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[Toxictaru]

You came here for advice, you received it, and you don't like it. You're getting called out, and every time you ignore whats being said and post more bullshit victim responses. "BUT BUT BUT SHE SAID THIS!!! QQQQQQQQQ"

Guy, it doesn't matter what she has SAID to you, her ACTIONS are what are important, and her actions are making it incredibly clear she doesn't want you there. Instead, you're sitting there like a little kid, sticking your fingers in your ears and screaming "LALALALA!!! I CAN'T HEAR YOU!" and thinking that it somehow changes things.

We're not making assumptions here, we're grown fucking adults who, some of who have children too. Some people have no choice but to live at home (for example, my brother was recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, just like you've mentioned, and he lost his job because of a lack of attendance. My mom had to take him back in for a couple of months while he starts his treatments and gets a new job), but you're doing it because its a free (or cheap) fucking ride. Now someone is taking away your meal ticket and life sucks. Hey, guess what? WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD! Shit isn't fair.

Dude, your girl is nearly 30! She won't support herself, and you think that its ok? We're all sitting here telling you the same thing, she is a leech. If we can see it, doesn't it stand to reason that your mother can too? I dunno about you, but I sure wouldn't want to have to (in)directly support someone who won't work, and I guarantee that is exactly the message your mother is trying to send. You want to be in this relationship, get out, and hell, even if you aren't, get the hell out anyway, you're a grown ass man.

But hey, you can keep sitting here and fucking whining and QQing like a 15 year old does on their LJ, or you can fucking man up and deal with it. Move out and move on. You've run out of sympathy here, we've all told you what to do. It is entirely up to you to do something about it. I guarantee you this, though: if you don't start acting your age, no one will ever take you seriously in this life. You don't need a lot of motivation (I'm the most unmotivated person I know, but I still work 60 hours a week and go to school full time), you just need a little. Life isn't free. YOU need to stop taking advantage of others.

Moving right along.

[Ksandra]

I brought this up to the op during the preggo thread about joining the military. yadda yadda welfare queen etc. etc. But I seriously see so many of his problems solved with it. You gave the excuse at the time if you guys kept the baby she wouldn't be able to take care of it when you were on duty, but that's no longer an excuse. You better be thinking about it.

[Eaglestrike]

You came here for advice, you received it, and you don't like it. You're getting called out, and every time you ignore whats being said and post more bullshit victim responses. "BUT BUT BUT SHE SAID THIS!!! QQQQQQQQQ"

Guy, it doesn't matter what she has SAID to you, her ACTIONS are what are important, and her actions are making it incredibly clear she doesn't want you there. Instead, you're sitting there like a little kid, sticking your fingers in your ears and screaming "LALALALA!!! I CAN'T HEAR YOU!" and thinking that it somehow changes things.

We're not making assumptions here, we're grown fucking adults who, some of who have children too. Some people have no choice but to live at home (for example, my brother was recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, just like you've mentioned, and he lost his job because of a lack of attendance. My mom had to take him back in for a couple of months while he starts his treatments and gets a new job), but you're doing it because its a free (or cheap) fucking ride. Now someone is taking away your meal ticket and life sucks. Hey, guess what? WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD! Shit isn't fair.

Dude, your girl is nearly 30! She won't support herself, and you think that its ok? We're all sitting here telling you the same thing, she is a leech. If we can see it, doesn't it stand to reason that your mother can too? I dunno about you, but I sure wouldn't want to have to (in)directly support someone who won't work, and I guarantee that is exactly the message your mother is trying to send. You want to be in this relationship, get out, and hell, even if you aren't, get the hell out anyway, you're a grown ass man.

But hey, you can keep sitting here and fucking whining and QQing like a 15 year old does on their LJ, or you can fucking man up and deal with it. Move out and move on. You've run out of sympathy here, we've all told you what to do. It is entirely up to you to do something about it. I guarantee you this, though: if you don't start acting your age, no one will ever take you seriously in this life. You don't need a lot of motivation (I'm the most unmotivated person I know, but I still work 60 hours a week and go to school full time), you just need a little. Life isn't free. YOU need to stop taking advantage of others.

Moving right along.

I was fully listening and accepting the responses and criticisms from the first 100+ replies, not until yours did I start getting "combative", I wonder if there's a reason. And Archi was being more of a dick than you but I still didn't respond like I have with you.

[Greatguardian]

I was fully listening and accepting the responses and criticisms from the first 100+ replies, not until yours did I start getting "combative", I wonder if there's a reason. And Archi was being more of a dick than you but I still didn't respond like I have with you.

He is basically saying what the rest of us have said with a bit more oomph, though. I've completely avoided the mother issue because it's not something I have firsthand experience with, but it all pretty much boils down to the same thing: Where you're at isn't healthy. A swift kick in the ass is one of the quickest ways to solve the problem, really.

A few other posters may have been nicer about it, but it all boils down to you needing to move out to a place on your own, get a better/additional job, and stop trying to support someone else when you can't even support yourself. You cannot support yourself, let alone a partner, and she cannot contribute to your relationship as an equal. That's 3 strikes. You need to make a clean break and stand on your own two feet.

[BerenTebogo]

I'm surprised nobody has offered up murder / suicide as a suggestion. I mean fuck, it IS a LJ post.

[BerenTebogo]

And in case that was too ambiguous, if you're not willing to take the advice already given in this thread, my advice is probably the best option.

[Eaglestrike]

He is basically saying what the rest of us have said with a bit more oomph, though. I've completely avoided the mother issue because it's not something I have firsthand experience with, but it all pretty much boils down to the same thing: Where you're at isn't healthy. A swift kick in the ass is one of the quickest ways to solve the problem, really.

A few other posters may have been nicer about it, but it all boils down to you needing to move out to a place on your own, get a better/additional job, and stop trying to support someone else when you can't even support yourself. You cannot support yourself, let alone a partner, and she cannot contribute to your relationship as an equal. That's 3 strikes. You need to make a clean break and stand on your own two feet.

And all of those things are to be addressed in my plans.

[Qalbert]

Sounds like you don't want advice, you just want someone to agree with you.

[Toxictaru]

I was fully listening and accepting the responses and criticisms from the first 100+ replies, not until yours did I start getting "combative", I wonder if there's a reason. And Archi was being more of a dick than you but I still didn't respond like I have with you.

Because I've been the first person to tell it to you in a way that wasn't laced with sympathy or posted something that was humorous. You don't like people being direct with you, so when I did, I made you uncomfortable. Your desire to answer me back only made you more uncomfortable because you then HAD to address the things I mentioned. Your defense mechanisms kicked in and you got combative.

Also, look up deflection, because now you're trying to avoid your problems by calling me a jerk.

[Eaglestrike]

Because I've been the first person to tell it to you in a way that wasn't laced with sympathy or posted something that was humorous. You don't like people being direct with you, so when I did, I made you uncomfortable. Your desire to answer me back only made you more uncomfortable because you then HAD to address the things I mentioned. Your defense mechanisms kicked in and you got combative.

Also, look up deflection, because now you're trying to avoid your problems by calling me a jerk.

I don't mind direct, but I don't like it when people make statements based on assumptions and ignoring things that refute their point and just keep trying to ram away at it, lol.

@Qalbert - I already got what I am likely going to get out of the thread. I am happy to say I got a couple pages of rather good advice before senselessness took over.

[shepardG]

Do you still play WoW?

[Eaglestrike]

Do you still play WoW?

I turned it back on when my girlfriend was kicked out.

[shepardG]

you should turn it back off, start running, push ups and situps, and take a single core class either on line like english or math. Stop playing wow till you get your shit right, of hell do all of that and find a F2P online game. Set a 1 month, a 6 month, 1 year, snd a two year goal.
Raiding two to three times a night isnt doing anyone any favors

[Eaglestrike]

I don't raid, I just level alts when I feel like it.

[Eaglestrike]

So apparently the ex-boyfriend is back. He didn't take anything extra, he was just put on some new medication which reacted poorly with his "don't be insane" medication and caused him to go nuts.

[Dimmauk]

I'm surprised nobody has offered up murder / suicide as a suggestion. I mean fuck, it IS a LJ post.

1. Throw momma from the train.
2. Burn down house with all the other handicapped you know.
3. Move to Columbia and change your name to Carlos.