The No Trolling Thread

[Titanss]

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[Arvin]

for the record i think everyone in spam is cool peoples

[Qalbert]

:3

[Blarg]

Since madness is almost over I thought I should let you guys know that I am Get Out. I thought you should know before they ban me, ban Get Out that is, which is my account that I made

[Sera]

well now that we know blarg is not Get Out

who else could it be

[Blarg]

this is the no trolling thread so it must be true, I wouldn't violate the sanctity of no trolling

[Rhyis.]

I found the whole thing rather Kafkaesque.

[Linliel]

Is it perfectly possible for someone to fall for another person 6-12 months or so after they got out of a really long term relationship?(6 years)

aka, am I wasting my time with this girl who legitimately seems to be interested in me?

Yep, it really depends on a bunch of stuff, but mostly the following:

* how the couple broke up and why
* whether the new person is someone they legitimately care about or if they're just filling a role (if they are mooning over or continually talking about the ex then that is probably a bad sign, also if they never talk about the ex its probably not great either, you want a healthy dose of self reflection but not clinginess)
* what sort of relationship the new person had with the person before the breakup
* mental state

Seriously though it can be fine. Just take it easy, don't jump into things too quick. If she's worth it like you say, be patient.

Having done the rebound thing to a guy years ago I can say you definitely know it's a rebound at the time, and then you feel like shit when you break it off after a couple of months and vow to never do it again. But then again, I'm probably more self reflective than many.

Tl;dr: yes it's possible. Keep an eye out for potential red flags though.

Good luck!

[Conrad]

I was a rebound once. Shit sucked

[Linliel]

Yeah, it does.

[Arvin]

Sound advice. It really helps that there is distance between us and we are busy. She also brought up not wanting to jump into it for my sake

[Linliel]

Ah so it's definitely her that was in the relationship. Yeah. It's a good sign that she's mentioned that she doesn't want to do the rebound thing and that you're both busy & have distance. The biggest thing is that "role filling" thing - if you're a rebound she'll probably know it deep inside her - things you'll do together will remind her of her ex, she'll wish it were her ex there, etc. If it's not a rebound thing, she'll be able to partition that off. It's all about how she sees you - whether it's a shoulder to cry on and someone to "fill the gap" or someone meaningful in their own right. If she's working on becoming an independent person in her own right, and not making any hasty decisions regarding your relationship, it's probably going to be fine In that case, be patient and give her some time to get her head around things

[Day]

give her time to get some things around your head too

[Linliel]

Sound advice.

[Arvin]

Thank you for the honest opinion! No trolling thread owns.

[Charismatic]

I really don't like the no trolling thread because I want to troll so bad but I like to follow the rules... sometimes :3

[Conrad]

Make a Trolling Thread then

[Howie Roary]

I hope this isn't the end of the no trolling thread, I like it

even though I have to second guess everything I write, since I'm generally using irony and sarcasm even if lighthearted

[Kiarax]

Being sarcastic or ironic isn't trolling.

[Day]

it has massive potential to turn into trolling but agreed