BG Real Life advice

[Eaglestrike]

To be fair, Aurik isn't really giving him advice so much as he's telling him to an hero himself for being the scum of the earth.

Which is why I actually countered him with an "attack". Everyone else I've mostly just explained any assumptions they're making that were incorrect to be incorrect.

Mizango: I don't think the pull-out method was a good idea. I planned on heading off to planned parenthood, but my mother was coming with some "she can only see you on the weekends!" stuff and so we weren't really seeing each other much during the week over the last few weeks, which is the only time that's opened. Yeah, it's just an excuse and a poor one, I know.

Initiative/maturity has always been what I "lacked". Well, the initiative. I didn't see the point in just being another one in "the system" and such. Which is a stupid way to look at it, even if I still feel that in some way. It was something that I've been working on over the last few months, didn't ask BG about it until the pregnancy news. Though actually I think I posted something on BG about it a few months back, not sure if it was its own thread or just in another thread though. Situation wasn't as dire, obviously. But still important.

The odd thing though is that I'm a really good worker, I just don't have the drive to work, because up until I started dating again (this past summer, 5 years just ignoring it) I didn't "need" money and I'm not very materialistic so it wasn't a big deal if I wasn't getting all new shiny toys all the time. But I need to get a job to prove I'm capable of working a job.

I do think this experience has changed me to the point I'll be able to work with a purpose, even if we take the abortion option. Which is all I needed on my side of things (I always figured I'd be able to step up in the right situation and such) and now it's just the search for that job to prove I can work better jobs.

[aduidarnenye]

I was just going to post about trade schools as well, since you keep harping on career advice.

Forget college or university. There are no jobs waiting for you if you get a bachelor's degree. A bachelor's degree is a worthless piece of paper now. The absolute worst thing for anyone to do now, regardless of situation, is to go back to college to get a degree. You will end up in a worse spot than you were before.

You need a skilled trade. There are jobs for people who have trained in a skill that are better paid than anything you will get with a university degree.

If you can't afford a community college then you start by begging a contractor to take you on as an apprentice until you can get into a college programme. You will have to beg many contractors because most of them only hire relatives or friends.

And then you turn off your bloody computer and work your ass off until you have your life turned around and have a savings account with a couple thousand dollars in it for emergencies.

[Kyo]

This dude totally has to be white, because only a fucking cracker would try to do some dumb shit like this.

[Arvin]

This dude totally has to be white, because only a fucking cracker would try to do some dumb shit like this.

see this is why i keep thinking youre a blax

[Kyo]

It's only a shell my man, Abandon has assured me I can borrow some of his black skin color to go with my nigga attitude.

[SaviorSelf]

How did I miss this thread within the past few days? Was it in the wrong section?

@Eagle, totally wrong forum to ask advice from. Do you really want to hear from the majority of these people on what they'd do? lol

[Arvin]

its not like we're a bunch of fucking weirdo/sick perverted freak/shut in/nerd/virgins. i think 80% of bg posters are genuinely nice normal people

[Arvin]

its not like we're a bunch of fucking weirdo/sick perverted freak/shut in/nerd/virgins. i think 80% of bg posters are genuinely nice normal people

lol

[Eaglestrike]

How did I miss this thread within the past few days? Was it in the wrong section?

@Eagle, totally wrong forum to ask advice from. Do you really want to hear from the majority of these people on what they'd do? lol

I pretty much expected this. I got some helpful advice, so I got what I wanted.

[aurik]

Oh well, I tried.

Now that he's gotten enough advice going both ways, he'll self-rationalize that it's not a completely terrible option to do what he originally wanted to in the first place. Of course his girlfriend is probably going to keep the baby no matter what he said, because it sounds like she's an even worse failure than he is. After all, she's the one who lets him ride without any sort of birth control. So she's either retarded or nefarious, take your pick--I wanna say nefarious, as this way she can justify her existence AND get it for free because she's got some sucker on the hook. Joke's on her though because the kid's most likely gonna end up fubar given the kind of squalid conditions his parents are bringing him into.

[kyod]

Forget college or university. There are no jobs waiting for you if you get a bachelor's degree. A bachelor's degree is a worthless piece of paper now. The absolute worst thing for anyone to do now, regardless of situation, is to go back to college to get a degree. You will end up in a worse spot than you were before.

Not necessarily true. If you network, intern and do well (3.5 GPA and above), there are quite a few opportunities. But the mere fact you have a degree does not mean you will get a job (depending on your field). In the OP's case a trade would be a much better use of his time and resources. College isn't for everyone, but discounting it completely is foolish.

[Cream Soda]

[Melena]

Mizango: I don't think the pull-out method was a good idea. I planned on heading off to planned parenthood, but my mother was coming with some "she can only see you on the weekends!" stuff and so we weren't really seeing each other much during the week over the last few weeks, which is the only time that's opened. Yeah, it's just an excuse and a poor one, I know.

Jesus christ, your 25 years old and you got your mom telling you that you can only see your woman on the weekends. Seriously nut up, grow a fucking pair and be a man cause right now you obviously have no future.

[Cyn]

This dude totally has to be white, because only a fucking cracker would try to do some dumb shit like this.

If he was black he'd be Cream Soda. And he wouldn't have this baby momma issue cuz white chicks only put out for niggas with cheddar.

(Ok that's not true at all but it sounds good.)

@Eagle: So what have you done besides ask BG anyways? Have you signed up with your local employment security commission? Or just wrote a profile on monster.com and called it a day?

Hell, if you go put in some applications at restaurants or Depot / Lowe's you could get a job making $10+ an hour average with just a high school diploma. If you're willing to really bust your ass to make some decent money call up some local contractors. Fuck, learn Mexican (yeah I know they technically speak Spanish) and you could be running a crew making good money in a year or less.

[Knightmare]

lol i like how 90% of the "advice" in this thread was just calling the dude stupid then telling him to somehow fall ass backwards into a career

[Maaglin]

Dude has no skills. Best he can hope for is standing in the day labor line hoping to get picked up for temporary jobs.

[Cyn]

Dude has no skills. Best he can hope for is standing in the day labor line hoping to get picked up for temporary jobs.

Were you just born with skills?

[Maaglin]

By the time I was 25? Yeah.

[Eaglestrike]

I've applied to multiple jobs (cover letter, resume, assessment test, etc) including Lowe's and McDonalds. I signed up on Monster months ago, and applied to a job through its daily listing the other day, unfortunately most of its jobs are something that require a degree or are 2+ hours away, which is pretty dumb to send to me since I'm listed as not having a degree, but whatever. But I've sent out at least 50 resumes/applications over the last few months. Though not all with cover letters, and I still have a lot to improve when it comes to cover letters.

"local employment security commission"? Never heard of this, what is it? Good to see there's something new to learn even this far into the thread.

[Siniroth]

Oh fuck, I remember when these commercials started, was at a cottage for march break with a bunch of friends and no adults (oh the orgies!) and it was the only commercial on the only channel we got. We called him the Everest guy (obviously) and raged about the commercials for the rest of until we were all old enough to drink legally.