So... my girl wants to be celibate...

[Valisk]

Lonng story short: I met my girlfriend 4 years ago. We were very serious at first, took some time off to "grown up" and make sure we were really right for each other, etc. We had sex the 2nd week of our relationship. I was her first. We had sex 1-8 times a night, 3 days a week for about 2 months. Then we took our break. Had sex with her maybe 3 times a year for 2 years during our "break". Started talking seriously again at the end of last year and made it official. Since then we have had sex 1-6 times a day, 5 days a week, for the last 8 months.

Now I don't know what happened at church, but afterwards, she texted me and requested that we be celibate until marriage and we dicussed it all day. How would you handle the situation? I feel like she put me in a "bad" position since we didn't start off that way and we have been having sex for so long. I really do love her and want to have a family and future with her once I get out of law school. But I don't know if I can do this whole celibacy thing.

tl;dr Girlfriend wants to be celibate after 4 years of sex. What would you do?

[Seraph]

tl;dr Girlfriend wants to be celibate after 4 years of sex. What would you do?

Vegas is just a short flight away.

[Brill Weave]

Is it a request she is making or more of an I'm going to do this and if you want to be with me you'll deal with it type of thing? If it's the latter, then I don't think she's really respecting your relationship, or you by making this decision. In the end it can't be one person making the decisions that affect both participants. If that's the case I don't know what to tell you.

[Day]

Give it two weeks, I bet it's passed.

[Brill Weave]

Tell her you'll be celibate for a year if she does anal before the streak starts.

[Gryffes]

Try hitting her.

[Seraph]

Do BJs count?

[stewie]

church

I have discovered your problem.

[Takedown3]

Do BJs count?

this.

also the 2 week thing.

also if none of the above and serious marry her asap

also if that doesnt work then its an excuse and wants to get some other dude's coc

[Dimmauk]

Lonng story short: I met my girlfriend 4 years ago. We were very serious at first, took some time off to "grown up" and make sure we were really right for each other, etc. We had sex the 2nd week of our relationship. I was her first. We had sex 1-8 times a night, 3 days a week for about 2 months. Then we took our break. Had sex with her maybe 3 times a year for 2 years during our "break". Started talking seriously again at the end of last year and made it official. Since then we have had sex 1-6 times a day, 5 days a week, for the last 8 months.

Now I don't know what happened at church, but afterwards, she texted me and requested that we be celibate until marriage and we dicussed it all day. How would you handle the situation? I feel like she put me in a "bad" position since we didn't start off that way and we have been having sex for so long. I really do love her and want to have a family and future with her once I get out of law school. But I don't know if I can do this whole celibacy thing.

tl;dr Girlfriend wants to be celibate after 4 years of sex. What would you do?

You should do it, so you can play FFXI more!


Seriously, that celibacy shit is fucking stupid. What is the point? Why punish yourself? Why does church ruin everything? I would not do it. You probably will do it, so ask if blowjobs and Anal count.

[Shalyn]

I would say roll with it for a bit, and she'll get a hardon for you because you're being so understanding and she'll go after you again.. but play hard to get at first

[Therin]

Don't see why this is such an issue. Judging from your post, you do love her and have at least somewhat plans to start a family and get married. Sure, this is a big step in a relationship, but it's something you probably need to go through with. You guys seem like you've been having sex a ton, more than couples do in the average relationship (1-6 times a day, 5 days a week? That's an average of 15 times a week which is a lot). Take some time off of sex. Take her out to some unique places. Try to discover other ways to have fun outside of sex. If celibacy destroys your relationship you probably wouldn't have a successful marriage with her anyway. Respect her needs and she will respect yours. If you can be celibate for a few weeks or months, she'll see that you're serious. If it goes well, eventually the sex will come back, and hopefully with it an even stronger connection than before.

Look ahead for the long-run in this situation. You've spent 4 years of your life with her and you seem like you love her. Don't throw it away.

There's always porn.

[Ruiner]

You're both already not virgins, and you've both already fucked each other. If there was any point to being celibate before (protip: there wasn't), there definitely isn't now.

[Gunitsoldier]

Try hitting her.

This basicly. No offense dude but I'd be pretty paranoid if my GF demanded celibacy after having sex with me.

[Therin]

It just seems to me like she's had a bit of a change of heart. Maybe she's thinking ahead of marriage. She wants to tie the knot, but she doesn't want to make it so obvious than saying, "Hey, let's get married." Instead, she's testing the waters for a more permanent commitment. If you can't commit to celibacy when she asks, you're probably not ready for marriage.

[yayaok]

Don't see why this is such an issue. Judging from your post, you do love her and have at least somewhat plans to start a family and get married. Sure, this is a big step in a relationship, but it's something you probably need to go through with. You guys seem like you've been having sex a ton, more than couples do in the average relationship (1-6 times a day, 5 days a week? That's an average of 15 times a week which is a lot). Take some time off of sex. Take her out to some unique places. Try to discover other ways to have fun outside of sex. If celibacy destroys your relationship you probably wouldn't have a successful marriage with her anyway. Respect her needs and she will respect yours. If you can be celibate for a few weeks or months, she'll see that you're serious. If it goes well, eventually the sex will come back, and hopefully with it an even stronger connection than before.

Look ahead for the long-run in this situation. You've spent 4 years of your life with her and you seem like you love her. Don't throw it away.

There's always porn.

quoted for word of moaf, this bro be speaking trumpet

[Weeks]

You're planning to marry her, right? Look at it like she's just giving you a head start on not having sex with her.

[Dimmauk]

This basicly. No offense dude but I'd be pretty paranoid if my GF demanded celibacy after having sex with me.

STD test in exchange for celibacy? If she passes the STD test then no more sex for the OP?

If the girlfriend is super hot, would yall honor her request?

Also, the OP should show her this. If she cared about him she should change her mind

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KoT_IkLdsF0

[EckoGecko]

I've had this type of problem before.

My girlfriend wanted to be celibate because she was scared of pregnancy even though we were using birth control+condom. Took about a week for her to change her mind.

[Andarvi]

I've had this type of problem before.

My girlfriend wanted to be celibate because she was scared of pregnancy even though we were using birth control+condom. Took about a week for her to change her mind.

Your girlfriend was dumb.

Anyways, while this will probably pass, it would definitely piss me off. You should go to church with her and afterwards make her question all the stuff the pastor says by asking logical questions about the sermon. Shouldn't be that hard.