I Have An Unhealthy Fascination With My Extracted Wisdom Teeth

[Colenzo]

my feelings

[Qalbert]

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[Colenzo]

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[Day]

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[Colenzo]

hahahaha

[Ivve]

basically, i think "personal space" only covers so much, and tbh snooping is really only ever justifiable at all in a long-term committed relationship. if you have reason to have suspicions about a partner cheating, overspending, lying about substance abuse, or doing something else that could be potentially harmful to one or both of you, then confrontation is the first step. you have a right to know about debt, infidelity, illegal activity, etc. that's a given, no question. everyone has the right to really know the person they're with, because you want to be given the chance to judge whether or not that person is someone you really want to stay with.

after that, if their explanation doesn't make sense to you or their story doesn't add up, tell them so and then snoop. snoop your fucking dick off. if you find something, it depends on exactly what it is that you've found that determines how long you pretend you don't know shit. if you're concerned about overspending and you find a few receipts for frivolous purchases, but it's not really a significant amount of money and shit is paid off, then that's something you just file away for the future. people are usually gonna deny they have a problem, so it helps to have some shit you can whip out to support your opinion. i think you have a problem with spending, and i think this $300 bill for underwear is an indicator. if you find $15,000 of unpaid credit card debt that they've intentionally been hiding for months, barely making minimum payments, you slam that motherfucker immediately.

i think the only time the "severity of offense" thing doesn't apply is in instances of substance abuse. if you find a couple of empty beer bottles at the bottom of the trash and your partner is a true blue alcoholic that has a sponsor and shit, you gotta bring that up immediately. there can't be any compromise for that shit.

if you find nothing, you should probably take a good look at yourself. did you do all of the confrontation, were you up front about thinking they were full of shit, or did you just go directly to snooping? why don't you trust them? etc. at that point, maybe you should be evaluating whether or not the relationship should continue if the trust is broken to that degree.

[Day]

basically, i think "personal space" only covers so much, and tbh snooping is really only ever justifiable at all in a long-term committed relationship. if you have reason to have suspicions about a partner cheating, overspending, lying about substance abuse, or doing something else that could be potentially harmful to one or both of you, then confrontation is the first step. you have a right to know about debt, infidelity, illegal activity, etc. that's a given, no question. everyone has the right to really know the person they're with, because you want to be given the chance to judge whether or not that person is someone you really want to stay with.

after that, if their explanation doesn't make sense to you or their story doesn't add up, tell them so and then snoop. snoop your fucking dick off. if you find something, it depends on exactly what it is that you've found that determines how long you pretend you don't know shit. if you're concerned about overspending and you find a few receipts for frivolous purchases, but it's not really a significant amount of money and shit is paid off, then that's something you just file away for the future. people are usually gonna deny they have a problem, so it helps to have some shit you can whip out to support your opinion. i think you have a problem with spending, and i think this $300 bill for underwear is an indicator. if you find $15,000 of unpaid credit card debt that they've intentionally been hiding for months, barely making minimum payments, you slam that motherfucker immediately.

i think the only time the "severity of offense" thing doesn't apply is in instances of substance abuse. if you find a couple of empty beer bottles at the bottom of the trash and your partner is a true blue alcoholic that has a sponsor and shit, you gotta bring that up immediately. there can't be any compromise for that shit.

if you find nothing, you should probably take a good look at yourself. did you do all of the confrontation, were you up front about thinking they were full of shit, or did you just go directly to snooping? why don't you trust them? etc. at that point, maybe you should be evaluating whether or not the relationship should continue if the trust is broken to that degree.

I can agree with all of this.

For the record the snooping is not unfounded, what was found was regarding infidelity and only confirmed suspicion. However there's not enough evidence to completely drop the hammer without getting a long ass line of lies and drama. The ability to continue to snoop is still there, so that's going to happen until beyond a shadow of the doubt evidence surfaces. This is reasonable behavior... correct?

[Ivve]

is this you or someone else?

[Day]

It's me but the role playing was fun.

[Ivve]

you have 2 options if infidelity is confirmed.

[Ivve]

1. revenge fuck.
2. utter mind fuck.

[Ivve]

don't let anyone tell you to take the high road. that is not nearly as gratifying as one or both of those options in play.

[Day]

Theres def. some lying going down, and people talking to people that they have no business talking to, continued denial when confronted, however I have no proof of actual physical cheating at this point.

Hard to pretend you know nothing though. Makes me want to rage constantly.

[Day]

don't let anyone tell you to take the high road. that is not nearly as gratifying as one or both of those options in play.

Option 1 is pretty straight forward and I don't know if you were offering or what, but lets do it anyways.

How would option 2 play out in your uncompromising mind?

[Ivve]

Theres def. some lying going down, and people talking to people that they have no business talking to, continued denial when confronted, however I have no proof of actual physical cheating at this point.

Hard to pretend you know nothing though. Makes me want to rage constantly.

shit will eat you up from the inside out. i don't suggest you bother to continue the relationship. she's never gonna come clean about it, and you can't trust someone shady like that. take some kind of violent exercise class.

[Ivve]

option one has to be done right, day. you have to fuck someone she knows. someone she's close to. someone who makes her a little insecure about herself.

[Ivve]

option two, you just set it up to look like option one has happened.

[Ivve]

and then you do something to the effect of attaching her lying cheating scumbag bullshit to the last piece of evidence she'll see

[Ivve]

in a way that makes it clear you knew she was looking, and you know she's a lying cheating scumbag.

[Ivve]

and then be like, how did that feel, bitch? by the way, i broke something you really liked. laters