDT is white.

[Linliel]

lol archi, you certainly have it right! If I were looking I'd respond to that too ;D

[Woozie]

Archi and I are 46% match. Should I ask him out?

[Odon]

Fuck the stigma, you can meet stalkers, fatties and other unflattering social trilobites at any local bar or grocery store.

Get online and do work.

Miz keepin' it real. Exactly what he said, what do you have to lose from trying?

[Max™]

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It's ok though:

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Incidentally, been 7 years since I met my chick online, but there were two failed attempts before that (one didn't show when we went to meet, the other had been lying about a fuckton of shit), it's all good though.

[Linliel]

Archi and I are 46% match. Should I ask him out?

do it!!

[Headspace]

Archi and I are 46% match. Should I ask him out?

I'm an 80% match son. I will fight you for the most accurate passer in NFL history.

[Dolmen]

88% match with Archi, perhaps it's destiny?

[Rokku]

Nothing wrong with online stuff, the only thing you stand to lose is time and maybe a couple bucks. Like a lot of the people posting on here, my wife and I met through the internet, though not any sort of dating site.

[archibaldcrane]

lol archi, you certainly have it right! If I were looking I'd respond to that too ;D

Lin and I are an 85% match.

I gave her 4 stars.

[archibaldcrane]

88% match with Archi, perhaps it's destiny?

Nah son, that facial hair is terrible.

[Linliel]

Lin and I are an 85% match.

I gave her 4 stars.

Man, reading through the answers to the questions I did back in 2004 (was it only 2004? I was sure it was earlier) I have changed my opinion about a few things...

Thanks! If I can find where to rank people I'll give you a score too.