Making friends

[Ksandra]

Lancaster, yea lol

The only one that surprised me was the coven on motorcycles, I didn't know that was a thing.

ya I looked it up once you said that. Here are some nerds for you!

http://www.meetup.com/Lancaster-Nerd-Alliance-League/


We totally need to be frens and do that playdate btw.

[Ksandra]

Also, this might be nice for your wifey if she is starting to get cabin fever (not sure if she is a sahm atm or not):

http://www.meetup.com/ActiveMomsNTots/

[Fievel]

ya I looked it up once you said that. Here are some nerds for you!

http://www.meetup.com/Lancaster-Nerd-Alliance-League/


We totally need to be frens and do that playdate btw.

I agree, plus who wouldn't want to hang out with this face

Spoiler: show

Also looking at that nerd group made me realize how terrible of a nerd I am. The only thing I like on their list of shit they do is video games, and even then I don't play many.

[Ksandra]

I agree, plus who wouldn't want to hang out with this face

Spoiler: show

Also looking at that nerd group made me realize how terrible of a nerd I am. The only thing I like on their list of shit they do is video games, and even then I don't play many.

haha I love that smile!

[Charismatic]

Am I really being a cunt (as you put it) because I bitch about my job? I really have no other outlet - I'll stop posting about work in the fucking random fail thread then.

To be fair, most of the people I deal with at work are from elsewhere in the country since we are a national company. So it's not like I'm going to hang out with (or even meet) any of these people anyway.

Honestly, post your titties one time and you can bitch all you want. Its koo.

[Abandon]

it was only a matter of time

[Charismatic]

it was only a matter of time

I can only post in an Aks thread for so long before... ya kno'

[AidenCarby]

Aks needs legit friends not cult crossfit. Cause when the lunges are over, you need some more substance to quality friendships.

Not like need-need or anything. Your shtuff seems cool enough from the little we may know. It's just your thread, your need, sorta thing... (*'-');;'

Don't listen to this retard, crossfit is an awesome place to meet friends. 90% of people who crossfit are average Joes, or Janes in your case. The only offputting thing about it is the price tag, some places are ridiculous.

[Aksannyi]

Don't listen to this retard, crossfit is an awesome place to meet friends. 90% of people who crossfit are average Joes, or Janes in your case. The only offputting thing about it is the price tag, some places are ridiculous.

Yeah most of the crossfit people I've come across are complete tools, they probably aren't all like that, but so far nothing about crossfit has been appealing to me. And yeah I'm broke as fuck and can't even afford a gym membership right now, so that's not going to work out for me.

[AidenCarby]

Douchebags, Florida lol

[Roranora]

Don't listen to this retard, crossfit is an awesome place to meet friends. 90% of people who crossfit are average Joes, or Janes in your case. The only offputting thing about it is the price tag, some places are ridiculous.

bish plz, was replying to

Crossfit peeps get so into that crap and all become BFFs together over that cult crap.

And that shit isn't untrue. Obviously, some friend-compatible people will surely do most everything, especially Crossfit, which is a great thing overall. I was simply saying his suggestion and the 2birds, 1stone Sep joked about.. isn't really what Aks is seeking.

[Pharaun]

Lancaster, yea lol

The only one that surprised me was the coven on motorcycles, I didn't know that was a thing.

Motorcycles are easier/more fun to ride than Brooms, just sayin'

[Abandon]

some of yall deserve a good shovel-tossin. good lord, so quick to judge people, when some of you are giant asshats yourselves.

[Corresapolonia]

We like to do the same activities? - let's be similiarity-friends
We like to talk about random stuff? -let's be similarity-friends
We like to yadda yadda? yadda yadda yadda-yadda

This is part of a view about relationships with "friends" that most people have. "Do something fun", "go outside", "just be yourself". The same is said when approaching the idea of getting to know a significant other. Notice a pattern here?

The most important part of socializing from your side is your self expression.
It is the most vital thing you can bring towards another person.
Socializing is a need for humans. A healthy relationship should be based on necessities from both parties. You need the other person as much as that person needs you. (in a friend-way i have to say)

While you may have friends, these relationships remain optional rather
than necessary. Often times instead of talking to people you’ll over
indulge in external activities. These activities are more convenient
than putting in the effort to build relationships, and they help
compensate for your lack of human contact.

Making new friends seems impossible because you don’t know what to say to
strangers. And the very thought of a confrontation makes your skin
turn white.

Conversations in friendships that usually aren't built on necessities:

you: “What’s up, bro?..”
friend: “Sup. How you doing?”
you: “Nothing. Just chilling.”
friend: “Cool. Cool.”"


to your post: your coworker talks stupid shit? call her out on it. You don't buy what she says? That creates an opportunity to have a functional social interaction. If you don't scrutinize her ideas, then she will keep talking stupid shit.
And i get the feeling that you seem to be afraid of scrutiny of others towards yourself. I don't mean calling you names or actively hurting someone's well being but rather say what you want to say to a given topic. And if you find a topic boring say it is boring.

[Bail]

I just went on that website to see what's in my area

witch covens, wikken meet ups, and witch covens who ride motorcycles

halp

Had to go check this site out hoping to find my own motowitch...no such luck. I did find a nudists group though lol.

[Roranora]

I too am envious of witch coven biker meetups.

At least they're reachable at least once or twice, I suppose.

[Athas]

http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friend.../dp/0671027034

[Stromgarde]

Ride bikes, meet friends, drink beer. I can't really speak for other towns, but Houston has an awesome cycling community that has something for every level of rider, every night of the week. If I didn't have finals this week I'd have been on my third 20+ mile ride already. I've been in running clubs before also but that tends to be more of a solo activity. Oddly enough the only friends I met through running are mainly cyclists now also.

[Laugana]

I'm 34, single, female, and perfectly happy not having any friends outside of family and work.

I can't drink so I'm a tool when going out, my interests are not what normal people are into. I find going out wasteful moneywise since I live alone and have a mortgage to pay. I will go to the cinema a couple of times a year but that's usually on my tod.

I also have a slight stutter that comes out everynow and then which can be annoying.

My twin brother is the same. We'll hang out together, but separately we don't have other friends we socialise with. Maybe it's just how we were brought up.

[wipers]

I've found that I really suck at making friends, like really really suck at it. I feel like I'm lagging behind on the friend train. My boyfriend has a lot of friends, a lot of people he hangs out with and keeps regular contact with. Aside from him, I hang out with one other person, and really infrequently. And I don't want to just latch onto his friends because they're his friends. I have people I would hang with if I still lived up north but I don't, and making local friends hasn't really happened - and I've been here six years.

I get along well enough with people at work and school, but none of them are people I would actually want to hang out with outside of those venues, and on the rare occasion that I do want to, I feel like their "friend base" (for lack of a better term) is already established and they don't need/want any other people, so I never ask if they want to do anything.

My one coworker for example, I like her well enough to talk to at work, but I'd never hang out with her outside of work, because sometimes she says shit that's just so fucking stupid I can't even reconcile with it. And I feel like the only thing we have in common is our job and the fact that we like the same type of music. Not a basis for a friendship.

Any pointers for making friends? I mean most of the time I'm content to keep a lot of people at arm's length and communicate only via the internet where the pressure for interaction is lower and I can log off at any time (which is significantly easier than walking away from a situation I don't like) but as far as in person friends, I just don't know how to get from casual conversation to "let's hang out sometime." Strangely enough, I never have this issue when I'm trying to date someone, so idfk.

tl;dr: You're lazy. It was four easy paragraphs.

Develop a better personality. That and drink more. Drinking encourages friendship.