I am one of the leaders of an end game linkshell. We're not a top HNM linkshell nor are we all noobs at end game. We're a middle of the road average HNM linkshell. We have killed Kirin lots of times, killed some of the king HNMs, camped/killed other HNMs, have done things in sea, and have beaten all the Dynamis areas but Xarcabard.
Dynamis has become a problem. Many people in the linkshell want to get one or two weapons upgraded while others want to sell the currency for gil to split between members. I favor getting an upgrade done because it would be a nice accomplishment. Others say that this is not fair to the rest of the linkshell because the gil earned by selling currency would buy us a lot of other nice things for everyone instead on a few elite members.
The argument has torn us apart to the point where I feel that breaking the linkshell and leaving the game may be my only solution to get away from it.
I want to know how other linkshells deal with these kind of stresses and problems and how they end up divying things so they at least appear to be fair.