Opinions on a lady situation

[Byrthnoth]

I'd like to be all "OP just wanted to be friends, and bitch went crazy!" except that the OP clearly didn't want to be friends. It's some serious self-punishing faggery to spend 1:1 time hanging out with someone that you don't like being around, especially if you know she has attachment issues and likely likes you. Still, I can understand the dick-wetting motivation.

It's probably too late to avoid her wrecking at least some of your circle of friends (and related women), who will doubtlessly (and correctly) see what you did as leading her on and ditching. There are two ways to go from here:
1) You break it off, ditch, etc. Depending how crazy she is, you can make the judgment call about whether hitting that first will make the pseudo-relationship breakup any worse.
2) If you can somehow get yourself friend-zone'd, you're free to hope she lets you float out of her life. I don't know a sure-fire way to get yourself friend-zone'd though, so you're on your own for that. Start treating her like a guy rather than a chick maybe? Certainly no more kissing, shouldn't have done that anyway.

[Denchi]

As far as me leading her on, I certainly don't know if I've explained the situation well enough. When we were talking about our relationship, she was actually concerned about leading ME on. I said really, no problem. And to this day I have no delusions of grandeur. I'm treating her like a friend because we are friends. We kissed those two times and it was a mistake, for sure. I'm not macking on her anymore, we sit on different couches while watching movies, I'm keeping my distance. I don't pay for anything for her. Does all of this mean that she's not attached? No, not really. But I certainly don't think I'm maliciously leading her on. Although, I do understand the danger that comes with me continuing to hang out with her, and I should be fixing it.

And although we don't have any chemistry, she sometimes can be very nice and fun to be around. She's helped me shop, she's made me food, baked things that I like, we play games, etc. It's not all bad, and I wouldn't say I'm being a masochist when I hang out with her. It's just not the type of relationship I would want to take further, and as I'm finding out how nuts she is about probably not me, but guys in general, I've gotta do something about it.

It's just some of the shit she says, throws me off. I was talking about Arizona and how I miss it, and how I'm going there in a few weeks for a wedding. She texts me the next day "Hey, the next time you go to Arizona I want to come with." These are the things that irk me. "Dear lady, no, we don't have that type of relationship, that type of shit is reserved for girlfriends, which you're not."

[isladar]

Yeah, except you don't say that shit, and ACT on it. You may not be 'leading her on' in the sense you mean it, but you are in the sense that I mean it, insofar as your actions, or in this case lack of actions, are directly contributing to her perception of the situation, and you've done nothing whatsoever to combat that, because you are a pussy bitch.

[Cream Soda]

Isladar is on a roll with her Vegeta like details.

"I'm going to crush you like a grape in the palm of my hand"

"pussy bitch"

gotta add the extra descriptions to get the full picture of the message.

[Valisk]

As far as me leading her on, I certainly don't know if I've explained the situation well enough. When we were talking about our relationship, she was actually concerned about leading ME on. I said really, no problem.

And here I thought reverse psychology only worked on children. You can't seriously be that thick can you?

[Siniroth]

There is pretty much not a single universe in any dimension of existence where this would be a correct statement. Enjoy your future stalker, lol.

Hey now.
There's at least ONE.

Edit: Isladar, please come beat sense into all my friends who QQ about relationships and stuff they fuck up, srsly.

[Cleverness]

Honestly why did you hang out with her? You mention wanting to get your dick wet yet keep repeating you had no interest in her and didn't seem to make any effort on the dick wet part. Then you don't want to be mean, but you string a girl along, letting her in your house(there is no "inviting herself in", unless you gave her a key you let her in, if you're too much of a bitch to say no that's on you) and even doing little kisses and such. She may be crazy and clingy but if you haven't been upfront about your intentions you're just as wrong as she is. Ignoring her calls doesn't mean much, I've missed calls from girls I was dating, doesn't mean I was ignoring them. Maybe I was busy at work/school, or taking a shit, etc. It'll prolly be messy after this but you kinda escalated the situation by dragging it on. Just do what needs to be done personally and get it over with.

[zoobernut]

What issues? Her actions are perfectly fucking logical given the OPs. Oh wow, this guy seems really cool, we're hanging out a lot, going to movies, hey, we kissed! CLEARLY HE IS INTERESTED, BECAUSE HE'S GIVEN ME NO FUCKING INDICATION BY HIS ACTIONS THAT HE IS IN FACT, NOT INTERESTED IN ME AT ALL.

This girl may well be crazy, but that doesn't mean anything in the face of the OP being a fucking liar.

[edit] As per Valisk's "Woman are super emotional creatures by nature", that's cute, sweetheart. Looks to me as if the OP is being far more of a teenage girl than this chick is.

Most truthful post in this thread. Isla knows best.

[Darkdreamer]

1 for you OP

[Wakabo]

Get her a kitchen. Bitches love kitchen.

[kuronosan]

Izzy continues to speak the truth. Denchi, you can't just say you don't think you're leading her on when your actions blatantly show otherwise.

Seems like you actually feel something for her because you take her shopping and do other things with her (helps you shop, really?).

You're using her, and you either are okay with this or are ignorant to it.

Stop making excuses and like Izzy says, quit being a pussy bitch.

[SaviorSelf]

Altwight would be the expert on this subject. Send her a smiley face at 4 a.m.

[Heavencloud]

3 pages and still no pics? She better not be fugly and you're just tryin to play it off like she's good looking, although it would make this thread that much more entertaining...

[Talus]

The "friend date" thing tends to be bullshit. I'll tell you a story.

I have a former co-worker I consider myself friends with, and even though we only worked at this place together for 20 months in college, we stayed in touch after I put in my two weeks notice and went on you know, living my life. Every now and then we would call each other and catch up, ended up getting dinner a few times, going to baseball/hockey games on occasion, and somewhere in the middle of all of this she broke up with her long-term boyfriend.

At that point, I didn't want her to think of me as a surrogate boyfriend and thought it should be clear what our boundaries were - so we would have "friend dates" still but it was usually in a group setting - we still share some mutual friends through work, etc., and whenever we meet up now we're never one-on-one. So it can be done, but I'm not in the least bit romantically interested or attracted to this girl. I'm not saying she isn't attractive, she's just not my type. I'm pretty sure I'm not her type, either, but I guess what I'm trying to say is in any situation where there's supposedly a friendship or something more between two people, it's important to communicate and have boundaries, because you avoid hurt feelings later that way, when usually it ends up where one of the people wants more out of it than the other person does.

[quannum]

What is with all the topics about grown ass men that can't act like a damn man.

this video should be mandatory viewing for them

[Kasrus]

I had a similar situation with a chick back when I was in HS, and still admittedly a nice guy (bitch). I wanted to be a good guy, and not hurt her feelings.. huge fucking mistake. This chick would follow me around after every class (we weren't even in the same grade, I was a sophomore and she was a freshman). At lunch, she'd come to my table, insert herself into my circle of friends, etc. Everywhere I looked, there she was. Don't do that pussy shit of 'trying to ignore her,' 'lay low or under the radar.' It-doesn't-work.

There's nothing wrong with being a 'nice guy.' But you need to draw the line when it comes to some people, typically clingy, potentially psycho bitches.

Do yourself a fucking favor bro, man up, tell her off. Be clear, be serious, be direct, and do it to her face. Yeah, there may be some sorta backlash, but once you're rid off her you'll be so glad you did. I know I was.

[Ksandra]

"friend dates" are only allowed if one of them is gay. Otherwise, shit is bound to happen.

[oldoldman]

You seem to be lining up a prime fuck buddy, I fail to see the problem. Also pics.

[Darkdreamer]

this video should be mandatory viewing for them

As funny as that video is, there's a lot of truth to it.

[foopy]

You seem to be lining up a prime fuck buddy, I fail to see the problem. Also pics.

this is exactly what i concluded after reading the OP and all the replies by the OP.

i fail to see the problem. i think you are overplaying her psychobitch issue.

just tell her you aren't looking for a relationship. repeatedly.

then bang her. repeatedly.

also, pics.