Random Fail: First World Problems

[Aragon of Odin]

I said neglecting AND fighting infront of him, not "by". Neglecting as as far as the kid has said he sleeps on the floor (I actually believe this but probably with a mattress, as Steve used to do that in college for some weird reason). Doesn't play with the kid or pay attention to him. More often than not, Steve just drops the kid off at his parents so he doesn't have to deal with him. Basically not being a parent.

He is still fed normally which is why I said mentally not physically. From what it sounds like, the kid seems to have no real like emotional attachment to either parent. Which really does suggest that they've (the parents) have been thinking about themselves this whole time rather than the kid.

I am not saying it's all Steve's fault btw, it's both of theirs. And naw, calling him isn't going to do anything. The thing that should have happened was them never getting married in the first place. If I felt this relationship could be saved I would call, but I haven't been friends with him for about 9 years now, and haven't even seen him in 7. Only reason I state I wanted punch him in the face and not her is because I was friends with him and never said anything. I was never friends with her and she is the reason I stopped being friends with him as she made it very clear she didn't want me to hang around him back in the day.

Honestly, it is good that the kid get into a stable household rather going back n' forth with the way the two are acting. My frustration is just that it came to this in the first place. And now it is affecting Sally too.

Sally's mom received a letter today stating she had to stay away from the grandson, so now she wants to move to another state. Sally has no other family in the area, nor does her husband (his has like one brother who lives in the midwest).

It's an all round bad situation, and I'm not trying to defend him here.

To me though, it just seems like a one sided story. Like who's making all these claims about the kid being neglected? Because if the mom or grandma aren't allowed around the kid, then how are they getting this information that he doesn't spend time with him, that he neglects him, that he just dumps him off with his parents etc... It just looks like they're just trying to paint a bad picture of him so you can sympathize with them.

My suggestion wasn't for you to call him to fix the relationship lol, it was more so to talk to him and get a better idea of what's actually going on. What he's done to the grandma is wrong, but odds are it's only to spite his ex and won't last too long. Sometimes a call from an old friend can go a long way though, he has no reason to be hostile with you, so maybe you can reach him.

[Ksandra]

To me though, it just seems like a one sided story. Like who's making all these claims about the kid being neglected? Because if the mom or grandma aren't allowed around the kid, then how are they getting this information that he doesn't spend time with him, that he neglects him, that he just dumps him off with his parents etc... It just looks like they're just trying to paint a bad picture of him so you can sympathize with them.

The kid has told these things to Sally. And trust me when I say Sally is not in it to defend her sister. As I said she even tried to get Steve to not date Megan. Don't get me wrong, Megan is nuts. I am not surprised at all he got full custody. She is on meds for her mental instability. Sally knows this. So I trust her to be mostly impartial. She even said Steve having custody is a good thing. Just frustrated that it had to come to this point in the first place.

I have also gotten this info from another mutual friend who's husband still hangs out with Steve. Again, none of my friends are friends with Megan. So she definitely wouldn't be siding with her.

I don't have (or want) any contact from Megan so I am not getting the story from her at all.

My suggestion wasn't for you to call him to fix the relationship lol, it was more so to talk to him and get a better idea of what's actually going on. What he's done to the grandma is wrong, but odds are it's only to spite his ex and won't last too long. Sometimes a call from an old friend can go a long way though, he has no reason to be hostile with you, so maybe you can reach him.

I doubt it. The mutual friend's husband has said he isn't "allowed" to talk about it when they hang out. Steve doesn't want to talk to anyone in regards to it. When he talks with friends it's to forget everything that's going on. I think that would be just weird idk. I really don't think it's my place at all to bust in. If anyone should do it it should be the friends he's still hanging out with, not some chick he knew for 4 years in college.

[Myrrh_Quetz]

jesus christ myrrh if my doctors pulled the kind of shit you deal with i'd yell at them and sic my dad on them. he taught many of their bosses. then, if going over their heads didn't work, i'd go elsewhere. that shit is not acceptable. they're not House, they don't get to just assume you're lying. you seriously need a better team.


edit: also, bed frames are expensive. I'M SURPRISED YOU DON'T KNOW THIS 'SANDY YOU MUST HAVE BROKEN SOME IN YOUR TIME HUEHUEHUEHUEHUEHUEHUEHUEHUE

That's the shitty thing. If I bitch them out I risk horribly offending them and then I get next to no care which has already happened to me before my transplant when I bitched out an old CF doctor I had. There is only the 1 Transplant Doctor and Nurse in the whole city. I can't even sue

[BaneTheBrawler]

bahamas or bermuda or whatever it was still seems like a fine plan to me. or maybe you could get a referral to Mayo? A flight down here from winnipeg (iirc) shouldn't be too much of a reach; Rochester is well-equipped for visitors. I wouldn't imagine you could make it a regular thing, but maybe if you've got world class doctors telling your pissant fuckwits they're wrong then you can get them to shape up. I'm not exaggerating when I say world-class either; Mayo literally has entire floors just for VIPs: arabic princes/kings, NBA stars, politically radioactive terrorists (shit you not- khalid sheikh muhammed was in our local prison so he could get treatment at Mayo). in addition to handling all the rest of us with equal care, though perhaps not as much personal attention. it's a big place. expensive though. how well does canada cover you on foreign soil? can always look into charities; that's what they're for, if you need them.

and there's gotta be someplace to file a complaint where they'll take you seriously, even if its not something you can take legal action on. i'll ask my dad what he suggests. he used to be a hospital administrator.

[Myrrh_Quetz]

Getting real sick of this shit. Doc calls today saying that the brain damage caused by my first Anti-rejection med is still there and thus causing this. Because of that, this could be permanent or come back at random times.

Getting really fucking tired of this constant bullshit.

[Libentina]

Husband asked me to post the story of why I hate Cox, after I facebooked it today....

So heres the dealio. Enjoy!:
We've been having months of problems with random disconnects where our whole internet will go down for about 15 seconds, or it will slow way way down to the point of DC'ing. Phoned Cox communications so many times to try and get the problem sorted....anyway...

Be August 2013
First they said, its your modem
bought a new modem
then they said its your router
buy new router
then they said its still your modem and router heres a cox one to be safe
then they said it was the wall fixture (where the cable from the router goes into the wall) and it was super old and crappy
had a guy come and replace it swearing blind it was gunna be fixed now
then they said it was the outside line from the house to the 'tap'
Installed giant orange cable from outside cupboard storage place on our 'balcony area'
said we'll brb to bury it (this is october)
then they said it was the 'hits and misses' and told us that only special equipment could pick it up that normal techs dont have only the specialist senior techs
Sent out two senior managers who said they can see a problem its interference, we'll have to 'watch it for a while'
then they buggered off and forgot about us
*still DCing or major lag/ping issues every night*
then the apartment company was like WTF is this massive orange wire from your apartment doing running outside looking all hideous and making our potential new neighbours shun us?
then we got a warning that we needed to remove the above ground cord
3 months later we get another warning about it because cox still havnt buried it
*still DC'ing all this time*
Cox guy arrives like 10 days ago
sat on floor in living room
Said "its your router/modem/wall fixture/oh actually i cant really see a problem so i wont be able to report anything other than the connection slowing down once in a while?!"
Jake phones Cox
*all this time never paying for cable because GDI DIX*
Husband screams at Cox
Be today
Cox guy comes to bury the wire or talk about it at least
Tell him ^above story
He looks baffled as per every reaction from every cox guy ever
Says he will look at wires
Says 'but these wires are only 3 years old, i fitted them myself, why they installin new ones?'
tell him other guy told us it was 'definitely the wire'
he says wires run up through the rest of the building and back down so why did they only do one?
Goes upstairs
comes back down
Says....so....we're going to have to replace them all
I said Why?!
Cox guy lifts up hand with partial wire chewed all over down to the single copper wire in the middle (talking about a foot of cable here)
and looks at me and says
Squirrels.

GDI! FUCK YOU SQUIRRELS!!!

Would also like to add at this point that last year we had squirrels dig their way through our ceiling (we live on the bottom floor of a 3 story apartment building so they were in a space roughly a foot tall-the size of our apartment) and managed to come right through to our dining room where they popped in to say hello! >=(
They also scared the living shit out of me, as husband was out of town for work and I was home alone.
The apartment people stuck a piece of fucking cardboard over the hole in the roof and left it for 10+days, till they 'had time' to come back to fix it! Was thinking, if the squirrel came through drywall ceiling....it could just piss on that cardboard and pop straight back in for a bit of a laugh really!
Anyway, many months of anger over squirrels FIGHTING in the roof and having what i can imagine was squirrel sex.....but some of them were crying after fighting.....and it was just fucking gross and disturbing.
So apparently they 'went away'
every now and then we hear a *scratch scratch*.....and we're just like.... >_>....Fucking squirrels are back!!!

Apartment people refuse (or cannot-*apparently*) poison them, which is cuntish, so looks like we're stuck with these little bastards!

But if this isnt the issue Im going to train 1000 squirrels and then go to the Cox communications building and let them loose to eat all of their wires so they can see how it feels. And I'll go back every night after they fix it and do it again and again and again. Then I will send them a letters saying that no one believes them and that its obviously their equipment and they should pay to replace it!

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[bluefan]

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[Silenka]

Funny, I had Cox Communications as an ISP for years and never had any problems with it. Sure it went down or hiccuped once in a while but every ISP does that. I think you guys are just internet-cursed or something.

[Delayed]

At the complex I live in they pro provide pest control as part of living there, they will come on Fridays as long as you request them...
I wonder if yours does the same and whether what they spray will deter or remove the squirrels from your area? Or just talk to them when they do come to see if they have anything to say over that problem.
That does kinda sounds messed up that the complex won't do anything about them since they are damaging the property?

[hey]

Funny, I had Cox Communications as an ISP for years and never had any problems with it. Sure it went down or hiccuped once in a while but every ISP does that.

Depends on what you mean once in a while. The last time my internet went down was during a hurricane in which i had no electricity for 14 days, and no internet for about a week and a half. It only took that long because my ISP also had no electricity, and they had our internet up almost right away when they did. Then before that...another hurricane the year before. The internet came back the second the electricity did. I think i've only had one other outage since like 2001, which was resolved quickly.

[Libentina]

I feel the same way, but Im more inclined to think its this apartment building thats cursed, but on the other hand cox were complete wankers when we were asking for some sort of compensation for being with dodgey interwebs that no one could find an issue with....like...really really wankers.
We did have a guy last night on the phone who was the forst person we have spoken to who didnt treat us like children and tried to talk to us about the issue and without any type of hesitation told us that we would have all charges waivered tilll the issue was sorted. Only bloke who husband hasnt screamed at after being told its 'our issue' or 'probably a modem/router prob.

I tell you what though, those squirrels can fuck off!
I think the BB gun is the perfect solution.....

[Libentina]

Yea its kind of a joke really, they said all they could do was come in and bang on the roof, to try and scare them off! Fairfax country apparently wont let them use traps or poisons etc, and as a resident we'll get kicked out if we do as I have threatened before. Its daft, but its them who have to pay for the damages. The worst part about it is, the shitty job they did of the patch up on the ceiling after. Its just white plaster now no coat of paint or anything....

[Silenka]

Depends on what you mean once in a while. The last time my internet went down was during a hurricane in which i had no electricity for 14 days, and no internet for about a week and a half. It only took that long because my ISP also had no electricity, and they had our internet up almost right away when they did. Then before that...another hurricane the year before. The internet came back the second the electricity did. I think i've only had one other outage since like 2001, which was resolved quickly.

You must be very lucky then. ISPs like comcast and time-warner that a good chunk of people are stuck using aren't exactly known for their amazing consistency when it comes to avoiding downtime. Cox wasn't any worse than what I'm forced to use now (due to lack of area options) and was usually quite a bit better, actually. But I suppose it depends on the area too. Some are bound to be worse than others due to various factors. Like squirrels. (not sure I'd blame the ISP for that).

[ringthree]

It is kinda Cox's fault when you tell them there are problems for months and they don't check all of the issues that could be involved. I can't count the number of times a tech has come out, checked the line, didn't see anything right then, and said it was our equipment.

[arus2001]

I can kind of sympathize with a cable guy not going thorough exam on an apartment complex, especially if nobody else has reported issues. Personally, the few times I've had one here to work on our net, I'd basically been a shadow asking questions and observing in case there's something I could personally employ in the future. It was this way I learned how to access my modem's diagnostics, as an example, and how to reset it that way instead of disconnecting everything or pushing a specific hidden button. Some of the guys were better than others with regard to what they'd check. Some only did DB scans and just walking along the lines in the house. Some changed connections outside and climbed up the pole. Probably just a matter of how bad their day has been going, really. And as a job that enters the homes of others, you can bet they probably get forced into some terrible conditions from time to time.

[Komm Suesser Tod]

I can kind of sympathize with a cable guy not going thorough exam on an apartment complex, especially if nobody else has reported issues. Personally, the few times I've had one here to work on our net, I'd basically been a shadow asking questions and observing in case there's something I could personally employ in the future. It was this way I learned how to access my modem's diagnostics, as an example, and how to reset it that way instead of disconnecting everything or pushing a specific hidden button. Some of the guys were better than others with regard to what they'd check. Some only did DB scans and just walking along the lines in the house. Some changed connections outside and climbed up the pole. Probably just a matter of how bad their day has been going, really. And as a job that enters the homes of others, you can bet they probably get forced into some terrible conditions from time to time.

I used to be a cable guy, and that last sentence is 10000% true. I saw people hit their kids, went into homes with so much filth you literally couldn't see the floor, got screamed at, threatened, chased and once had a guy tell me about he was a convicted child molester, but that it was ok, because he and the girl were going to get married.

[AidenCarby]

Buddy of mine broke the cardinal rule of not bringing home a stripper, and the bitch took his cat lol. Like, dudes wallet, money and credit cards were left in tact but the cat? Gone ahahahahahaha

[Ksandra]

Buddy of mine broke the cardinal rule of not bringing home a stripper, and the bitch took his cat lol. Like, dudes wallet, money and credit cards were left in tact but the cat? Gone ahahahahahaha

What the....

[edit] did he see her actually do it? Maybe she just opened the door for a smoke or some shit and the cat got out? wtf she gonna do with a cat?

[Airenn]

What the....

[edit] did he see her actually do it? Maybe she just opened the door for a smoke or some shit and the cat got out? wtf she gonna do with a cat?

Well, was she asian?

[Aksannyi]

A pussy for some pussy, sounds like.