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  1. #1
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    Relationship Conundrum (or: BG is my LJ)

    So, I can't be the only one who has been in this position before, so I am seeking advice on how to handle it.

    I have been seeing a guy for the past two months, and we planned a trip in July for the FF Distant Worlds Tour in Seattle. (I am in Portland, OR for school.) The train tickets, hotel, and event tickets have already been paid for. I paid for everything upfront, but he hasn't paid for his half yet (~$500.) I am not worried about his ability to pay as he makes enough money (he is a professor). I am worried about his intent to pay.

    The problem is I don't think the relationship is going to last much longer. I kind of want out of it. But, I don't want to be lose out on the $$$. Should I force the relationship to last until after the trip, or just eat the loss? I think he might be feeling the same as I do, so I might be fucked anyway if he calls it quits first.

    Fuck!

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    Dude, stop having sex with dudes... aiight?

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    Maybe a friend would be willing to front his half and just go as buds, instead of sexy times?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charismatic View Post
    Dude, stop having sex with dudes... aiight?
    sure thing brah

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    Preach it

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    Glad that's out of the way.

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    He should pay you and you should still break up. From the sound of it, you're both about ready to be done with the relationship anyway, so there should be no hard feelings (unless there's more to the story?)

    If that doesn't work, you may be fucked, I can't really think of another way out of it other than to string him along until you go (assuming he doesn't dump you first). And that doesn't really sound like fun anyway, going with some guy knowing you're done with him.

    You should be able to go together as friends though.

    edit: or yeah, someone else pays his half and goes with you.

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    I'd still go on the trip. Unless ya'll get bitchy just have drama the whole time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yuri-G View Post
    He should pay you and you should still break up. From the sound of it, you're both about ready to be done with the relationship anyway, so there should be no hard feelings (unless there's more to the story?)

    If that doesn't work, you may be fucked, I can't really think of another way out of it other than to string him along until you go (assuming he doesn't dump you first). And that doesn't really sound like fun anyway, going with some guy knowing you're done with him.

    You should be able to go together as friends though.

    edit: or yeah, someone else pays his half and goes with you.
    Yeah, I might work this angle. We're not on bad terms or bitchy. Its just we're both very busy people. I work full-time and go to school full-time, and will be attending the summer term. He teaches of course, is pursuing a literary career, and wants an active social life.

    So, thats where the conflict is. I am always busy with something when he wants to do something social and I have to be all "no brah i gotta write a paper/go to the office/study for finals/ect".

    I might be able to get it so that the relationship ends but we remain friends. That would be ideal, as then he could still come (and probably still have sexy times.)

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    Hey man, you said you were gonna stop.
    You lied to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charismatic View Post
    Hey man, you said you were gonna stop.
    You lied to me.
    Probably is not definitely. ;P

    And, this is only if things end and he still goes as a friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charismatic View Post
    Dude, stop having sex with dudes... aiight?
    Quote Originally Posted by Vuitton View Post
    sure thing brah


    Uhh...

    Quote Originally Posted by Vuitton View Post
    Probably is not definitely. ;P

    And, this is only if things end and he still goes as a friend.
    What?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Charismatic View Post
    Uhh...
    What?
    I shall stop in the sense of the immediate time being up until a situation forces me into another man's pants. At that time, the state of having stopped will become the state of having started, and sexy times will ensue.

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    Crafty little one ain't cha

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    Just play with your own, same thing

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yuri-G View Post
    He should pay you and you should still break up. From the sound of it, you're both about ready to be done with the relationship anyway, so there should be no hard feelings (unless there's more to the story?)

    If that doesn't work, you may be fucked, I can't really think of another way out of it other than to string him along until you go (assuming he doesn't dump you first). And that doesn't really sound like fun anyway, going with some guy knowing you're done with him.

    You should be able to go together as friends though.

    edit: or yeah, someone else pays his half and goes with you.
    This is pretty much what I was going to post.

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    Should just go ahead and break up, forced relationships aren't fun.
    Any decent person would pay what he owes post break up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mayareira View Post
    Should just go ahead and break up, forced relationships aren't fun.
    Any decent person would pay what he owes post break up.
    I just don't see why he would pay, assuming he doesn't want to go post break up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vuitton View Post
    I just don't see why he would pay, assuming he doesn't want to go post break up.
    Because not paying would be a douchebag thing to do?


    I think your options here are:

    Talk to him *asap* and if he's going to be a douche, at least you've got time to hopefully find someone else to take his half. (assuming you planned ahead, the price you can offer them should be much, much better than if they just randomly decided to go this close to it)


    or


    Try to string him along and know that if he douches out you're pretty well screwed.

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    Wow, spam sure is leaking over into general, isn't it?

    To stay on topic: Break it off with him in the best way possible. If you can get him to go with you as a friend: awesome. If you can't, just try to get someone else to go with you. Seems pretty simple.

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