Convincing Someone to get an Abortion

**Rocl** · 2011-07-12 10:36

oh god a pregnant grad student? kill that kid and quick like

**Tyche** · 2011-07-12 10:37

Originally Posted by tyven

white. just finished her first semester in grad school. She teaches and tutors just to get by. idk about her sibling situation. My roomie is an only child but one of this big close black families where cousins are referred to as brothers and sisters and shit.

I tried to explain that there is no way she is finishing grad school and he just tells me she will finish. I AM LIKE COME ON BRO.

That's a bit shocking that she'd be willing to have a baby in the middle of grad school. Even if she does have the baby, it'll put quite the damper on the start of her career. I dunno bro, I've had the abortion talk twice, and both times, abortion was the obvious choice, yet it didn't go down. My sister got knocked up by a married black guy who has a history of domestic violence and drug trafficking, she had the baby. The things I said to my wife to try and convince her were things that no one should ever say, and I'm shocked she didn't dive into depression after the talk I gave her. If she's even remotely intelligent, I can't see why she cannot piece together that having a child through grad school is not a great idea. Is she some religious crone? Rational thought seems to have abandoned her, which happens when women get knocked up.

**BadKarma** · 2011-07-12 10:39

**Kuya** · 2011-07-12 10:39

A grad student with a kid? Yea right. She's gonna drop grad school.

**Dimmauk** · 2011-07-12 10:40

There is no way to convince someone to get an abortion without sounding like an asshole. Is this a trap pregnancy by him or her? She sounds like she has more going for her than he does.

**Tyche** · 2011-07-12 10:41

If there's any consolation to you Tyv, the difficulty of child rearing and the expenses are vastly overrated. Going through school (at least as a male) isn't that difficult, and they aren't very expensive to maintain. The heaviest expenses are child care if they cannot get a sitter, and college prep. If they open a 529 and contribute regularly, and they have a family member than can sit, it isn't too bad. I wouldn't tell him any of this though.

**tyven** · 2011-07-12 10:44

Originally Posted by Dimmauk

There is no way to convince someone to get an abortion without sounding like an asshole. Is this a trap pregnancy by him or her? She sounds like she has more going for her than he does.

This is a trap on her part. She has a screw loose for sure. I am not at all surprised that she would drop grad school to try and hold on to him. the situation is just so fucking weird. and the fact that she insane and he is a big dumb idiot with a heart of gold just makes it harder. If this were two rational people it would work. The more I talk about it with all of you the more it just seems like a losing battle.

**solanis** · 2011-07-12 10:45

Originally Posted by Tyche

That's a bit shocking that she'd be willing to have a baby in the middle of grad school. Even if she does have the baby, it'll put quite the damper on the start of her career. I dunno bro, I've had the abortion talk twice, and both times, abortion was the obvious choice, yet it didn't go down. My sister got knocked up by a married black guy who has a history of domestic violence and drug trafficking, she had the baby. The things I said to my wife to try and convince her were things that no one should ever say, and I'm shocked she didn't dive into depression after the talk I gave her. If she's even remotely intelligent, I can't see why she cannot piece together that having a child through grad school is not a great idea. Is she some religious crone? Rational thought seems to have abandoned her, which happens when women get knocked up.

people think THEY'RE the exception, THEY won't become a statistic, etc. plus hormones kick in and it becomes a total shitfest. what makes you think it's a trap tyven, like, what makes him worth trapping? and why do you think she's crazy, other than that she wants to have this kid?

**Headspace** · 2011-07-12 10:52

Not JerBear!!

**Melena** · 2011-07-12 10:55

Drag his punk ass to Toys R Us or Target or someshit, take him to the toy Aisle, turn on all the toys that make the noise and tell him if he keeps the kid, you are buying him all these toys, and the kid will be up early to play with them. That should scare him into submission.

**Byrd** · 2011-07-12 10:58

Originally Posted by tyven

white. just finished her first semester in grad school. I tried to explain that there is no way she is finishing grad school and he just tells me she will finish. I AM LIKE COME ON BRO.

Oh good, the baby already comes with student loan debt. Normally, you have to wait 18 years for that.

Best of luck; I've never met a woman who got knocked up and initially wanted to keep the baby that ever changed her mind. They usually know immediately what they want to do; sometimes they are torn between abortion and adoption, but rarely abortion vs. keeping it. On the plus side, if you manage to talk her out of it (because his opinion is of a far distant second import), you may have a gift in convincing people not to make stupid decisions.

In the guise of genuinely trying to be helpful in this post, do you know any of her friends that you could enlist to help out in the cause of trying to convince her that she's being foolish? They might have a better chance of talking her down than anyone else.

**tyven** · 2011-07-12 10:59

Originally Posted by solanis

people think THEY'RE the exception, THEY won't become a statistic, etc. plus hormones kick in and it becomes a total shitfest. what makes you think it's a trap tyven, like, what makes him worth trapping? and why do you think she's crazy, other than that she wants to have this kid?

This insane love she has for him. She can't go like 10 minutes without talking about how much she loves him on fb. Its weird and creepy. I see no other positives about trapping him other than the fact that she is obsessed. He doesn't have money or even a cool ass career that would allow them to travel and shit. I cannot wrap my head around why they want to keep this thing.

Originally Posted by Headspace

Not JerBear!!

Originally Posted by Melena

Drag his punk ass to Toys R Us or Target or someshit, take him to the toy Aisle, turn on all the toys that make the noise and tell him if he keeps the kid, you are buying him all these toys, and the kid will be up early to play with them. That should scare him into submission.

I think I will do this. He will just make a joke about how he likes all the toys though. When I say this is not a normal level headed man, I mean it.

**ronin sparthos** · 2011-07-12 11:01

Sounds like you know you lost this argument already. Ready the coping mechanisms.

**Rocl** · 2011-07-12 11:02

don't give up.

**AidenCarby** · 2011-07-12 11:03

Only logical way to go about this is to push her down the stairs. God Speed Tyven

**Headspace** · 2011-07-12 11:04

Originally Posted by tyven

I think I will do this. He will just make a joke about how he likes all the toys though. When I say this is not a normal level headed man, I mean it.

Fuck it man, buy the toys, wake your ass up early for 2 weeks and play with that shit

**Headspace** · 2011-07-12 11:05

It's really a win win

**Zetanio** · 2011-07-12 11:08

Gator's bitches better be usin' jimmies!

**bigrougabagel** · 2011-07-12 11:30

Wait, having a kid and finishing grad school? Well maybe if grad school = barber college. Or maybe she can go part time and get her weave master degree.

**Cream Soda** · 2011-07-12 11:34

Dress in purple metal and with a mask and say "I am Magneto, master of magnet, HA HA HA" and punch her in the stomach

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