As years pass, it seems there are fewer marriages and more divorces, I think the current ratio is for every two marriages, there is one divorce. That may seem a bit contradictory, but that also factors in current marriages.
There was a study done about 20 years ago and it studied the marriages happiness, and their feelings towards divorce. I believe for every 10 couples that felt they were unhappy in their relationship, only one of the couples got divorced. Back then it, even if a couple said they weren’t happy, they didn’t get a divorce, but instead worked things out for both their children and their selves. Now a day, those figures go beyond.
In the current studies the divorce rate is insanely high, at the first sight of unhappiness everyone wants to get a divorce, and don’t want to try to work things out. A writer predicted this about 30 years ago when he did a study on African Americans, he saw that their house holds were breaking up quicker, and that one out of ever four babies born were out of wedlock and the father was not around. He predicted that in the near future those statistics would rage out of control. Today it seems he was right, as of now 70% of African American babies are born out of wedlock and a successful marriage is 20%.
Now I know you guys hate statistics and all, but there is truth, take a look around, how many children are being born out of wedlock? How many marriages are turning in to divorces? The new trend again is younger marriages, back in the day it was common, now a days people are waiting even longer to get married, but there are still a lot of couples who are getting married at 19 or 20 or 21. Out of those young marriages 90% end up in divorce, I know of two couples that got married young, and they are both divorced now.
I don’t know what I’m really getting at with this, but when I heard this on the radio today (3.5 hours to get to work due to snow today..) along with call ins, it is really shocking.
What ever happened to two people who love each other getting married, having a kid, and sticking through it for better or for worse?
A female writer who also talked said the original intent of a marriage was for the wife to watch the young child, and for the husband to support them. Take a look at today, look at how many single mothers there are, sure they may be scraping by, but how is that affecting the child?
I believe it takes a family to raise a child, and even if its just for that child’s sake, that the couple should persevere and try to find a common ground to succeed on.
What’s up with all these couples just living together and not getting married? People say they do this so they don’t have to worry about a divorce when the time comes and they feel uncomfortable with each other. Now obviously in today’s society there is little regard for sex anymore, everyone is doing it, younger and younger and it’s just a sad sight. So what happens when you couple the reasons of younger kids having sex, plus no one getting married anymore? What will our society be like in 10, 20 years?
Most of what is said from things I heard on the radio today, and what I’ve observed, nothing personal. However I may be a bit biased as I was raised in the stereotypical ‘perfect’ household, and I believe that marriage is not a fling, that it is a life long thing and sex is something that should wait until that day.
However I was wondering what you all felt about this subject?
Do you think society is fine how it is? Do you think it should go back to the way it was where everyone strived to make the relationship work and have children? Do you think its ok to live with someone and never get married? Do you just not care? Etc.