Walking in

[altwight]

if she's 21 im assumign you're 21 or older. but what the guy said about if you walk in act like nothing happened things will go back to normal. if you don't go over anymore your relationship will slowly crumble as the mother will continue to despise you which will lead to other problems.

[Slapper]

Tell the mother that u love that chick (even if you dont) and all will be fine

[Guitarman]

Tell the mother that u love that chick (even if you dont) and all will be fine

your name is a comically simple solution to his problem.

[Djghost454]

your name is a comically simple solution to his problem.

Fucking lulz, and ding ding ding! we have a winnar!

[Slapper]

your name is a comically simple solution to his problem.

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[Venga]

Think the worst thing you can do is not see the girl, if the mother happens to be there then just act exactly how you did before and just enjoy the awkwardness. If she brings it up try and high five her, That'll break the tension.

[Olo401]

Well technically to be fair it's not her mother's house either. The stepfather pays the rent. Nobody else was home at the time.

You're in the clear.. a highly religious woman that's remarried isn't really as religious as you might think (unless the first husband died).

[Tekoa]

Yea don't shoot yourself in the foot. If your close to "matrimonial suicide" last thing you want is a new mother in law whos spends most of her time trying to sabotage your marriage.

This quite a few times over. If the mom is a religious zealot, there is really no sense in trying to reason with the beast. Pro tip: whatever you end up doing though, make sure you talk to your girl about it first.

[Despain]

So ... long story short - girl and I were getting busy today at her house and her mom walks in after we finish. Now I feel extremely awkward because her mother said something like "I trusted you" and it's making me feel extremely uncomfortable going over her house.

I want to be supportive of my girlfriend, as I'm pretty close to proposing to her, but I also don't want to be bothered by her mother about "nailing her daughter".

Am I in the ethical right here? Do I really need to explain myself at this point to her mother or justify the fact that I'm with her daughter (pro-tip, her mom's a church-goer who doesn't believe in premarital relations)?

I guess I'm angry because I want to be able to just walk in and act like nothing really happened instead of being lectured about it. Her mother wasn't even supposed to be home and just let herself in. We're both adults. This is our choice. Shouldn't that be the end of it?

No. No pics.

Real talk, YOU'RE making this awkward. Whenever you and her mom are alone, if that ever happens, just talk to her about it. Or fuck, just call her mom. If you're thinking about marrying her daughter anyway, you're going to need to have developed a good relationship with her, or at least I would hope so.

Trust me, talking about it will do wonders.

Dumb people making sex complicated, etc. Who gives two shits.

[shaddix]

Is it strange that I'm fine with my girl's mom hating me? I don't understand why everyone is so eager to please a girl's mother.

[Ratatapa]

Because your GF might end up looking like or acting like the mom later? So if you can't or the mom can't like you the future Daughter might end up like that?

[Ratatapa]

Also to quote my last post. A comedian in french said something once that it's better said in french, so in english it won't be funny so just take it litteraly

You know Tina I loved you so much and I wanna pass the rest of my days with you.
But after seeing your mother, I saw what you will look like in the future
So see you later i'm not interested anymore

[Woozie]

Go back to her house like normal. Her mother will lecture you, and you need to pretend you're actually listening. Be very humble and apologetic (but don't say anything like "It will never happen again". Hope that she doesn't ask, but if she does ask about future sex, don't lie). After that, if possible, try to be on her good side and be very respectful (as I'm sure you already are). If she's going to hate you no matter what, then be respectful, but don't make too much of an effort to impress her or anything.

My girlfriend's parents have a strict rule against dating black people, so there's absolutely nothing I can do to get on their good side. I wish I could, because that would make things a LOT easier on her (though the fact that they hate me and things they do don't bother me personally. The only reason I car is because it bothers her a lot).

[Qalbert]

The world is ending in may and for the last 5 months we have been doing our best to make you a grandmother, even if it's only for the final few days. Actually since life starts at conception you'll be a grandmother for a few months.

[Ratatapa]

But yeah honestly getting on the good side is the best thing to do

When I met my GF she just ended a relationship with a guy that made her pregnant and she had to get an abortion (she wasn't ready)

So of course the dad wasn't really happy to see me.

But I worked hard to show them I was a good guy, I took his kids to school since their school is near my house (saves him 30min per day) When he goes away I'm taking care of his house and dog with his daughter (yes she is 22).

And this christmas I've been invited to his familly (My GF is in China until Jan 14) so He seem's to have changed his mind.

But yeah show her your a good boy and all will go well

[Enkidu]

Depends on what the mom all saw. Did she see you banging or just you both laying in bed afterwards? Can you get away with playing dumb and acting like it was just oral sex? If so just lie, lie, lie - as long as your girlfriend is okay with it. Whether or not that works, go to her mom and make a big deal out of how you're "reevaluating" your relationship with her daughter and how you want to be a better person, etc... Mention that you want to propose.

My wifes twin sister had a similar issue. Thought she was preggers so she went to her mom, who is extremely religious, and played it off exactly like that... Her mom thinks they were just dry humping or some stupid shit like that, ignorance is bliss. The guy got a lot of grief over it for a few weeks then it was all better and they went on to get married. Deep down the parents know they were banging, but it's just easier to think they weren't.

[jimbo]

lock the friggin door next time

[kuronosan]

To answer your questions we've been together for almost 3 years and her mother and I have a good relationship. She's remarried (and far from zealous, although I'm sure like my father she pretends to hold the high ground) and she came in while I was pretty much on top of her daughter.

She wants me to be the one to marry her daughter, she really likes me and enjoys having me around (I spend a good deal of time over there), and it's not like she screamed at me. I think she just has this old school impression of what her daughter was and wasn't doing and as most of you said... imagining your daughter is getting busy is not the same thing as seeing it.

For myself, I think at this point most of it is just worry that I'm going to be a 29-year old man being lectured about having sex with his future intended. It's my business, yea? It's her daughter's choice. From what I remember she already yelled at my girlfriend, telling her it's a bad example for her younger sisters (who are never even home when we do anything, and 9/10 times we're at my house when we do).

Last night I just went over and acted like nothing happened and watched a movie with my girlfriend in her room. I guess after I left she ended up talking with her mom, who acted out about it.

There isn't really a danger in me disrespecting her mother as I never have done it even when I disagree with her.

Also, my girlfriend acts nothing like her and, like me, is not a practicing Christian. Church, to us, is more of a tradition and less of a necessity. We don't even plan on taking our kids to church.

I think her mother is just obsessed with raising the two remaining girls as innocent pure women and is completely ignorant to reality. That's just how I feel about it. My girlfriend's the one who's been doing most of the raising lately.

There's plenty of other factors I could get into but that should give you enough of an idea for the situation I am in. I don't feel awkward because I feel awkward. The embarrassment has already subsided and my girlfriend and I are already laughing about the fact that we were walked in on. The awkwardness comes from feeling like I can't touch my girlfriend without her mom coming in and being like "don't touch her like this" or "you guys better not be doing anything". Hell, I even feel like kissing her will get some kind of look or reaction.

lock the friggin door next time

Yea, usually we do. This time I think we were just destined to let her mom know that my girlfriend is in love with the size of my dick.

[Kerberoz]

She's probably pissed that she didn't get to see anything. Next time, let her walk in on you two using one of these:



and she'll completely forget about this incident.

[aduidarnenye]

I think the rule of thumb should be don't have sex anyplace that you've personally not paid for, whether that be your own house, your own car, your own hotel room, or your own movie tickets. Anyplace else is just asking for trouble.

The mother was probably very shocked to learn that her daughter has had sex. The best way to handle it is to never have sex there ever again and to completely ignore the topic unless the mother brings it up. If she does, say you'll won't have sex at her house anymore. Just say that too, don't go on and on about why it is your choice and none of her business cause that'll just cause more fighting.