View Poll Results: Is crazy surmountable?

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  • Yes, with time and work, you can make a lasting relationship

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  • No Bro... Run away. They only get crazier.

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  1. #1
    I stick my dick in Crayfish
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    Dating a Cray Cray, how to deal? Yup he knocked her up.

    So, as a sequel to the "is a non-religious person dating a religious person possible" thread, I have a new question for you ladies/gents:

    We've all dated a crazy girl/guy at some points in our lives, and while the logical answer to any of those situations is: get the fuck out, run far, and don't look back.... They have their allure (typically the best in bed, and have a lot of great passion).

    That being said, has anyone dated the crazy girl and had it evolve into a working long term relationship? i.e.: gone to counseling, worked out the communication problems, and overcome the sporadic emotional meltdowns?

    Some backstory:

    The good:

    Dating this girl for some time now, off and on. She's very cute, bi, educated, asian, and probably the best I've ever had in bed. Wakes me up with a BJ, fucks like a pornstar, brings girls home to join in, and cleans up well for work functions/friend outings.

    The bad:

    She is a fucking train wreck emotionally. She has insane jealousy problems and is generally an emotional rollercoaster. She seems fundamentally incapable of being happy, as any given time things are going well, she starts to lose her mind because she starts thinking about the future and instability (so it's basically a self-fulfilling prophecy in that she's worried we won't be together.. so she starts fights so that we're not together).

    The communication is terrible and we get into crazy screaming fights (totally not my style) and logical analysis just DOES NOT WORK on her. We then make up 2-3 days later in some of the most intimate sex ever.

    It's insane though and incredibly mentally and emotionally draining. I convince myself I don't want to live like that.. then I fall back into the trap because the sex is so good and when we're getting along it's quite nice.

    Has anyone been in this situation? Is this fixable? Counseling? Books? Changes I can make in communication style?

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    All I'm gonna say is good luck bro.

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    The longest I've dated crazy is 3 months. Then for another month a year later where the sex was still awesome, but she was no less crazy. You either give in and accept or gtfo.

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    Do you think you can learn to handle/ignore it? Cause if not you should get out cause.I seriously doubt that level of crazy is going to change unless something really big happens to change her.

    Hoping things will just get better though isn't a good option you will end up being as much of a rollercoaster as her because she pulls you into hers

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    Should we start the betting pool in how long until he gets stabbed?

    Only advice I can give is to get her some counseling, If not then enjoy the threats/stalking later on. Probably want to see how much it will cost to fix a keyed car while your at it........Not from my experience, but an old roommates 2 year hell until she started joking about murder suicide.

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    It doesn't matter if you're cool with all of the shit you think are positives, if you're trying to settle down, all of those positives are negatives and there's no real way to look at it otherwise.

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    The last crazy I dated ended up stalking me for like 5 years after we split up, set up her "wedding date" on the same day as my wedding, and somehow got my cell number and called me the day after I got married to see if I went through with it. There's no hope for the crazy ones.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Inshiya View Post
    logical analysis just DOES NOT WORK on her.
    That right there is why it won't work out. Just cut your losses. If she can't take simple advice to improve her life or plan for the future to name a few things, then she isn't ready for anything long term. She needs to find herself before she can share herself.

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    She brings girls to join in and also has insane jealously problems? Wat.

    But on the whole incapable of being happy thing, I would say from experience: get out.

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    You gonna let your dick make all your decisions fuccboi? Drop her and run before you knock her up or get stabbed/jailed.

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    If the sex and being Asian is the only thing keeping you around, just get out. If you can't communicate and logic fails, she already knows she has you over a barrel because getting your dick wet will make everything better. Things will get worse and no amount of sex covers for headaches and emotional baggage that will continue to pile up.

    Don't try to fix broken people, especially if the broken is as severe as you describe.

    She brings girls to join in and also has insane jealously problems?
    It's likely not a problem so long as she's in control.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ronin sparthos View Post
    If the sex and being Asian is the only thing keeping you around, just get out. If you can't communicate and logic fails, she already knows she has you over a barrel because getting your dick wet will make everything better. Things will get worse and no amount of sex covers for headaches and emotional baggage that will continue to pile up.

    Don't try to fix broken people, especially if the broken is as severe as you describe.



    It's likely not a problem so long as she's in control.
    To add to this, if you get her preggo, then you're straight FUCKED and she'll always be a part of your life, whether the two of you want that to be, or not.

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    On another note, I've never seen BG so unified on anything as this poll.

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    The red flag factory is is doing double time for this guy.

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    One of the reasons the sex is great is because she's crazy.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tyrath View Post
    She brings girls to join in and also has insane jealously problems? Wat.
    She thinks it will make him happy, and therefor herself happy, then when the sex mind goes dormant and she processes what happened, she realizes he had sex with someone else and the jealousy anger sets in.


    No amount of great sex (other than crossing off some stuff on the bucket list) is worth the crazy. Thats how you get stabbed, your car gets keyed, you get stalked, your pets wind up dead, etc etc

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tyrath View Post
    She brings girls to join in and also has insane jealously problems? Wat.

    But on the whole incapable of being happy thing, I would say from experience: get out.
    Like I said, a rollercoaster.

    She does this each time. She'll pick up a girl and bring her home and be super into it. Then the next morning she'll be like "You liked her more didn't you!? You spent more attention on her!!! (even if I didn't)"

    Problem is I get amnesia with the fighting. When things are going well and she's sane I start to forget all the crazy irrational behavior.

    It's not just a "she's crazy but I balance it with the sex" because I'd just hit the road (cause the sex will die off, but the crazy lives on). She's genuinely cool to be with when she's sane, it's just that she's only sane a minority of the time.

    Edit: Jesus Christ at the poll. I could have made a BG poll asking whether the sky was blue and it wouldn't have been 100% in agreement.

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    If she's only sane a minority of the time you need to ask yourself if its worth it dealing with a mountain of shit for the tiny sliver of gold that is her normal day. Overwhelmingly, the answer will be no. Letting it stew longer just acclimates you to a bullshit situation that isn't normal and cedes all logic to crazy.

    Is the risk really worth the reward when the world's full of plenty of other chicks who aren't planning on stabbing you in your sleep because they lost emotional control?

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    She's genuinely cool to be with when she's sane, it's just that she's only sane a minority of the time.
    I have experienced this.

    It won't end well.

    Hell, I'd say my ex was genuinely cool most of the time and the insane was only maybe 10-15%. Thats what kept me in the relationship. But it was not worth it.

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