Originally Posted by
Sera
Really really good discourse going on here. I never actually thought about a lot of the social conditioning that comes with growing up female, but Stephanie is spot on with her posts.
Kuya, I think the thing that put me off this discussion the most is something a lot of gays do, which is the (somewhat derisive) "silly straight girls! they don't know ANYTHING" attitude that so many gay guys maintain. "What? That straight girl doesn't like to look at a picture of a giant cock and nothing else? What is she, stupid or something? Either that or she must be scared of penis. Poor girl!" I've seen it IRL so many times, and it always makes me want to smack the fuck out of the gay guy saying it. As much as some gay dudes want to pretend they are women, they aren't, and vice versa. Don't get me wrong, I think both groups are met with individual developmental challenges as we grow into our sexual identities as adults, but gay men seem to think that the common thread of "hey, we both like to fuck dudes!" is some sort of a catch all that implies similarities in other aspects of the game. Admittedly it's something that annoys me, and doesn't come off as a "hey, I really want to understand why you guys don't like this" type of opening for discourse. Assuming we don't like looking at wang because of some article here or there doesn't really open yourself up to receiving answers to your queries so much as it begs for being proven wrong (because honestly, the assumption IS wrong, but not for the reasons you were thinking) so it ends up getting in the way of the overall topic.
Also now that she mentioned it, it IS the collarbone thing. I don't know why, but thin dudes have that delicate collarbone thing going on, and that does smack of femininity to me for some reason, though I can't really pinpoint why.