Non Religious Dating Religious.... Possible?

[Tyrath]

Could've just posted your sig brah.

[Inshiya]

What type of Asian? What ethnicity are you? Was she born in America? Were her parents born in America? How much money do you make? Answer these questions, and i'll post a response.

But if you want a response now, unless you're also a doctor who is asian, you should move on. The fact that you're not Christian won't help your situation out.

She's korean. I'm white.

Born in Korea, moved here when she was in HS, so she's been here about 15 years.

I'm a lawyer, I make good money (she's a general practitioner, so I'll always make a significant amount more than her). But it's still nice to have a partner with a non trivial income, even if it doesn't match mine.

[Dantrag]

Why does income matter? You've brought it up a few times.

[The Stig]

Dunno about you but income matters to some, especially old fashioned, asians! lol

But it's still nice to have a partner with a non trivial income, even if it doesn't match mine.

I know this feel! Part of the reason why I get infactuated with some of the girls that works in Starbucks. They seem like such angels haha.

[Blubbartron]

For people with high income careers, finding a partner with enough income to be self-sustaining is important to avoid the awkwardness of a prenup. Alimony is much more rarely awarded when spouses have their own degrees, careers, etc.

[archibaldcrane]

And money is important for purchasing goods and services.

[Inshiya]

Exactly. Money isn't the source of happiness, but it makes life significantly easier.

Also it's not just making life easier: I'm past the point in my life where I just want a pretty face near me. I've dated a lot of cute young girls who weren't that professional accomplished or educated and in the end I don't think I could be happy with them. A relationship is supposed to be a partnership and if one person is basically carrying the other person financially, you tend to start resenting them.

Even if the lady ends up staying home eventually with the kids, knowing that she worked just as hard to get where she's at makes me feel better than "she was cute and she married rich."

I'm not saying that stay at home mothers or less accomplished people make for worse partners, it just depends on what you're looking for and I personally want someone who's walked the same path.

Equally yoked and all that.

[vagus]

Well you're a lawyer with a decent income. That will help a lot. Learn the Korean culture, and not just learn to speak a few words of korean. That is cheesy as fuck.

If she is willing to help, that will help immensely. You must show you truly see interested in korean culture. Find a Korean for advice.

If you can show that, combined with your profession and i'll assume you're relatively attractive. The fact you're not Christian wont be the biggest issue. You may have to settle for a Christian wedding though. Ha.

[archibaldcrane]

All the Asians i ever dated never gave a fuck whether I "learned their culture" - you don't have to weeaboo it up, treat her like an American woman lol

[archibaldcrane]

If she wanted an Asian she'd date one. She's looking to date up with a white American.

[Tyrath]

I think they're talking about the girl's family, if he wants to get married.

[archibaldcrane]

She's a strong beautiful independent woman who don't need no parental approval.

[bluefan]

Ah, Korean Christianity. Being Korean myself, I know exactly what kind of crowd you're talking about now

She will never compromise her beliefs or way of life, I can guarantee that. If at times you feel uncomfortable or annoyed with her attitude or indifference on certain things, run. Just...run.

She's a strong beautiful independent woman who don't need no parental approval.

There are two kinds of Korean parents. One side could care less, as long as their kid is happy. Other side is borderline racist.

Obviously can't say just how close she is with her parents, but being devoutly religious and having immigrated from Korea, willing to bet she values her parents opinion pretty heavily.

All in all OP will just have to see how it goes. All in all it should be okay if she doesn't go all Jehovah witness level on you. A few of my cousins are married to non-Koreans and sounds like it's going well.

[SephYuyX]

[Grey Jorildyn]

Haha that was great.

[Dantrag]

Exactly. Money isn't the source of happiness, but it makes life significantly easier.

Also it's not just making life easier: I'm past the point in my life where I just want a pretty face near me. I've dated a lot of cute young girls who weren't that professional accomplished or educated and in the end I don't think I could be happy with them. A relationship is supposed to be a partnership and if one person is basically carrying the other person financially, you tend to start resenting them.

Even if the lady ends up staying home eventually with the kids, knowing that she worked just as hard to get where she's at makes me feel better than "she was cute and she married rich."

I'm not saying that stay at home mothers or less accomplished people make for worse partners, it just depends on what you're looking for and I personally want someone who's walked the same path.

Equally yoked and all that.

Nah I was just wondering what your point of view on it was. I wasn't trying to direct it one way or the other. I make a good bit of money but my wife stays home with the baby and dogs so she hasn't really brought home any sizable income for a while. To me it just hasn't really mattered. As long as I can make enough for us to live comfortably and still be able to take a few vacations every now and then we're happy with that.

[Inshiya]

Ladies are so fucked up.

We had a talk about sex and waiting and expectations and long term goals. She basically elaborated that, aside from religion, reasons for wanting to wait is that she is hyper sexual and has just dealt with a lot of assholes who use her or were sleeping around on her, so now she doesn't want to "ruin it" with a good guy.

Women: It wasn't the sex that ruined those relationships, it was you dating a man-child sociopath in the first place.

Girl dating an asshole -> Ok to be a total slut and blow his mind.

Girl dating a nice guy she sees a future with -> better close those legs so he "respects" me!!

Shit should be the opposite. Stop fucking the douchebags. Start being porn stars for the good guys.

Imagine if guys acted like that:

Dating a superficial cunt? -> Guy acts super romantic and like a perfect gentleman.

Dating a wonderful down to earth empathetic educated woman? -> Be ice cold to her.

[Aksannyi]

That is a really sexist and shitty mindset.

She is allowed to choose when to let a man touch her body whenever and however she pleases. Her past has no bearing on her ability to consent with a sexual relationship with you. If you can't see past the fact that she was a "slut" before you were with her, then that is not her problem, it's yours. You have no right to expect her to have sex with you just because she had sex with other people before you. That doesn't make you a "good" or "nice" guy, it makes you a fucking douchebag.

[Inshiya]

That is a really sexist and shitty mindset.

She is allowed to choose when to let a man touch her body whenever and however she pleases. Her past has no bearing on her ability to consent with a sexual relationship with you. If you can't see past the fact that she was a "slut" before you were with her, then that is not her problem, it's yours. You have no right to expect her to have sex with you just because she had sex with other people before you. That doesn't make you a "good" or "nice" guy, it makes you a fucking douchebag.

I don't mean slut as a pejorative term. I'm a slut. Read the book "the ethical slut," tis a good read.

We're not talking about consent issues here, we're talking about a woman's warped perspective of sexuality as currency instead of sexuality as intimacy. "I 'gave' that guy sex, and things went bad, thus I don't want to 'give' it away anymore." That's what's sexist.

I'm not "expecting" her to give sex because she had sex before, I'm frustrated that she's created this artificial cultural blame for her past relationship failures on sex.

It's like the guys who treat a girl perfectly and get walked on and then just turn ice cold and stop treating them respectfully. -> It wasn't you being a romantic gentleman that fucked up that relationship, it was the woman being a sociopathic cunt.

[Aksannyi]

Nah, I think it's still a shitty attitude, but I will say that it's dumb on her part as well, acting like sex is going to magically change things either way. Your earlier post sounded like you expected or felt entitled to sex because you're a nice guy and like, you deserve it more because of that. It may not be the way you meant it, just how it came off.

That said, as stupid as it may seem to you, it's still her right to make that choice. She may end up regretting it or changing her mind. Then again, from the things that have gone on in this thread, I'd tell you it sounds like this one might not work out. Too many "if/then" factors. Just my opinion.