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[Xajii]

Archi are you just trying to be a dick? I knew you were annoying from NFL threads, but jesus fucking christ you come off as the most ignorant motherfucker here... then again, you did work on Jeff Dunham's show, so what do I know.

Couple things.

One: Fibro is real, and working is not an option for Eagle's GF. If you think that's grounds to dump someone in your life then fine - I can accept that. It does certainly make things more difficult. My sister has fibro and thankfully can still work, but spends thousands of dollars regularly for medication, treatments, and consultations just to stay above water. A hearty "fuck you" to Archi and anyone who tries to say this isn't real. Don't talk about what you don't know.

Two: Just getting a better job is not that fucking easy. Have you not paid attention to the news, the internet, the world around you for the last two goddamn years? I live in the same area as Eagle and I have an even shittier job than he does. It's dead out here, and it ain't much better elsewhere. And as he said, he has no degree and not that impressive of previous work experience.

Now my advice, Matt, is this.

You're currently trying to take care of the lives of two people, neither of whom are in financially stable or even generally stable situations. I don't know what the deal is with her family, but you're making things doubly hard on yourself by trying to take care of her at the same time. This is not feasible, and down the road, simply not possible. You don't have to break up with her, but you need to get YOUR shit in line before you can even begin thinking about helping her. I know you love her and that her situation sucks but you need to get her to go back home for a while or something because that's just a whole other bag of worms.

Save up and get out. I can't help you with housing or work but there are some relatively cheap places around here. If you need a body to help you move I can at least do that.

Try and develop a closer relationship with your dad and see what he can do for you. You need some support here and it seems like he's the only viable option right now.

Shit sucks, I dunno.

[hey]

Pretty sure you misunderstood archi. He wasn't saying it's bullshit, just that it's easy for ignorant retards to think it is. Which is true.

[Xajii]

He's still saying that fibro makes her an invalid and that she should be dumped, and also that Eagle should just oh go find a better job, it's not that hard.

edit: Sorry I went off like that on you archi I just was ready to misinterpret you from other stuff you said. People not believing in fibro hits close to home and really pisses me off. I won't edit anything I said out because it's kind of funny anyway

[shepardG]

Pretty sure you misunderstood archi. He wasn't saying it's bullshit, just that it's easy for ignorant retards to think it is. Which is true.

I wasn't saying it WASN'T real, i just said it sounded like bullshit. I think Bi-polar disorder is bullshit too, but people alot smarter than I, have scientifically proven that it does indeed occur.
I had a feeling someone would take it personally, but yeah sounds like it fucking sucks, doesn't make it sound any less like bullshit.

It's interesting to know that alot of folks diagnosed with it have found resolution in the form of physilogical changes, and overall healthier living. AKA, fuck pain, power through it, and eventually the pain get's dulled because it dosen't control the individual anymore. Honestly though, sitting in a basement, being unproductive, eating Pizza hut (I worked at a pizza hut, that shit is definetly not a good diet) isn't going to make your disablity any better, and most often will make it worse.

But on the subject of the thread, yeah dude, you need to get out of there, among other things you sound like your over 21, it's time bro. I'm not saying break up with the FG, but definetly work her towards doing anything that helps out. if she's not even willing to fight the disease, then i would consider parting ways.

[archibaldcrane]

lol bro, don't get mad

i'm not saying it's not real, just that it sounds made up.

I'm quite literally trying to give the OP the best advice possible. He needs to get out of that situation, and he needs to stop trying to support his invalid gf on Pizza Hut wages in a place with a high cost of living. Hell, you basically gave him the same advice I did. I'm not advocating he quit his shitty pizza hut job until he has something else lined up, but OP literally sounds like he's waiting to become a pizza hut GM (no sure thing by any means) and waiting for his parents to die so he can get their money. He needs to be proactive and make shit happen, not ride it out and ask BG for advice that he's not going to take.

I don't even dislike Eaglestrike, we used to bro it up on the KI boards way back in the day. If I hated the guy I wouldn't waste my time giving advice. But yeah, I'm going to take some potshots so he stops with the "but I love her" crap with his invalid GF.

Love isn't all that matters, bro.

[hey]

and eventually the pain get's dulled because it dosen't control the individual anymore.

My experience has been that it eventually dulls because you just get so used to being in pain 24/7, that it becomes normal, and expected. Honestly, it's been so long, that i have no recollection of what it's like to not be in pain. I literally can't even imagine it.

[shepardG]

Love isn't all that matters, bro.

Last i heard it was a second hand emotion, what does it have to do with it anyway?

"My experience has been that it eventually dulls because you just get so used to being in pain 24/7, that it becomes normal, and expected. Honestly, it's been so long, that i have no recollection of what it's like to not be in pain. I literally can't even imagine it."

yar, that's what i'm saying, you can function right? like working at a call center or something though right?

[hey]

yar, that's what i'm saying, you can function right? like working at a call center or something though right?

I can, yes. But it's never been that bad for me.

[Dimmauk]

Archie suffers from Comeatmebromyalgia.

[archibaldcrane]

It's a chronic baller disease.

[Eaglestrike]

Not really the point. You can always start out small at a community college. Take an assessment, get placed in math, then take that class, and take your English class. That's all you need to do to get started and that's half-time in one semester. Again, you don't necessarily have to shoot for a degree either - look up to see if your local institution has technical options - auto shop or electrical for instance.



Physically incapable of what kind of work, exactly? Standing up for six hours a day flipping burgers I can understand. What about answering phones, filing paperwork or data entry? You're not going to tell me she can't be on a computer at all, are you? A good start for her could be, besides the school thing (which accommodates for disabilities), would be to look at one of the local employment agencies to see if they can set her up with something that can accommodate her disability.



Your boss is shady as shit if you were on the job and got into a car accident and your boss told you not to claim with the company. You're also operating under the assumption that you'll become a GM after two years of work but that's entirely contingent upon whether or not your boss (who is your GM) quits or gets fired from his job in the first place, which could take ten for all you know.

Better to keep your options open. Work on the fatass thing, bookmark Craigslist job and housing pages and make them your friend for the next few weeks.

She has crazy brain fog at times. She could do a job, possibly even 40 hours a week, but it would need to be something she could do on her own time. She is normally fine a lot of the time, but occasionally she just feels bad and cannot do anything. And this is a major issue, if she could find a work at home with work your own hours position, she could and would do it, but lol at just finding that job.

There are all sorts of additional things going on with why she needs help, but I just want to say that I do not need to take her in anytime soon. Her best friend has no problems supporting her, I would just like to if possible.

Thing about the GM thing is that if I am considered an unsafe driver they can take me off the road. The accident was my fault so not claiming it is in my best interests, I do not see how I would win compensation without losing my job.

Also, I do not need to wait for my GM to retire to become a GM, just for a position to be open, and there are 9 PHs owned by my franchise in my area, and at least 3 have iffy GM situations. And my boss is also interested in his bosses job, so if he gets it, I can more easily become a GM, my GM likes me.

Off to dinner or I would explain more. Also, Archi you are a total dick but I do understand your point, I have just always been someone more focused on love/honor/etc. So dropping a girl is out of the question for me, just leaving her at her friend until I can support her.

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[archibaldcrane]

You're a thief, not a paladin. Act like one.

[Jefe]

Jesus Christ, a cheain' wife doesn't sound so bad now. Need to move the fuck out... Man but your gf, if you love her you need to man up. You're gonna be like the soldier carrying a wounded soldier through the trenches, good luck.

[Byrd]

Take it easy hey, fibro does sound like bullshit, it manifests in so many different ways, has no treatments that work across the board, has an undetermined cause, its sufferers don't have outward symptoms, and it isn't fully understood.

You've just described Lyme Disease pretty accurately, too, by the way. I have an ex who had fibromyalgia, and now has Lyme Disease. Not saying those diseases aren't real and don't cause real problems, but they lend themselves perfectly to hypochondriacs, as they're largely undiagnosable and largely untreatable. One of the biggest problems she has is that she has problems finding a doctor to take her seriously.

[archibaldcrane]

Yeah, Lupus too. Autoimmune disorders suck.

Lyme disease is something that they can test for, and is treated by an antibiotic though isn't it? It's just hard to diagnose at first.

[archibaldcrane]

Wait, she had fibro but got rid of it?

[Ddz]

Have you considered getting a degree while figuring shit out? Would help with the $$ situation.

[D44kpunk]

I personally think your only option is to acquire large amounts of money by becoming a professional gamer

[vagus]

4 pages and no picture requests.

Again i love the BG crowd, giving straight up answers when love is blinding the truth.

[zoobernut]

Yeah, Lupus too. Autoimmune disorders suck.

Lyme disease is something that they can test for, and is treated by an antibiotic though isn't it? It's just hard to diagnose at first.

Going along the list of shitty things that are vague, untreatable, and largely misdiagnosed, I would add Narcolepsy and Irritable bowl syndrome.

Edit: Lymes disease is caused by a parasite so once you do diagnose it there is a treatment to get rid of it fortunately, it just can have so many different random symptoms sometimes it is hard to diagnose.