How To Get Out Of Love

**Milkster** · 2011-02-20 19:38

So here's the problem I'm in a situation where I'm in love with a guy that's pretty much unavailable to me.

The backstory: So I go to this conference a few weeks ago, and I meet him there. It was as soon as I saw him, I lost all my breath, went kind of numb and sweaty and had this sharp pain in my stomach. Long story short; love at first sight pretty much. So we pretty much hang out all night and are flirting hardcore, until he gets a call from his girlfriend. After that phone call it was like being with a brickwall. Oh by the way at this point I'm completely wasted, which makes me a little "friendly". We go to dinner, at this point he whispers that he likes me a lot but can't do that his girlfriend, which lead to an emotional (liquor induced) breakdown in the middle of an unknown city. For the past few weeks he's been all I think about, I wake up in the middle of the night sweating from dreams about him. Honestly at this point it's become unhealthy, I've lost weight, get no sleep anymore, school and social life have taken a nose dive. He goes to school 10 hours away from me and I know he's in a relationship but his friends said it wasn't too serious.

So my question is to you BG if you have ever been in this situation or similar, what did you do or how did you handle it. I was planning on writing out letters and sending them to him just for some type of response or closure, because this is shitty.

Yes, yes I know how pathetic and cliche it sounds but it happened and now I kind of want it to unhappen.

**Odon** · 2011-02-20 19:41

Stick your dick in a blender then turn it on. I promise you won't give a fuck about him after that.

**Odon** · 2011-02-20 19:42

Or you could cut your dick off and mail it to him Vincent Van Gogh style with a letter like "I figured I should just mail you this, as I've fallen so madly in love with you I could never ever possibly be with someone else this proves that."

**Vandole** · 2011-02-20 19:54

cut his dick off then put it on your mantle. you won't want no man with no dick.

**ZarakiKujata** · 2011-02-20 20:08

http://images2.memegenerator.net/Ima...Name=KJWthumbs

**Milkster** · 2011-02-20 20:08

While those are valid options looking for something not down the line of mutilating someone's body.

**ZarakiKujata** · 2011-02-20 20:10

Honestly let it run its course, you'll get over her eventually and probably be super skinny and pull a new man~

**Celestialstrife** · 2011-02-20 20:13

Pretty much what Zaraki said, It's hard but sometimes letting go would be the best thing. Just try to do stuff that keeps you busy so you don't have a lot of free time to think and stress yourself out. I've been in that situation myself and It's hard I know for sure, but hang in there

**EternityEnd** · 2011-02-20 20:20

Obligatory poidh for the eyecandy thread.

Really though, nothing we say will help you deal with this. You pretty much have two options, them being: Ask him how serious his relationship with his girlfriend is, and if he'd rather be with you, or man up and stop dwelling on him. Seriously, being gay, I would have thought you would be more accustomed to infatuations not working out too well.

If you choose to stop dwelling, make sure you put that into effect after posting pics in the eyecandy thread, though.

**Titanss** · 2011-02-20 20:23

you got serious problems op

pic unrelated:

http://i57.photobucket.com/albums/g2...8191582362.jpg

**ZarakiKujata** · 2011-02-20 20:23

Originally Posted by Titanss

you got serious problems op

OH THE DELICIOUS IRONING

**Talint** · 2011-02-20 20:23

Call him out on his bullshit.

I've dealt with too many guys who think it's all fun to act and flirt with gay people until it come time to the actual faggotry part.

**Milkster** · 2011-02-20 20:24

Originally Posted by EternityEnd

Obligatory poidh for the eyecandy thread.

Really though, nothing we say will help you deal with this. You pretty much have two options, them being: Ask him how serious his relationship with his girlfriend is, and if he'd rather be with you, or man up and stop dwelling on him. Seriously, being gay, I would have thought you would be more accustomed to infatuations not working out too well.

If you choose to stop dwelling, make sure you put that into effect after posting pics in the eyecandy thread, though.

Yeah I'm used to infatuations ending badly (i.e. My summer fling last year...) but this is different just the emotions I felt and want to feel with this guy... weird I know. With every other guy it was most physical and do I mean physical. I can already tell you that he kind of won't fit most of the criteria for the eyecandy thread, but I find him absolutely gorgeous.

**Enedin** · 2011-02-20 20:26

The problem with these kinds of things is something that all people do, all the time, but they're not aware of it: confuse the perception of something with the actual thing.

I've had a case like this for a good 4 years, pretty much throughout my whole FFXI career. It was kinda painful, but FFXI cheered me up every time. After long and deep talks with my online best friend, I slowly (took me a few months) came to the conclusion that this girl was pretty much like any other, and that she actually was NOT interesting. I just made her interesting in my mind.

I was in love with the perfect girl - but there is no perfect. I just thought of her as someone she wasn't, and that's what you're doing here as well. Don't try to get closure, you'll just feel even more in doubt/lost/confused after getting a response. Maybe not at first, but you'll start over-analyzing everything and you'll end up wanting to write him again.

You need to outsmarten your mind. You're not in love with this guy. Your mind just made this guy into something amazing. Stop giving your mind all the power. Your mind will choose for you if you don't, and that's what happened here. Now it's your time to choose.

Choose to think what you want. Choose your thoughts - it's more possible than you think. Think what you want. And right now, you should be thinking: "there's nothing too special about this guy - my mind just wanted me to love somebody. But instead of choosing someone, it decided to create a fictional character around this guy, and I'm believing all those things."

Be realistic here, and stop giving your brain control over your body. YOU are your body AND your brain, not the other way around.

**Atreides** · 2011-02-20 20:27

is there a chance you're only into this guy because deep down, you know that ultimately you can't have him?

**Zoolander** · 2011-02-20 20:30

Amen to that Enedin, I've done it before and its tough as hell to convince myself that she wasn't all that great even though all rational thought tells you she wasn't even close to perfect. Shit I'm setting myself up for heartache again (shes too young, too beautiful, and 2 hours away) and theres no stopping me lol. Fascinating thing about love I suppose.

Good luck, wish there was an easy solution.

**Milkster** · 2011-02-20 20:35

Originally Posted by Atreides

is there a chance you're only into this guy because deep down, you know that ultimately you can't have him?

If so it's a very small possibility. Maybe...

**Kerberoz** · 2011-02-20 20:36

Rape him

**Jeryhn** · 2011-02-20 20:40

I recall something about bitches and putting them on pedestals.

Same logic applies here. Just because its a pretty face (and I assume a pretty whatever else) doesn't mean you need to start acting retarded over it. Get paid, and if you get some ass too, cool. If not, deal.

**Titanss** · 2011-02-20 20:41

Originally Posted by ZarakiKujata

OH THE DELICIOUS IRONING

smd geek?

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