Random Fail: First World Problems

[Spicyryan]

I'm down for not telling him because I feel not enough is known well enough before you intrude into their relationship. Since in didn't make the vote that is emerging clear.

Also you may know much more than us (just what you tell us, obviously) so there's that.

[AvidLoki]

I'm down for not telling him because I feel not enough is known well enough before you intrude into their relationship. Since in didn't make the vote that is emerging clear.

Also you may know much more than us (just what you tell us, obviously) so there's that.

You're a terrible friend.

[Pringles]

Before or after a wedding doesn't change the fact it's cheating. Long term it's better to know your future wife is a cheater before you tie the knot (unless your friend is into cuckholding). Telling him would lead to one of two outcomes: 1) He's already aware of it and I'd either cool with it or going to confront about it or 2) he had no idea and wants to reevaluate the relationship.

Either way I feel he should be made aware of it. As a man who was cheated on by two of my exes, one of which I was engaged to, it's better to know than not to.

[Astylla]

Before or after a wedding doesn't change the fact it's cheating. Long term it's better to know your future wife is a cheater before you tie the knot (unless your friend is into cuckholding). Telling him would lead to one of two outcomes: 1) He's already aware of it and I'd either cool with it or going to confront about it or 2) he had no idea and wants to reevaluate the relationship.

Either way I feel he should be made aware of it. As a man who was cheated on by two of my exes, one of which I was engaged to, it's better to know than not to.

I agree with all of this especially if you have photo proof. I sure as fuck would want to know rather than finding out someone didn't think it was important.
There's always that chance he knows and they have an open relationship, but in that case he won't care if you say anything anyway so there's no reason not to..

[Cream Soda]

What pretty much everyone else has said.

If he's not cool with it, then you help him out.

If he is cool with it, then no harm done.

He's a grown ass man. You should be telling him how it is rather than trying to "Spare his feelings"

[Spicyryan]

You're a terrible friend.

Good friends don't decide they are going to interject themselves into personal matters with insubstantial accounts of what could or could not be something. Even then shit happens.

IDC about the risk vs reward of the silence as its not my relationship and they have been together a solid length. Once again, no one here knows.

A good friend is impartial and a bro is what you are calling a friend in this case. I'm not a bro.

[arus2001]

[Byrthnoth]

Ryan's rejection is actually saying the same thing as everyone else!

[Melena]

Good friends don't decide they are going to interject themselves into personal matters with insubstantial accounts of what could or could not be something. Even then shit happens.

IDC about the risk vs reward of the silence as its not my relationship and they have been together a solid length. Once again, no one here knows.

A good friend is impartial and a bro is what you are calling a friend in this case. I'm not a bro.

And here we are again where your opinion has to be right. If I had a good friend who thought my wife/gf/fiancee was cheating and at least didn't bring it up to me, i'd be pissed at them.

[Dizzy's]

It's just tinder, who takes that app seriously?

[Brill Weave]

Dude you have to tell him. Period.

[Vandalhart]

Why do I see this going the complete opposite of how other people are seeing it going.

If she's cheating, I see him not believing you regardless of what you show him. He may find out later it's true, but until he comes to terms with that he could end up hating you.

[Brill Weave]

Why do I see this going the complete opposite of how other people are seeing it going.

If she's cheating, I see him not believing you regardless of what you show him. He may find out later it's true, but until he comes to terms with that he could end up hating you.

It's a lose lose situation to be sure. Tell him and he hates you. Don't tell him and he finds out you knew and he hates you.

[arus2001]

Why do I see this going the complete opposite of how other people are seeing it going.

If she's cheating, I see him not believing you regardless of what you show him. He may find out later it's true, but until he comes to terms with that he could end up hating you.

I'd like to think the screenshot proof enough to validate the claim and concern. Unless the guy's a known photoshop wizard.

[BaneTheBrawler]

Mildryan dishin' out the awful advice



appropriate thread

[FNH]

Why do I see this going the complete opposite of how other people are seeing it going.

If she's cheating, I see him not believing you regardless of what you show him. He may find out later it's true, but until he comes to terms with that he could end up hating you.

I'd be ok with that, personally. At least I would know I had done the right thing.

[AoE]

Saw a friend of mine for the last time before my leave ends and I thought I'd be third wheeling it because she asked if her b/f could come (like I was gonna say no). I opted to not drink for good reason because the more she got inebriated, the more the b/f seemed like he was third wheeling to the point where I had to cover my ass based on things she was saying to reduce the increasing amount of awkwardness she was causing. Needless to say, he's probably happy I won't be around anymore.

[Cantih]

It's a lose lose situation to be sure. Tell him and he hates you. Don't tell him and he finds out you knew and he hates you.

And for completeness' sake, let's run through the other possibilities.
Don't tell him, and he doesn't hate you for it.
Possible maybe? He could have a cuckolding fetish? Idk. Only other way this is happening is if they never know you had a clue. I have no idea exactly how Tinder works, but it's possible she might already know you know, which means there's just more paths for him to possibly know you knew. (And, you kinda just told the internet that you know.). Also, you will always know you knew, holding it to yourself may not look like much now, but give it a few decades, boy you'll love that.

Tell him, and he doesn't hate you for it.
Possible, probable, but admittedly not guaranteed.


So between Brill and I, you know your outcomes. You'll note only one has any real chance of a positive outcome. Pretty simple to know what you should do.

[Abandon]

Good friends don't decide they are going to interject themselves into personal matters with insubstantial accounts of what could or could not be something. Even then shit happens.

IDC about the risk vs reward of the silence as its not my relationship and they have been together a solid length. Once again, no one here knows.

A good friend is impartial and a bro is what you are calling a friend in this case. I'm not a bro.

You're a faggot. man the fuck up and tell him. if i found out years later that one of my niggas knew my wife was a cheating skank, that nigga is instantly on my "introduce fist to face" list.

[arus2001]

And for completeness' sake, let's run through the other possibilities.
Don't tell him, and he doesn't hate you for it.
Possible maybe? He could have a cuckolding fetish? Idk. Only other way this is happening is if they never know you had a clue. I have no idea exactly how Tinder works, but it's possible she might already know you know, which means there's just more paths for him to possibly know you knew. (And, you kinda just told the internet that you know.). Also, you will always know you knew, holding it to yourself may not look like much now, but give it a few decades, boy you'll love that.

Tell him, and he doesn't hate you for it.
Possible, probable, but admittedly not guaranteed.


So between Brill and I, you know your outcomes. You'll note only one has any real chance of a positive outcome. Pretty simple to know what you should do.

Totes forgot the evil twin scenario and it's all just one giant misunderstanding.