Old Girlfriend Suddenly Wants to hang out... Thoughts?

[Francisco]

Background: Like 5 years ago, I dated this girl. We were good friends for a while before hand.

She had a really shitty ex, who she still kinda had feelings for in a "I don't hate you" type of way... he played the whole "if you don't come back to me, I'm gonna kill myself" card. She fell for it, and we ended our dating relationship.

I really liked her a lot - but I wasn't going to lower myself to his type of bullshit. I basically called him "a douche bag for playing on her emotions" like that... but saw little recourse other than to move on, as much as it sucked.

She ended up moving, he pulled some sleazy shit, she told him to go to hell... and so on...

We stayed friends - but not really close, and rarely saw each other anymore - and didn't see each other at all once she moved. We stayed in touch on facebook and stuff though, just not always.

Fast forward a few years - and she suddenly wants to setup a date (tomorrow) to have breakfast, "go do something", and see my apartment. Like... out of the fucking blue.

She's back living in the area. I'm receptive to the whole idea - but not sure if this is more of a whole "let's hang out" deal, or a "let's start dating again" deal...

Approaching it as a "let's hang out" for now - but I do tend to get overly optimistic about this shit.

Also - I already know to whip it out. Not gonna stick it in her pooper though.

[JigglyJam]

stick it in her ass anyway

[Kaisha]

he played the whole "if you don't come back to me, I'm gonna kill myself" card. She fell for it, and we ended our dating relationship.

Do you really want to date a woman who already chose another person over you for something that stupid?


I don't believe in second chances with regards to relationships.

[mallister]

run.

[Salodin]

If you want a fuck buddy, by all means. But you know as well as all of us that she is no wifey material. As long as you keep that in the back of your mind, knock yourself out dude.

[Mertron]

bitches be crazy

[Xno Kappa]

The bitch chose some suicidal fag over you from the get go. This is a no brainer, stick it up her ass then tell her to go fuck herself to finish.

[Colenzo]

rape her and then turn yourself in

[Mertron]

who the fuck is spagetiii

[AidenCarby]

Marry her

[Mazmaz]

bitches be crazy

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[Mayareira]

a. she got dumped/rejected, needs some confidence boost (like a guy still waiting for her).

b. women ego. she is just checking if you'd still kneel for her signal.

either way, this is very common. chances are high that once she learns that you are still there for her (bam, instant ego boost) she'll withdraw. And you'll hit your head on the wall.

Tell her to fuck off. next from ex? no no. women like to keep some guys on the bench "just in case", call it a substitute. man the hell up and say "no". clearly. without any "ummm lets hang out for now". "hmmm ok maybe's".

[Xno Kappa]

Gotta say, the man above speaks truth.

[Gekii]

fuck buddy

^winner, chicken dinner

[Jonny]

why the fuck do you guys always post what i want to say!

leave me some fun!

[Shenrien]

Give her AIDs, then when she finds out, tell her that's how it felt when she broke up/cheater/whatever did to you.

[Richybear]

Say you'll kill yourself twice if she screws you around

[Anoat]

Go for it if she wants a fuck buddy, if not, then peace out.

[Reuniont]

Go for it if she wants a fuck buddy, if not, then peace out.

This.

And don't even consider paying for her meal.

[mallister]

what maya said. it's one thing if shit happens, and you stay cool and you hook up again down the road. but don't be the fall-back guy. it's a pit from which there is no escape, other than to tell that junkie bitch to hit the road. don't let her sap/pity story you, either.