Random Fail: First World Problems

[NynJa]

From the life lessons of "how to not get people to do you favors"

My co-worker asked me to come in early today because she has a family dinner. I didnt commit to it (because sunday nights already suck, adding on an extra 2.5 hours would suck even more), but I didnt rule out the possibility that I'd come in early, just not as early as she wants me to. Wake up today to find a subpost on facebook "Seriously so unimpressed, thanks for nothing", directed at me as the timing coincides perfectly with me saying "I might".

[Aksannyi]

This is something that stuck out to me in recent discussions with my elderly landlord and, in retrospective, stories my mother has told me as well.

I did not grow up in a religious household, so I never witnessed prayers before meals, but in general, I find the concept of thanking only god or higher powers for such things irritating. Instead of thanking, as you noted, the hospital's personnel or, say, the person who works the entire day to feed his family, why do people opt to thank god instead? I understand that some people might want to include "luck" or "divine intervention" in their thanks, more power if to them if that's what they want to do, but putting it as if god (or whichever higher power they believe to be at work) did the entire work and not mentioning the actual benefactors at all seems disrespectful to me.

That being said, it's good to hear that the boy is on his way to recovery. Praise to all who worked to save him (and to the boy for being a fighter).

Well the devout tend to believe that god's hands are in everything. Thus, god guided the doctors' hands. They don't believe that the doctors did anything unassisted. Really religious people believe that god is above all, you believe in/love him above all and he will take care of you. Seems ridiculous, but that's basically the gist of it.

[Restrat]

what would have happened if the baby died?

[Moss]

doctors were probably not Good Christians

[Anoat]

what would have happened if the baby died?

Something good happens: PRAISE GOD! GOD IS GOOD!
Something bad happens: IT'S ALL PART OF GOD'S PLAN!

Every time. There is no reasoning with this line of thought.

[Cantih]

Everyone else does everything, one dude does a little but gets all the credit.
Sounds like management.

[Aksannyi]

Didn't post this yesterday because I wasn't feeling that great, but I had to go out yesterday to get a few things and just as I'm getting in my truck, my upstairs neighbors' door opens, and out come my upstairs neighbor and some chick, butt-ass naked, who then proceed to fuck outside on the front patio right outside their door for a few seconds before going back inside.

Win for him, fail for me - bro I didn't need to see that lol.

[NynJa]

who then proceed to fuck outside on the front patio right outside their door for a few seconds before going back inside.

Two pump chump? Or idiots going "hey, lets make it exciting and bang outside and hope we dont get caught" realizing they've been caught before any banging happened?

[Aksannyi]

I think they just wanted to do it outside to say they did it so they fucked a few pumps then went back indoors, that's my take on it though.

[Qeomash]

Some Skype ad is majorly fucked up causing an ActiveX error about every 15 seconds, making it impossible to carry on a typed conversation without it eating half of my words every few seconds.

[Siccmade]

Out of town for the evening, thought I had found the prefect chance to finally get some solid playtime on the HD FFX... Failed to pack the controller.

[MaachaQ]

I just have to write all of this out, get it out of my system...

Spoiler: show

My brother is about 4 years older than me, and I have a sister who is about 2 years younger. Since moving to Korea 7 years ago, I had sent them birthday and Christmas gifts every year, but I will no longer be sending gifts to my brother because of the message he sent me after he received the package last year. This was back in June, so nearly a year ago, and he deleted me from his Facebook after.

The card game he is referring to is Cards Against Humanity, which I had thought he would like because he and I had always used to have a similar sense of humor. I don't think he ever opened it, so he had no idea what the game was actually about, he thought I was just insulting him.

The Christmas gifts he's referring to were Oglaf (which he called the gay asshumping book), Building Stories, Ready Player One, and this Gremlin toy for his son.

I had no idea he thought I was the favorite child, or that I had more toys than he did. I got My Little Ponies, he got a Commodore 64. I got Breyer Horses, he got an Atari. In high school, he got a car, I got a horse. I later got a truck during high school, to haul the horse trailer, but my brother also got another car (he either wrecked or had die several cars while we lived at home). He and I used to stay up late on Saturday nights to watch Doctor Who and Monty Python together. We also both used to get up early to watch Robotech. I honestly thought I was getting him good gifts, but I don't believe in all my years in Korea he sent me a single gift, Christmas or birthday, and I never complained (that I remember anyway).

I included the previous message from him to show how "hard" he tried to contact me about my parents computer problems. He never contacted me any other way other than Facebook, and there was nothing he could do with our basement server and I had told our parents this previously. Our sister got married 2 years ago (it is her 2nd marriage, not that it matters), and I had come back from Korea with my kids and husband to attend her wedding, but I had never known why my brother and sister-in-law did not show up.

Oh, and the first of these messages arrived on the day that I had lost a kitten to Parvo (a Munchkin I'd named Tyrion, I would later adopt his brother Bilbo), and had several others sick. I was in a shitty mood, and instead of seeing thanks for the birthday gifts, I got cunt-punched.

This month, my brother has moved back in with my parents because he and his wife are filing for divorce. He has apparently landed a job as a rural mail carrier, but he now needs our parents to help him buy another car so that he can drive his route (the PO does not provide cars for rural routes). I now fear for all of the items that I left behind at my parents house, which they had agreed to keep for me until we eventually move back to the US or have a big enough home in Korea to keep it all. We have a large collection of DVDs, books, LDs, and other assorted things that I fear my vindictive brother might start selling off under my parents noses. I also fear that I cannot even come home to visit my parents anymore, which I had planned to do later this summer.

TL;DR: My older brother was a dick to me, sold all the gifts I sent him and bitched about it while I was mourning a cat. He's now getting divorced and moving back in with our parents, and I think I will now need to cancel my plans to fly back for a visit. Did I mention that he'll be 40 years old this year? >.>

[Cream Soda]

TL;DR: My older brother was a dick to me, sold all the gifts I sent him and bitched about it while I was mourning a cat. He's now getting divorced and moving back in with our parents, and I think I will now need to cancel my plans to fly back for a visit. Did I mention that he'll be 40 years old this year? >.>

Nigga is poison. Better off just cutting your ties all together really

[BaneTheBrawler]

i agree, except the guy lives with their parents, so.... hard to cut ties with one and not the other.


i'd say go visit, bring all your shit back with you or put it into storage (or express your concerns to your parents), and while you're there just try to keep contact to a minimum. pretend he's a stranger you don't know; stick to polite nothings, don't rise to his bait.

[Cream Soda]

i agree, except the guy lives with their parents, so.... hard to cut ties with one and not the other.

Not at all, you just hit the nail on the head

and while you're there just try to keep contact to a minimum. pretend he's a stranger you don't know; stick to polite nothings, don't rise to his bait.

add that to no contact when not visiting and bam, winner

[shepardG]

Maachaq, don't NOT go see your parents cause him. lol.

Roll up in that house with the folks who gave birth to you and when you see him, FLAT OUT CALL HIM OUT. "Hey big bro, how's it going? Why were you such a gigantic ass to me in those messages? if you had things going on in your life (clearly he did) why would you take it out on family... you know... the people that will always be there when life keeps passing you lemons?" See how he responds. Litterly you have to be so matter of factly blunt that he's thrown off guard and he has no other option that honestly cause he's still stunned you were so up front about it.

my 2 cents.

[Abandon]

punch that nigga in the nose and roll out

[Cream Soda]

Throw a shovel at him

[Abandon]

bingo

[MaachaQ]

Thanks for the advice all, I really would still like to visit my parents sometime soon but if he's still staying there it's gonna be pretty awkward. I've never had an easy time confronting people, so I'll most likely just try to avoid him as much as possible during my time there. I've had no contact with him at all since those messages, I only know what's going on with his life because I get weekly updates from mom about everything back home. I mentioned my worries about my stuff to my parents, but haven't heard back from them yet. The amount we've got there would probably fill a small storage room, and unless I can somehow fit it into my luggage for the trip back it'd be pretty hard to get it all to Korea without paying out the ass for postage... especially the Laserdiscs which are just way too heavy... A long-term storage place is definitely something I will look into next time I head back, since there are definitely things that would be hard to replace should they somehow "go missing" during my brother's stay.

Before we moved to Korea we had planned to buy my parents house from them and my parents would then buy something smaller with fewer/no stairs and less lawn to care for. Of course, that plan changed because it was 2006/2007 and the economy in Michigan had already hit the shitter. Both my parents got laid off and my husband wasn't able to get any interviews at all for jobs even close to his field. I was the only person in the house working, and I did not want to impose on my parents any longer. We moved to Korea and my husband got a job, and with his parents help we got our own apartment so we weren't imposing on his family either. We're not in the best shape financially (our business is still struggling to earn back the cost of starting up), but I get constant reminders that we're still doing better than we would have had we stayed in the states, and definitely better than either of my siblings.