Random Fail: First World Problems

**The Stig** · 2013-07-16 12:55

Yeh I do that too very occasionally.

So my manager spoke to me again after work (we usually walk to the station together) and he told her I wanted to apologise (I didn't ask for this) and she didn't say stuff like "no don't want one" to him, so it's minorly a positive sign.

To be fair I did apologise too soon perhaps this morning (in retrospect, my manager said i went 10 mins after, not 30), so I'll attempt another one tomorrow just to sooth it out and be adult really. If she is still raging and doesn't want it, I'll do the fair thing and drop it entirely. As I said I'm not even angry (otherwise it'd escalate quickly into a shouting match haha), I've been chill, hence I was able to go apologise perhaps too quickly before it even settled in for her.

Will report back tomorrow.

**Byrthnoth** · 2013-07-16 14:58

People are going to remember this incident more if you keep bringing it up. This will have the least impact on your career (and your relationship with the woman) if you simply never bring it up again. Don't apologize tomorrow, etc.

**Apelila** · 2013-07-16 15:21

I wouldn't approach the woman at all. Once you awaken cuntzilla, it does not sleep until it has tasted the blood of man. if she went that far that fast over a 'what' when she was hovering over you, she's going to pull the "i'm a special little snow flake and he's threatening me" card.

If she gets it in her head you are a threat when you try and apologize, then being the man (and the one who made the action regardless of motives) you lose. Game over man, game over.

If it was me i wouldn't have to deal with her again unless I had to, and then with backup and on my boy scout behavior. And like Bry said, never bring it up again.

Or she could be like "whatever" and walk away from it. I don't think that is the case though if she explicitly spelled out she doesn't want to talk to you outside of work issues, and if she did I'm putting 20$ down on her turning into a megabitch if you approach her outside of that context.

**Siccmade** · 2013-07-16 15:23

I work nights and typically sleep till around 3-4pm, yesterday around 10am I'm awoke by somebody banging on my door, multiple times. At this point I had only been asleep for about 2hrs and got to the door ready to smack whatever dumbass friend thought this was a good idea. Look through the peephole and see a man with a badge walking away, I figured dueces, fuck that. Later, on my way out the door I see he left his card, State of California, Parole Agent...

Their offices were closed by the time I called and I didn't want to leave my name, rather speak in person and remove myself from the situation while divulging the least information possible. Needless to say, he's banging on my door again today but was gone by the time I got up, went outside and still nobody.

To clarify though, I'm not on parole. It's possible one of my folks put my address in it and then failed to check in, or something equally retarded... I should refrain from speculation, I really have no idea. I'm hoping that the fail is on the DoC's end because only a select few even know where I live. I guess I'll know soon enough.

tl;dr I'm tired, go away.

**Brill Weave** · 2013-07-16 17:48

Finally get a night where I can play Dragons Dogma and a micro burst storm knocks the power out. Fml

**BaneTheBrawler** · 2013-07-16 18:03

you should never use sarcasm with strangers or acquaintances. people you've only seen around the office and rarely talk to count as acquaintances.

**Moss** · 2013-07-16 18:36

Originally Posted by Derock

Whole lot of assburgers up I'm here. You're not a social person? Stop being a fucking prick and this shit might not happen.

this is what I'm getting from that story

there is a difference between not being fake and being a prick. "I don't care what they think so why should I ask them blah blah" is terrible logic for a work environment. There are plenty of times when people deserve a good telling off, it's just rarely worth it. The fact that you have a reputation for being short with people or antisocial or whatever it is, is not going to do you any favors.

In your current situation, it doesn't make sense to apologize again to this person.

**The Stig** · 2013-07-17 02:54

I appreciate all your advice and input but I threw caution into the wind and went against it.

So I went to apologise again under an order from my manager (who must've told her much later on yesterday when she cooled down that I did want to apologise). Apology was accepted. I admitted my faults of assuming she knows my personality and explained how the situation unfolded and how I got to where it was.

There's other factors and stuff here that I won't have space to go into, and although it might have sound I'm being a prick in all reality I'm not. It's just that everyone knows me as that, and as explained above, my bad for assuming the same person in the same company for knowing me as. At the same time, I'm extremely social past the initial "hi how r u" stage when conversation moves up a level. I just don't deal well with routine, which I see "greeting and asking pointless basic questions" as (I appreciate and understand that as much as it is required when interacting, I just see it as such a pointless, empty excercise). So around almost everyone else it's become a running gag to get me to "cheerfully respond" to them (to which I then start acting very sarcastically), and this time only it backfired.

I'll try to improve to not let this happen again and be more wary/cautious if I know the person doesn't know me as much. Overall, my fail.

**Brill Weave** · 2013-07-17 04:54

She wants the D

**Eurell** · 2013-07-17 09:44

Originally Posted by Brill Weave

She wants the D

**Moss** · 2013-07-17 18:40

Originally Posted by The Stig

I just don't deal well with routine, which I see "greeting and asking pointless basic questions" as (I appreciate and understand that as much as it is required when interacting, I just see it as such a pointless, empty excercise).

well now you see that it isn't pointless, it's being cordial/having tact

**Apelila** · 2013-07-17 22:59

Have to start looking for a jorb in Dallas 2 hours away. I hate interviewing/switching jobs, but its time to get the hell out of the woods.

**Nephlite** · 2013-07-18 05:18

Originally Posted by Siccmade

I work nights and typically sleep till around 3-4pm, yesterday around 10am I'm awoke by somebody banging on my door, multiple times. At this point I had only been asleep for about 2hrs and got to the door ready to smack whatever dumbass friend thought this was a good idea. Look through the peephole and see a man with a badge walking away, I figured dueces, fuck that. Later, on my way out the door I see he left his card, State of California, Parole Agent...

Their offices were closed by the time I called and I didn't want to leave my name, rather speak in person and remove myself from the situation while divulging the least information possible. Needless to say, he's banging on my door again today but was gone by the time I got up, went outside and still nobody.

To clarify though, I'm not on parole. It's possible one of my folks put my address in it and then failed to check in, or something equally retarded... I should refrain from speculation, I really have no idea. I'm hoping that the fail is on the DoC's end because only a select few even know where I live. I guess I'll know soon enough.

tl;dr I'm tired, go away.

Late but might wanna give them a call. Some jurisdictions allow the P.O. to enter apartments of the people they're supposed to be checking in on (no warrants or anything) so you don't want to get surprised by a random check.

**Cliron** · 2013-07-18 14:12

Not used to this heat in NYC. Its killing me.

I'm channeling this woman

**Tokitoki** · 2013-07-18 14:37

Originally Posted by Cliron

Not used to this heat in NYC. Its killing me.

We had similar weather in 2011 for sure. I remember that specifically because I was outside a lot for work.

**Seshat** · 2013-07-18 16:01

Seriously, between 90 and 100 degrees daily on top of the humidity, shit's brutal.

**Airenn** · 2013-07-18 16:48

God I hate the heat. That being said it's a nice 78 out here in San Diego. But I feel you all. I grew up in Florida, I hate the heat now. Give me snow and ice any day. And when it DOES get hot out here, at least you bitches probably have AC or something. They don't make houses with AC in lower california.

Edit: FWP Or overhead lights. The fuck is that about? Who wants to buy 30 fucking lamps and shit for their room? Fuck that, give me a light in the middle of the room above my head, please. Who the fuck designs these places? It's like the stone ages and I need a box of candles out here.

**Jefe** · 2013-07-18 17:00

Gdi, I have to go to the supermarket and I don't wanna get dressed. It's time like these I wish I had a bathrobe.

**BaneTheBrawler** · 2013-07-18 17:35

re:lamps: the genius electrician who wired my room put the "switch" outlets for lamps along one wall... the one that is arranged in such a way that half of it already has a light source available from my entrance. so in order to properly light up the room, i have to run extension cords across to the opposite wall.

**Moss** · 2013-07-18 20:32

I have an assignment due that consists of 20 half-page research papers on a variety of topics. I figured they were due sometime in mid-August.

They are due tomorrow.

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