If you think you are scaring someone and want to be nice, feel free to break the tension or give them more space - but the idea that you should feel obligated to assuage their unfounded fear (based in sexism) is a bit much. I don't expect black people to "give extra space" to racists who fear them.
That's all i'm saying.If you think you are scaring someone and want to be nice, feel free to break the tension or give them more space
Being nice is good. You aren't obligated to be nice, but you should.
Sure, but there's a huge difference between "she's female, I'm male and walking the same direction behind her, I should assume she's afraid" and "this chick has glanced back a couple times, sped up her walking and is clutching her purse, she read this thing wrong but I'll put her at ease".
I guess dem blacks should start moving to the other site of the street too because racists fear them, just to be nice.
If you are afraid simply because someone exists or happens to be present in the same area as you, that problem is entirely on you. You should be the one expected to do something about it to alleviate your fears. Expecting others to cater to you isn't expecting them to be nice, it's expecting them to serve at your leisure.
We got it already, you're all creeps. Can we move on now?
As lon as youre calling us creeps for existing
Then no
No we cant move on, because you think having a penis is a problem.
Btw, you have one
Personal attacks
It's not for existing, it's for lack of care and empathy for another person.
So I guess when I walk around late at night after getting done at the gym and I have my face in my phone listening to music and I occasionally (I think..?) might be behind a person- err, sorry. a woman I'm an uncaring unempathetic terrible human being.
lol. k. sure. Once again, enjoy your severe paranoia
If you don't notice then you don't notice. No one asked you to constantly be on the lookout for people.
Okay but if I glance up and notice a person- whoops, sorry again. Woman. Was in front of me would I then be a creeper?
Since there's such obvious and clear rules to this type of thing. This whole time I thought I was just walking at night but, oh man, if I'm being a creeper and making some random chick petrified for her life then I'll try to change. For the record though I'm a skinny ass 5'7" 120 lb little shit. Does that play into anything? Am I more or less intimidating. Do my clothes matter? What if I'm walking my dog and the woman is scared of dogs, does that help me or harm me.
Please let me know.
Priran's hero. Journalistic ethics
Isn't it this very behaviour that leads women to feel like they're being mistreated and considered dependent? Assuming that all women outside at 2AM fear for their lives whenever someone's walking the street on the same side as them seems like a good way to draw negative attention to yourself, at least we're past chivalry on the street, if I'm not mistaken.
That being said, if she cannot leave the house at 2AM without fear of being raped, murdered or both, then she should probably not leave the house at 2AM.