Girlfriend problems...

[Drex]

all men want is beer, college/NFL football, chicken wings, sex, video games, SOME GOD DAMN SILENCE DURING FOOTBALL!

its really that simple, mystery unlocked, 10billion internets won.

you probably should move on, it seems like that situation has drama all over it and you're only six months in. She sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too etc.

fuck silence, i want her on the couch next to me cheering louder than i am

[Anton]

http://rlv.zcache.com/i_got_99_probl...31trlf_400.jpg

[Yabby]

as far as asking on BG goes, i don't think there's anything wrong with wanting the opinions of people that are uninvolved in the situation. it's less messy than asking friends that might know both of you. no need to insult someone for looking for advice.

and, 'a forum full of virgins and nerds' ... if you're on here you're probably a nerd too! so a nerd posting a question to other nerds will get an answer appropriate for nerds, right?

Read please, it wasn't that he was coming to bg for advice, but more that he needed it in this situation.

[Seanr]

nigga lol

[Rementoire]

Kill her, her suitor and yourself.

[Heavencloud]

all men want is beer, college/NFL football, chicken wings, sex, video games, SOME GOD DAMN SILENCE DURING FOOTBALL!

Too specific on the sport/alcohol choices, but somewhat true.

[Khamsin]

While it's almost certain the relationship is doomed at this point, and you should let her go, you can't make it easy on her. If you just say "Well, sounds like you love someone else, go get him, tiger" then you'll just be validating her own feelings that she should be with someone else. You'll also be reinforcing that kind of behavior, which is bad enough, let alone also making yourself look like a pansy that deserved to be left.

What you should do is be angry, tell her how you feel and fight for her. Be a man, and tell her it's him or you. If she still leaves you, at least she'll feel like shit and it won't be easy on her. If she decides to stay with you, make sure she's told the other guy she can't be around him anymore and burned some bridges. Then dump her. That way, it'll be awkward for her to try to go back to the other guy, because from his perspective she'll have chosen you and then only gone to him because you dumped her which won't make him feel good at all.

Alternatively, if she really did choose to stay with you and burn her bridges with the other guy, then don't dump her if you feel she's serious and actually committed enough that she won't do it again. Sometimes they like to see a little jealousy, to know you care and to feel desirable. But at that point, only you can gauge the relationship at that point.

Either way, don't simply go "Well, I love you so I'm going to set you free to follow your heart" because then you're just coming off as an uncaring, wimpy, and emotionless doormat. Put her in her place, maybe that's all she's after. Women don't like short leashes, super jealous and controlling boyfriends, but they do like to know there are limits and that you possess the ability to rein them in if needed.

[chikalin]

Either way, don't simply go "Well, I love you so I'm going to set you free to follow your heart" because then you're just coming off as an uncaring, wimpy, and emotionless doormat. Put her in her place, maybe that's all she's after. Women don't like short leashes, super jealous and controlling boyfriends, but they do like to know there are limits and that you possess the ability to rein them in if needed.

this is actually very true, especially if a girl is insecure. she may be looking for reassurance that you love her/are willing to fight for her. it's nice to know that your boyfriend gets a little jealous when someone else likes you - although i don't know about going as far as to say you have feelings for the guy, too.

[Kuya]

I'm half tempted to go up to the school and dislocate his jaw with my fist

Why would you even be half tempted to do that lol?

[Yabby]

While it's almost certain the relationship is doomed at this point, and you should let her go, you can't make it easy on her. If you just say "Well, sounds like you love someone else, go get him, tiger" then you'll just be validating her own feelings that she should be with someone else. You'll also be reinforcing that kind of behavior, which is bad enough, let alone also making yourself look like a pansy that deserved to be left.

What you should do is be angry, tell her how you feel and fight for her. Be a man, and tell her it's him or you. If she still leaves you, at least she'll feel like shit and it won't be easy on her. If she decides to stay with you, make sure she's told the other guy she can't be around him anymore and burned some bridges. Then dump her. That way, it'll be awkward for her to try to go back to the other guy, because from his perspective she'll have chosen you and then only gone to him because you dumped her which won't make him feel good at all.

Alternatively, if she really did choose to stay with you and burn her bridges with the other guy, then don't dump her if you feel she's serious and actually committed enough that she won't do it again. Sometimes they like to see a little jealousy, to know you care and to feel desirable. But at that point, only you can gauge the relationship at that point.

Either way, don't simply go "Well, I love you so I'm going to set you free to follow your heart" because then you're just coming off as an uncaring, wimpy, and emotionless doormat. Put her in her place, maybe that's all she's after. Women don't like short leashes, super jealous and controlling boyfriends, but they do like to know there are limits and that you possess the ability to rein them in if needed.

It's time to mind fuck this bitch

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_kVBIKsx0Zq...00/p_diddy.jpg

[warc]

Buy her a ps3 to get her affection and you'll live happily ever after.

[Syntex]

I gave her 2 weeks, she has till then to make up her mind but honestly from the looks of how it went she will probably choose him.

You don't go into this convo pointing out flaws in the relationship especially when some of them you are working on or already discussed about working on them and bring them up like its something new.

Ironically,(or maybe not because its popular) this was playing on the radio on the way back, brought a smile to my face and made me feel better...

Spoiler: show

[aurik]

What a pussy. You should tell her to hit the road.

[Pikarya]

Plenty of pussy in the ocean, you're young.

[isladar]

There's no time table that's going to work in this situation. You just gave her two weeks to do whatever the fuck she feels like, which --ding ding ding-- she was going to do all along. You can't dictate others' behavior, and all you've managed to do is avoid the situation. Because the situation isn't her indecision, it's whether or not you feel like putting up with this.

[Kuya]

Oh well, assuming she hasn't been cheating on you, at least she basically let you know she's into someone else before she left ya (or cheated on you).

[Ragnell]

Auntie, I would love to subscribe to your newsletter


This nigga still not getting it, fucking 2 weeks LOL

[Conrad]

I gave her 2 weeks

http://media.giantbomb.com/uploads/0...mage_super.jpg

[Ragnell]

That's banned in china skirk

[Cleverness]

"Hey you have 2 weeks to figure out if you want to be with me". Seriously does that sound smart to you. 6 months in if she's already developing feelings for someone else and in hysterics over it, as Jeryhn said, she is either fucking him or wanting to. Friend of mine had a similar situation, they tried working on it for a few months, in the end it ended in a divorce but he's better off now. Telling her to think about it for 2 weeks isn't showing you care for her.