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  1. PaulBackstrom -
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    Quote Originally Posted by PaulBackstrom
    This always happens when you finally get a gaming computer. I really like your game set, I have about the same collection. The main thing is that the game world does not become addictive for you. Although I can not imagine the real world without my favorite shooters. If there is a need for new gambling, see more here: https://rocketpayz.com/blackjack-online-paypal/, a useful video.
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    This always happens when you finally get a gaming computer. I really like your game set, I have about the same collection. The main thing is that the game world does not become addictive for you. Although I can not imagine the real world without my favorite shooters. If there is a need for a new gaming computer, see more here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kjOwBtondGQ , a useful video.
  3. Kalmado -
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cantih
    You like gaming. You like gaming with people more. But not all people are equal.
    Randos are always available, but have too much of a chance of being a jackass. Friends are best, but often don't have the same availability or commitment, especially to any particular game at a time.
    There, really isn't any viable solution for this currently besides the legwork of finding people.

    As for what to play. I think there's a number of Steam roulette/randomizer/game picker thingers, just a matter of finding one that works.
    Allow me to share a specific moment. My buddy's dad bought for himself a 360 when they first came out and bought CoD 2. We got him to buy a Live sub so we could play death match and what not. We were playing that hardcore. That's when I decided to buy a Live sub and started playing Rainbow Six Three. I teamed up with a group who all new each other. During the match they were playing (loudly) Lou Bega's Mambo #5 and his other songs. These guys if I had to guess were mid to late teens and it was just a great time. It was difficult to concentrate playing because of how much we were laughing.

    I also did truly love and cherish times with my groups in XI. 75 cap a small group of us concentrated on low man content. Hakutaku 3 man Bst, Despot solo, etc. Post 75 a group of 4 of us were doing a lot of Abyssea. Solo'd Monk WS coins in WoE alone or duo. Was some great times.

    I think if I had a group to do random gaming with I'd be reinvigorated. I'm in that category now of not wanting to be on a schedule, yet that ruins the chance of having a blast doing say a group run of Borderlands 2 before the third one hits.
  4. Cantih -
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    You like gaming. You like gaming with people more. But not all people are equal.
    Randos are always available, but have too much of a chance of being a jackass. Friends are best, but often don't have the same availability or commitment, especially to any particular game at a time.
    There, really isn't any viable solution for this currently besides the legwork of finding people.

    As for what to play. I think there's a number of Steam roulette/randomizer/game picker thingers, just a matter of finding one that works.
  5. RaulFarnsworth -
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  6. Kalmado -
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    Quote Originally Posted by Madeline
    At the core, it's the strong desire to be a female, without the willpower or means to make it a reality in a manner you would be comfortable with, I think. It ends up terribly misguided and this is one of a few paths that some land on when the mind isn't happy with an assigned at birth gender. At a point everything blurs in together and the "when the discussion is about" part, becomes "everything" so long as any repercussion is dodged.

    I don't think some of them even realize how fucked up they've become; there are communities online that get off on this type of stuff, and plenty of people practice doing it for the thrill and free shit they're able to get.

    I tend to notice that they're divided into several types:
    - Those that find it sexually exciting, primarily using it for eroticism. I lump the thrill seekers in with this lot.
    - Those that find it a coping mechanism, feeling as if they're able to be who they were meant to be. Misguided feelings seeking an outlet.
    - Those that do it to embarrass or collect information for blackmailing
    - Those that simply find women receive a lot of free shit on the internet if they try even a little bit. Often bragging how far they'll get "without producing a picture."

    There are some fucked up people in the world. All of the above are pretty damn scummy and there are better outlets for your fucked up behavior that don't involve other peoples' livelihood. If I had to guess, he's having a fun ride and is probably posting about the experience somewhere to a bunch of supportive weirdos that also get off on it.

    What I never understood is, the endgame is the same no matter how you play it. You'll only go as far as the person you're involved with will let you. It's self destructive as it could possibly be psychologically. Why do this type of thing to yourself? You will never come out unscathed.


    Fantasies are an amazing part of the human brain. Drives more people toward madness like this more than anything else in the human psyche.
    All I have to say is amazing post. Thank you for sharing.
  7. Madeline -
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    What happens to make a grown man create an alter female online persona to interact with others when the discussion is about...
    At the core, it's the strong desire to be a female, without the willpower or means to make it a reality in a manner you would be comfortable with, I think. It ends up terribly misguided and this is one of a few paths that some land on when the mind isn't happy with an assigned at birth gender. At a point everything blurs in together and the "when the discussion is about" part, becomes "everything" so long as any repercussion is dodged.

    I don't think some of them even realize how fucked up they've become; there are communities online that get off on this type of stuff, and plenty of people practice doing it for the thrill and free shit they're able to get.

    I tend to notice that they're divided into several types:
    - Those that find it sexually exciting, primarily using it for eroticism. I lump the thrill seekers in with this lot.
    - Those that find it a coping mechanism, feeling as if they're able to be who they were meant to be. Misguided feelings seeking an outlet.
    - Those that do it to embarrass or collect information for blackmailing
    - Those that simply find women receive a lot of free shit on the internet if they try even a little bit. Often bragging how far they'll get "without producing a picture."

    There are some fucked up people in the world. All of the above are pretty damn scummy and there are better outlets for your fucked up behavior that don't involve other peoples' livelihood. If I had to guess, he's having a fun ride and is probably posting about the experience somewhere to a bunch of supportive weirdos that also get off on it.

    What I never understood is, the endgame is the same no matter how you play it. You'll only go as far as the person you're involved with will let you. It's self destructive as it could possibly be psychologically. Why do this type of thing to yourself? You will never come out unscathed.


    Fantasies are an amazing part of the human brain. Drives more people toward madness like this more than anything else in the human psyche.
  8. Kalmado -
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    To follow up on this somewhat the "girl" user from Reddit has deleted their account it appears. All comments or messages are from [Deleted]. The guy hasn't chatted in a few days. I'm just glad he hasn't reached out to me through work channels.
  9. Kalmado -
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    Quote Originally Posted by Twilight Sky
    I'd expect something like that to happen while everyone is millions of miles apart. Never while in the same workplace where you can get called out in person.
    That's what the other guy and myself were saying. With a small amount of detective work it's not hard to figure things out. The entire situation is weird and it got weirder this last week with the guy that works for my company constantly asking the other guy for his phone number or trying to hang out but he supposedly has a wife and three kids.
  10. Twilight Sky -
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    I'd expect something like that to happen while everyone is millions of miles apart. Never while in the same workplace where you can get called out in person.
  11. Kalmado -
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    Quote Originally Posted by Brill Weave
    You can do it. Big thing to remember. Do NOT dwell on the past. That shit is a one way ticket back to a bottle. And don't ever think you can't fall back into it either. After nearly 10 years sober I fell off the wagon for about a year and kept it hidden the whole time before my buddy finally picked up on what happened and called me out. Now I'm back to another 4 years sober. Point being, this shit is tough. And it will be a lifelong battle. First steps are the hardest and you've already got them out of the way. Hit me up if you need anything.
    Late to the reply but thanks for your words. I am heavily considering going to a hypnotherapist in regards to my anxiety but the alcoholism would be addressed too.

    The big thing for me is the anxiety. When I have a a bad day at work, which is semi frequent because we get yelled at a lot, the easy route is to get drunk so my mind isn't going a million miles a second. I can space out while watching sports or playing a simple game like poker with a movie on or something. The answer is to change professions but we're not in a place financially to do that yet. In a year and a half we will be once my wife is finished with her RN degree.

    I know what needs to be done. It's the doing, and it's not as simple as many people would think. But I do have a good support system and even online dudes like you who get it. Just reading words on a forum sometimes can be so helpful.
  12. Brill Weave -
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    You can do it. Big thing to remember. Do NOT dwell on the past. That shit is a one way ticket back to a bottle. And don't ever think you can't fall back into it either. After nearly 10 years sober I fell off the wagon for about a year and kept it hidden the whole time before my buddy finally picked up on what happened and called me out. Now I'm back to another 4 years sober. Point being, this shit is tough. And it will be a lifelong battle. First steps are the hardest and you've already got them out of the way. Hit me up if you need anything.
  13. Twilight Sky -
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    That's called Parental Alienation. It commonly happens to fathers but it does happen to mothers too. It's basically lying to the kids about the one who left them/one they left. It has damaging effects on the victim-parent, since having 0 contact with the kids is enough to emotionally kill the parent. You were used as a weapon against your dad. Some divorced couples don't know how to just let it go. They must find a way to "get back" at the other for leaving them/causing the divorce, etc. Sorry you had to get mixed up in that. Certainly learn more about your father.
  14. Hellfury -
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    Regardless of the relationship with your mother, you should try to get to know who your father was, you owe it to both him and yourself.
    I'm not going to spout the whole "The truth will set you free"-thing, and from what you write, it sounds like it might provide you with at least some sliver of peace of mind.
  15. Buffy -
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    Ooooooff. I've never met my dad. If I met someone who said they knew him I would be blown away. I can empathize with your situation.
  16. Sonomaa -
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    Its always your choice to find the truth but it sounds like someone knows the real that you might not have known.

    Its not always about forgiveness but the truth can help you move on, you werent wrong to cut your mother off, she sounds toxic to your life. Just remember, you are the most important person in your life, and your wife is the other most important person, look at her, look at yourself, and find peace. Keep being awesome, were listening if you need us.