Relationship and Sex Advice

[Milkster]

So, it seems I have a problem I don't know whether it's physical, mental or emotional but I can't seem to get aroused by my boyfriend anymore.

Backstory: We've been hooking up for a few months now and it was amazing. Great sex everywhere, anytime of day, etc. But about a month ago we decided to make it official and become mutually exclusive in a monogamous relationship, that's when it went bad. We haven't had sex since that day. I don't know what it is but as soon as I had "boyfriend" labeled on me, my dick went into hiding. I'm trying really hard to get Jr. into but I can't and I don't know why. He's a great guy and all but when it comes to sex, we've become drier than the Sahara.

I've found myself able to get it up for other people and also attracted to other people. I can still masturbate like no one's business when I'm alone. Even mutual masturbation (with him) does nothing for me

Dear BG, my question is what the fuck is wrong with me and possible ways to fix this problem. And has anyone else experienced this with a boyfriend/girlfriend or significant other?

[clobetasol]

Stop being a homosexual, that should solve your problem.

[Zetanio]

Honestly?

The dream is gone. Move on.

[Mazmaz]

Try doing a no fap challenge for like a month. I was in full on rape mode

[Ddz]

Seriously? I guess you're just not that into him? lol these threads are killing me.

[archibaldcrane]

You obviously don't want to be in a long-term committed sexually exclusive relationship - at least with this person, likely with anyone.

Don't try to force yourself (or god forbid anyone else) into that if it doesn't work for you - because it won't work for you. You and your bf each haven't had sex in a month? One or both of you are going to start cheating on the other, so enjoy your AIDS if you are ever able to get it up. Just continue with it being an open relationship - at least then you can properly communicate with each other.

[Tweek]

did you try lube?

[zoobernut]

Did you try an Uncomfortable Appointment?

[miokomioko]

You're probably just one of those people who gets off on the "thrill" of a uncommitted relationship. Makes me wonder why you ever decided on the exclusivity of your current situation.

Also, the honeymoon is over.

[ikariiiii]

no, i think this is related to those ED threads that have been popping up lately.

you said it yourself, you can jerk off to porn with no problems. stop jerking off to porn. you're basically training your dick to stand to attention only for that, so the real thing doesn't turn you on.

[BadKarma]

Stick it in his vagina....wait fuck.


Seriously, drink more water. Being hydrated makes it easier for me to get it up, sometimes I'm able to go 7-8 times in a row. Then again, being a 20 year old may have something to with that.

[hey]

no, i think this is related to those ED threads that have been popping up lately.

you said it yourself, you can jerk off to porn with no problems. stop jerking off to porn. you're basically training your dick to stand to attention only for that, so the real thing doesn't turn you on.

You mean the ED threads posted by spam bots?

[Julian]

Talk to him about it.

[ikariiiii]

no.

http://www.bluegartr.com/threads/108324-Porn-induced-ED

[Mizango]

Try doing a no fap challenge for like a month. I was in full on rape mode

Oh god.

[Colenzo]

maybe you're straight

[hey]

no.

http://www.bluegartr.com/threads/108324-Porn-induced-ED

So, you're really citing posts from spam bots?

[Milkster]

How exactly does one begin a conversation saying, I find you no longer sexually appealing?

[Eaglestrike]

You're stressing about it too much, just need to calm yourself down, it'll take some time, but eventually you'll get past it.

[Demosthenes11]

Don't masturbate for 3-4 days, see if you pop one for him after that.

If not, move on