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I'm gay and recently I've spontaneously become obsessed with my friend Tim, who is also gay. It kind of happened out of no where. We've been good friends for about 8 months now, and we hang out rather regularly. At least until he went away for Christmas break. When he left, he did not return for a month, and then was sick upon arrival and was recovering from that for like 2 weeks. So I had been away from him for around 6 weeks. Then we hung out last Thursday and since then I have become like obsessed with him and how he's doing and what he's doing. I don't know if he even can tell, or even cares, or whatever, but it's been driving me insane for the past like 5 days. I feel like I am suffocating him, even though I am not doing much differently that before this happened.
I asked him to hang out a few days ago, he said no, and it basically annoyed me the entire day, as I seemed to twist his words from "I'm with another friend and I am not sure what my day looks like" into "Let me get back to you if it seems like I'm not going to be doing anything fun, and if that's the case then I'd love to hang".
I have texted him a few times and have gotten no replies and have found this has started to annoy me much more than it used to (if it even did at all), and I have been getting irritated when he'll randomly post on people's facebooks for no reason and wont respond to me even when I asked him a question.
I don't know if he is mad at me, and I don't wanna confront him about it if it turns out he is not. I'm not even sure if anything is bothering him, but I don't wanna suddenly seem like Mr. WHOAMG high school drama and come at him with some seemingly stupid problem.
Would it be wise to just kind of stop talking to him for the time being until he talks to me first, to give him some space, without an explanation? Should I send him a message explaining myself beforehand and THEN stop talking to him?
Should I just chalk it up to my being paranoid and just not do anything?
This seems so stupid, but I am so stumped. I know first reaction would be WHOAMG you have a crush, but I have never thought about him in that way like EVER.