BG Real Life advice

[aurik]

I love how he is asking for opinions on how to best take care of the child and there are people in this thread suggesting he have it aborted

Sometimes that is the best way to take care of the child.

[Callisto]

I'd have to second the guy who recommended UPS as a steady starter job to work your way up in, the hours are always there, I hear overtime happens often around the holidays as well, and they have extremely good benefit plans to offset the meh wages. The more members in your family, the more important the benefits become. And marry the girl ASAP so that you can share benefits and get the tax breaks when the kid comes.

[Eaglestrike]

I love how he is asking for opinions on how to best take care of the child and there are people in this thread suggesting he have it aborted.

Obviously he is taking responsibility for his mistake, so I don't think his worry right now is how he will have to stay with this girl he's known for X months.

edit: Fibromyalgia? How the hell did you even have pleasurable sex in the first place? I'm not one to talk about abortions but this early in your girl's life and in the pregnancy you might be better off aborting it for her safety.

Thank you for the first part of the post. That's what I was attempting to convey.

Sex actually helps her, because of the pleasure and such it balances out the chronic pain. I've heard there are women with fibro who can't enjoy sex, but she's certainly not one of them.

[chiyio]

I'd also recommend abortion, and talking to planned parenthood. You're obviously not ready on any level to provide for a child. People have had good advice on jobs, etc. But really, I think abortion is the right answer here. Also, at planned parenthood they can help your girl get birth control, so you don't have this problem again until you're actually ready for it. The Pull out method isn't a method =/

Best of luck.

[BerenTebogo]

I love how he is asking for opinions on how to best take care of the child and there are people in this thread suggesting he have it aborted.

Obviously he is taking responsibility for his mistake, so I don't think his worry right now is how he will have to stay with this girl he's known for X months.

edit: Fibromyalgia? How the hell did you even have pleasurable sex in the first place? I'm not one to talk about abortions but this early in your girl's life and in the pregnancy you might be better off aborting it for her safety.

This post is full of lol and fuck, just like the OP.

[Dantrag]

Joining the military won't be an option. I'm going to be the main caretaker of the child. My girl has fibromyalgia and is either sleeping or incapable of moving without lots of pain some days on a non-routine schedule.

Except if you lived on base I'm sure there would be more than enough assistance. Not to mention you could afford someone to help your girlfriend out while you were away and you would actually have a decent career path.

[Meresgi]

Good job ignoring the obvious sarcasm there bud. I knew it was a risk, turns out I got "unlucky".

That's not being unlucky, its being stupid as shit. If you knew the risk...why did you bother? Shit I know there's a risk of jumping out of an airplane w/o a parachute along with someone carrying a parachute, I could die and I could live by doing some Point Break ninja shit.

[Ksandra]

Joining the military won't be an option. I'm going to be the main caretaker of the child. My girl has fibromyalgia and is either sleeping or incapable of moving without lots of pain some days on a non-routine schedule.

We're reconsidering abortion, going to head to Planned Parenthood in a bit.

KST, you made a good post, totally the reason I'm reconsidering it.

actually the more info you give the better the military option. No job is going to let you take time out for times your wife can't help, however you can get daycare through the military (I believe you still pay but at a much lower rate than regular ones.)

You are fooling yourself into not joining, because the reason you gave will be an issue for any job. especially if you get a new job and are taking a lot of time off for your kid. They won't keep you.



Also, because of your girlfriend's syndrome, is it even healthy for her to have a baby?

I am against abortion, but from what you describe, it sounds like having a baby could kill her. Make sure you talk about this at planned parenthood, and with whoever doctor she goes to for her fibromyalgia (I'd imagine she has one for check ups/medication?).

[Swarley]

For the record.. don't go to your girl after you read this thread and say "So how about abortion?". That's her decision whether or not it stays, not yours, and certainly not random interweb strangers. I don't know your girl, but I've had a pregnancy scare before and it's the most stressful, horrifying thing when you're in a bad financial situation. Just give her support and let her decide.

As for the job thing, I second the UPS work. I'm in an area with 0 jobs but there's still constant ads for UPS drivers and sorters.

[Warudo Ecksu]

I love how he is asking for opinions on how to best take care of the child and there are people in this thread suggesting he have it aborted.

I don't think one can really expect to make a thread on BG forums about pregnancy and not expect "abortion" to be mentioned a few times.

Also I wasn't even thinking about the military. One of my old roommates knocked up his girlfriend, much the same situation-- had only been dating her a short while, had no job, etc. He quickly joined the army, and everything turned out fine. He's now about to have his second child.

[Dantrag]

And for gods sakes don't say: "What are you going to do?"

This is about the both of you, "What should WE do?"

[greenhills]

the always effective pull-out method ended up failing

no way, i can't believe that! it works, i bet she was screwing around.

I second what everyone here is saying about military, only enter with a purpose. like carpentry or mechanic or something along those lines, any kind of productive career path that you have interest or knowledge in. and while you are at planned parenthood, get a real birth control maybe? they have any kind you might want for free.

[Cream Soda]

For the record.. don't go to your girl after you read this thread and say "So how about abortion?". That's her decision whether or not it stays, not yours, and certainly not random interweb strangers.

Doesn't mean he can't add his opinion to it.

[BerenTebogo]

This gets stated in every pregnancy thread, but it bears repeating:

If you are having vaginal intercourse without any form of legitimate birth control you are ACTIVELY trying to conceive a child. No fucking exceptions.

Fuck people are fucking dumb.

[Eaglestrike]

So in the spirit of Juno. Anyone know much about adoption and what options are down that route?

[kuronosan]

Get a lawyer. There are unlimited options for adoptions.

GTFO with that lol shit, Sath, not everyone makes stupid mistakes with the intention of being stupid.

[BerenTebogo]

Get a lawyer. There are unlimited options for adoptions.

GTFO with that lol shit, Sath, not everyone makes stupid mistakes with the intention of being stupid.

Unintended stupidity is really stupid.

Also, lol.

[Kaylia]

This gets stated in every pregnancy thread, but it bears repeating:

If you are having vaginal intercourse without any form of legitimate birth control you are ACTIVELY trying to conceive a child. No fucking exceptions.

Fuck people are fucking dumb.

You make it sound like having a child is always a bad thing. It can be a good opportunity to mature and move on with your life.

[Vandole]

but sath is right. you're fucking stupid for not having birth control if you are having sex and dont want kids.

KST's post is essentially what i was going to post, why do that to someone if you can't even support them? who wants to give kids(possibly) less than what their parents gave them? either adoption or abortion is the proper course of action for you. Kids can't have kids, and nomatter what your age is.. given your circumstances and lack of maturity, imo you shouldnt be allowed to keep the kid even if she does have it.

how can we as a society expect you to properly raise a child if you can't even put on a fucking condom? do the right thing and don't become another sad statistic.
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[Eaglestrike]

You make it sound like having a child is always a bad thing. It can be a good opportunity to mature and move on with your life.

This was pretty much my immediate reaction.