Originally Posted by
EternityEnd
I'm definitely contacting his father tonight, whenever I can get his number.
Unsure of a welfare check. He's from a different state (NY) and not a family member. I also don't remember his address, and from what he said he's not planning on doing it imminently, just if/when he gets this application denied this week. Not sure if the police would respond to that?
I don't even know what a welfare check could accomplish in that situation, if I could even get one. It could scare him, or make his family angrier at him, or just humiliate him and make him more depressed.
Read my posts - I've never been about just walking away. I certainly don't think he should "just shut up and do it." Not wiling to gamble with my friend's life, no matter what he's done to me.
I've also gone through major depression on and off for the last decade. I know what it's like, how crippling it is. I've been his counsel and confidant since we were teens, and I've constantly put my own emotional wellbeing on the line to try and be his crutch.
I made it clear to him after he put out that threat that I would always be available to talk to if he needed, no matter the state of our friendship, because I have been his lifeline for so long.
That said, I recognize the emotional abuse and manipulation he's used against me. I've gotta sever this relationship to protect my own mental health. It's holding me back majorly.