Random Fail: First World Problems

[Yuri-G]

having feelings for my best friend who is also like a brother to me and doesn't reciprocate and is also a huge source of support and he's dating someone now and I don't know how to let go and I also think I should just take some space for the moment because this whole thing is destructive but at the same time he's been really supportive about making time for me even though he's dating and most of what I feel for him is based in my own deep-seated feelings of inadequacy and the belief that I'll never find nor am I worthy of love so really it isn't about him at all even though it kinda is...

is that a first world problem? I think that's a first world problem.

sometimes I really just wish my brain and my heart would fucking communicate. idiots, the both of them.

[BaneTheBrawler]

sup

[Guitarman]

Have to fly to San antonio for two weeks on the 7th for training. Then back to town for two weeks, then back to San antonio for two more. Bleh. I hate business travel. Wish I knew someone out there.

[Tarage]

My fucking knee is fucked and it isn't healing.

When I was stupid and in college, I was walking to school one day and saw a guy pulled out not paying attention blocking the sidewalk. I thought, in my infinite wisdom, that I should just walk in front of his car and be all like "don't pull so far forward jackass people walk the sidewalks here." I ended up on the hood of his car. My brain then instantly decided "You dun fucked up dude" and I waved him on despite being in pain in my knee where he pushed into me. I took a math test, went home and took a pain-pill, and aside from some slight soreness when the weather is bad, it hasn't been an issue. Till now.

It feels unstable as all fuck. If I try to extend it all the way and lock my knee, it starts hurting. I've been sort of shuffle walking for over a week now and it isn't getting better. I even have trouble pushing in the parking break. Now, I'm sure quite a number of you are itching to say "Go see a fucking doctor you fuck", but I've been unemployed for over a year and am living off my parent's money till my lease is up. I have 'insurance' but I sincerely doubt it is good enough to not cost me an arm and a leg if I do have something seriously wrong that requires an operation, and my folks take a wait and see approach to everything.

So yeah, knee is fucked, isn't getting better, fml. I think the damaged part is the little tendon that extends down from the kneecap because it seems a little but unstable, but I am just taking a stab in the dark at diagnosing something that I shouldn't be trying to diagnose.

[Guitarman]

You can't get obamacare? i had that when i was unemployed and everything was 100% paid for. hospital included.

[Tarage]

I mean I have health insurance, and it's not 'horrible' for basic doctor visits, but beyond that it gets expensive fast.

[Astylla]

That shit sucks I'm really sorry. I broke my foot in 2006 and while I'm super lucky I can even walk now, I definitely have arthritis issues from it. I've noticed as I've gotten into my late 30s shit gets much worse. If you have any chance to get it looked at by a specialist might be worth it. I know how lucky I am to have the coverage I do and with all my issues I'd be easily 60k just in medical debt. Sometimes you can find decent doctors willing to work with you.

[Tarage]

The biggest problem is the "not my money" problem. I'm literally broke.

[Astylla]

The biggest problem is the "not my money" problem. I'm literally broke.

Fuck I missed that part sorry man. When I broke my foot I had zero insurance working 3 restaurant jobs. Only reason I got care was because my boyfriends doctor was good enough to see me. I went through two leg casts he barely charged me for and he arranged to borrow a bone stimulator to help heal my fracture. Typically that machine runs a few hundred bucks a day. He took care of me though at next to nothing cost because my boyfriend at the time was a long time patient.

Can you ask for help with this since it's actually affecting your daily life? I know it's not easy to do but I know how bad shit can get.

[Tarage]

Fuck I missed that part sorry man. When I broke my foot I had zero insurance working 3 restaurant jobs. Only reason I got care was because my boyfriends doctor was good enough to see me. I went through two leg casts he barely charged me for and he arranged to borrow a bone stimulator to help heal my fracture. Typically that machine runs a few hundred bucks a day. He took care of me though at next to nothing cost because my boyfriend at the time was a long time patient.

Can you ask for help with this since it's actually affecting your daily life? I know it's not easy to do but I know how bad shit can get.

Considering they are already helping me finish my lease... I don't want to ask too much. They do care about me and would do anything for me, so I don't want to strain them financially any more than I have to. I keep hoping it's gonna fix itself but I'm worried it is just going to get worse.

[Salodin]

Dude... possibly a little less money now or possibly walking in pain for the rest of your life? Which do you think you'll regret less?

[Cream Soda]

My cousin just spammed my doorbell at 2-3 rings/second for over a minute long. (and returned to do the same in 10 minute intervals) My uncle left for a work trip today and he said I'm in charge while he's gone. That said, she's not welcome here. Can ring the doorbell all you want, but I'm not going to let you in.

You don't live here. The person you come to visit isn't here. Go away. This isn't a hangout spot for her and her bf lol.

[Aksannyi]

Why don't you call the police and issue a trespass warning?

[Cream Soda]

Disconnected the doorbell. Easier/took less time lol. I don't answer it anyways. Anyone coming over for me calls/texts or facebooks me first.

[NynJa]

Looking at available jobs, and I'm pretty much targeting junior positions because I dont really have the experience in the field. I found a job opening for a junior position, I look up the requirements and see this:

4+ years Networking experience
3+ Years Directly Related Experience Cisco switching and Routing

How is four years of work experience anything at all "junior"?

[Anoat]

Throw your resume/app out there. I've generally found that those "xxx years of experience" requirements on job listings are total BS as long as you are certified (or have appropriate level degree, depending on what you are going for) and can ace the interview.

[NynJa]

I've applied regardless, but its just ridiculous that they'll put that down as a requirement for a low level position.

[BaneTheBrawler]

It will also typically cost more in the long run when you don't treat it early.

this. there's a medical "point of no return" with most ailments where, up to that point, you can just kinda ignore/deal with them, but after that point they start snowballing into bigger and bigger problems.

For most things, that point is marked by an increase in pain, decrease in functionality, or infection. It sounds to me like you're slipping slowly past that point. Get it fixed asap. If nothing else, you can throw yourself on the mercy of charitable foundations established for exactly that sort of thing. I've had significant bills covered for me by such charities. Whatever doctor you go to, explain your financial situation. If they're not terrible, they'll do their best to help you figure something out. Doctors are often in it for the paycheck, but the helping-people thing is still a major factor for most of them.

[Melena]

Looking at available jobs, and I'm pretty much targeting junior positions because I dont really have the experience in the field. I found a job opening for a junior position, I look up the requirements and see this:

4+ years Networking experience
3+ Years Directly Related Experience Cisco switching and Routing

How is four years of work experience anything at all "junior"?

Either they are insane or it's bullshit. Still remember the 12 dollar an hour tech support job I saw listed for about 2 years before they revised their requirements of a Bachelors and fluent in Japanese.

[Aksannyi]

I've read somewhere that most places put shit like that just to weed out people who aren't confident enough to be successful or some shit, meaning that even though they know they don't meet the requirements, they still consider themselves worth a shot anyway and willing to prove that they can do it. They don't want people who don't feel that way about themselves, so they set the bar really high.