Random Fail: First World Problems

[Aksannyi]

Just found out that an online friend of mine passed away last night from a brain aneurism while skiing. She was 26. I'm in complete shock from this and I'm completely at a loss realizing that I'll never see her posts/comments again or have a chance to talk about the things we enjoyed together ever again. I'm heartbroken and I feel like it's so hard to grieve an online friend I've never met while in the company of others, but my heart is so very heavy right now. Apologize for any misspellings, I'm on my phone.

[Airenn]

Sorry Aks.

My sister made a post about how she's very guilty over the candle and the house being partially burnt. I didn't reply, and I am sad she's so guilty, it was an accident. The only reply I want to make is that candle's aren't bad but you had a sick fucking two month old in the room with the candle. That's the stupid part, sister. She wouldn't get it anyway. /sigh

[Petitssk]

Anybody know that feeling when a person you've trusted since your childhood, someone you always knew you could entrust with everything, stabs you in the back?

When my mother died, she left us with debts. Not surprising, since she also played a very big part in the events that led to the spending of everything I inherited from my biological father when I was a child. Nevermind the fact that I was emotionally blackmailed into giving her access to my bank account, but whatever, lesson learned.

The very sudden death of my grandmother two weeks after my mother's didn't really help emotionally, but at least she did not die with debts. Fast forward a few months and my aunt sells her house; usually, this would mean that the money would be split between her (closest surviving relative, daughter) and me (grandchild, father dead). However, out of fear of my mother's spending habits and possible inheritance-related issues, my grandparents made my aunt the sole owner of their house.

While the outcome of this is obvious at this point, let me just say that I really trusted my aunt, so I wasn't surprised that she even made sure to reassure me that the money from the sale would be split anyway.

In a completely unexpected turn of events, when I asked about details today, she told me that she does not intend on splitting the money as its hers and that I probably misunderstood something. I wasn't at a complete lack for words, but I couldn't quite believe it was happening either. Still holding on to that last bit of hope, but considering that she obviously changed her mind in the past few weeks, I'm not holding my breath either.

At the very least she seemed to be worried about me being angry about it; I told her I wasn't, which is true. I'm just disappointed.

[Yuri-G]

spends five minutes on the phone with customer trying to figure out why "Ryan" called them, who she insists is from our group, even though we do not have nor have we ever had a "Ryan"


customer grudgingly checks voicemail


"oh, it was Isaac, not Ryan."


no apology or anything, yep

[Zetanio]

So, in your ass?

Gotta get through customs somehow

[Melena]

Anybody know that feeling when a person you've trusted since your childhood, someone you always knew you could entrust with everything, stabs you in the back?

When my mother died, she left us with debts. Not surprising, since she also played a very big part in the events that led to the spending of everything I inherited from my biological father when I was a child. Nevermind the fact that I was emotionally blackmailed into giving her access to my bank account, but whatever, lesson learned.

The very sudden death of my grandmother two weeks after my mother's didn't really help emotionally, but at least she did not die with debts. Fast forward a few months and my aunt sells her house; usually, this would mean that the money would be split between her (closest surviving relative, daughter) and me (grandchild, father dead). However, out of fear of my mother's spending habits and possible inheritance-related issues, my grandparents made my aunt the sole owner of their house.

While the outcome of this is obvious at this point, let me just say that I really trusted my aunt, so I wasn't surprised that she even made sure to reassure me that the money from the sale would be split anyway.

In a completely unexpected turn of events, when I asked about details today, she told me that she does not intend on splitting the money as its hers and that I probably misunderstood something. I wasn't at a complete lack for words, but I couldn't quite believe it was happening either. Still holding on to that last bit of hope, but considering that she obviously changed her mind in the past few weeks, I'm not holding my breath either.

At the very least she seemed to be worried about me being angry about it; I told her I wasn't, which is true. I'm just disappointed.

Yup. When my great aunt got ill and started suffering from severe dementia, her niece and my great aunt's lawyer conspired to get everything in their name, including the very expensive home. My dad had to sue to get custodianship of her estate and put everything back to the way it was before her dementia set in, and even then they still tried to loot the house of everything not nailed down.

Money just makes people go stupid.

[Zetanio]

Yup. When my great aunt got ill and started suffering from severe dementia, her niece and my great aunt's lawyer conspired to get everything in their name, including the very expensive home. My dad had to sue to get custodianship of her estate and put everything back to the way it was before her dementia set in, and even then they still tried to loot the house of everything not nailed down.

Money just makes people go stupid.

Money fucks all these kind of situations up, that's why solid end-of-life planning is really important. Sorry for both of your situations

[AidenCarby]

Yup. When my great aunt got ill and started suffering from severe dementia, her niece and my great aunt's lawyer conspired to get everything in their name, including the very expensive home. My dad had to sue to get custodianship of her estate and put everything back to the way it was before her dementia set in, and even then they still tried to loot the house of everything not nailed down.

Money just makes people go stupid.

My sister tried suing me over my moms estate which was clearly willed to me, she had me served on the day of the funeral lol. Money makes people do awful things.

[Zetanio]

I saw a few instances of horrible shit like this at a young age.

Made me be very careful about my estate planning. Shit is ironclad.

[Astylla]

Money fucks all these kind of situations up, that's why solid end-of-life planning is really important. Sorry for both of your situations

I can't express this enough and why I'm always asking Melena to discuss it with his dad since property is involved. While I'm fairly confident him and his brother wouldn't be stupid about things , his mom who is a manipulative bitch still holds some weight over his brother in my opinion and I can see shit going bad.

It's such a horrible thing to deal with in the first place not to mention when people let greed step in. Even the most trusted people or that we think can go insane or stupid in these situations. It's infuriating honestly.

My own fail - our work just went to a new payroll via Workday who are fucking terrible. I used to have to deal with their incompetence at Marriott on a weekly basis. Now nothing is working and there's a chance our direct deposit won't be ready as scheduled, but they know they have to pay all 250ish of us. Ugh.

[Buffy]

This is why I killed my siblings, to ensure there was no competition.

[Tyrath]

Sometimes I'm sad that my only relatives in the country are my parents. But then I read shit like this and it makes me glad to not have to deal with shit like that.

Friends you get to choose are much better than most distant family anyway.

[Melena]

So on Dec 2nd-4th we had a massive recabling project done while having some switches replaced. Our floor was done on the 3rd. When I came in on the 4th, I found out one of our work stations was not patched, so I had to do a temporary patching and e-mailed the person doing the overnight supervision as well as the project manager that this station got missed, it absolutely must be done when they come in on the 4th to finish the last floor.

2 weeks later, I find out they decided to skip that cable as they were running out of cables, then they went and unplugged my temporary patching as it wasn't done clean (well obviously, I had to make do with a spare 14 footer I had laying around instead of one of the 50' ones they used and snaked through the racks to make it clean), and was told today oh I will find you a cable and you can just go and spend the time to do it yourself. Fucking bullshit as it means I'm going to have to get a hold of building maintenance, borrow a ladder and do the slow process of removing the rail covers, unvelcro each strand, run the cable up, revelcro it, undo the next strand, wash rinse repeat till it's patched all because they were too fucking lazy to call me and say hey, we ran out of cables, is there another jack we can unplug for the time being that's not being used and do that one instead.

[Ratatapa]

Let it snow let it snow let it snow

[Airenn]

So, my friend is young and I met him through Japanese classes. I'm 30 vs. his 22 - nothing sexual, I'm pointing it out as a reference that's he a broke, young college student hell bent on befriending every human he meets and always doing things with friends.

It's exhausting. So, when he told me he had a Christmas present from me and I just HAD TO HAVE IT the day before Christmas I thought it might be something in like the $20ish dollar range. Mother fucker got me a little totoro notebook and a keychain. Probs worth $5.00 total which is fine. Totes fine. The gesture is sweet. But I made a promise to buy him a $50 jacket before I opened said gift and now I'd rather just lose a friend than buy this fucking jacket. Fuck. /salty

[Ksandra]

So, I have a friend I grew up with in CT. Was very close for a long time, but we lost touch after HS.

He lives in LA, too, so we've reconnected. It's hard for him because his mother raised him as a single mom. He never knew his father, and his mother died last year. So, I've been trying to invite him to all holiday events (Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc.). It's been great. I feel like he's been a little lost on what to do with his life. He hasn't made some deep friends in LA, but with his mother's passing, he really doesn't feel like CT is home either.


In any case, for Xmas he got us some Star Wars glasses which looked really cool. They seemed to be the same make as some Iron Man glasses we owned, so I didn't think anything of it when we washed them in the washer.


And half the letters fucking fell off, and part of the images.

For other people, I'd be like, "Shit sucks, but w/e." But considering we are probably the only people he actually got gifts for, I feel like a shithead. I don't want to like, lie to the dude, but I feel I gotta track down these glasses and buy them again. He's gonna know they peeled otherwise as he's going to be coming over a lot.

[Zetanio]

So, my friend is young and I met him through Japanese classes. I'm 30 vs. his 22 - nothing sexual, I'm pointing it out as a reference that's he a broke, young college student hell bent on befriending every human he meets and always doing things with friends.

It's exhausting. So, when he told me he had a Christmas present from me and I just HAD TO HAVE IT the day before Christmas I thought it might be something in like the $20ish dollar range. Mother fucker got me a little totoro notebook and a keychain. Probs worth $5.00 total which is fine. Totes fine. The gesture is sweet. But I made a promise to buy him a $50 jacket before I opened said gift and now I'd rather just lose a friend than buy this fucking jacket. Fuck. /salty

The fuck you doing spending $50 on him?

Don't promise that kinda shit.

Ditch that dude, cheap as fuck.

[Churchill]

i mean, a nigga who would buy a non cheap as fuck present for some 30 year old chick he aint bangin aint worth talking about either

[Brill Weave]

So, my friend is young and I met him through Japanese classes. I'm 30 vs. his 22 - nothing sexual, I'm pointing it out as a reference that's he a broke, young college student hell bent on befriending every human he meets and always doing things with friends.

It's exhausting. So, when he told me he had a Christmas present from me and I just HAD TO HAVE IT the day before Christmas I thought it might be something in like the $20ish dollar range. Mother fucker got me a little totoro notebook and a keychain. Probs worth $5.00 total which is fine. Totes fine. The gesture is sweet. But I made a promise to buy him a $50 jacket before I opened said gift and now I'd rather just lose a friend than buy this fucking jacket. Fuck. /salty

Just fuck him and call it square?

[Anoat]

i mean, a nigga who would buy a non cheap as fuck present for some 30 year old chick he aint bangin aint worth talking about either

Truth.

Dudes are only buying presents for women for three possible reasons:
1. Wants to, at some point, preferably in the near future, have sex with you.
2. Got your name in the office Secret Santa. May also be combined with reason #1.
3. Is your family. Hopefully this is not combined with reason #1.