Coping and Moving on. How do you do it?

[Sepukku]

Unfriend her on Facebook.

Real talk. Even Russell Brand un-followed Katy Perry on Twitter after their divorce.

[Omnipotent]

Unfriending from social networking is saying I potentially want to stalk your semi-hidden profile and have an option of befriending in the long future. BLOCKING the person is the real deal; especially her friends who befriended you and you have really no affiliation with; bitches love when you do that after a break up, like a dagger to the heart.

[dejet]

I'm a sexy motherfucker and I xfit every day yo.

Just messing around Lol.. No comments about the cs remark tho?

Crossfit has its place <B

[RandomJoe]

So there was some caving on my part, and I dragged it out a little longer, but I'm all good now. Nothing that I'm ashamed of to be honest. I did some research on psychological effects of this shit in my scenario and found I fit a particular mold. I found I was dissatisfied not knowing the true root cause, and didn't feel like i could clearly point to one thing and say 'aha' that's why. Obviously cheating is bullshit and cause for an irreconcilable break-up, but there was more to it. Breaking up is a process so I wanted to be sure I understood if there were other contributing factors. I already planned to better myself regardless, however.

Nonetheless for better or worse its nothing I did. Totally her and the whole not wanting to drag me along when she couldn't promise me anything because her non-existent career was more important than trying to grow in life with another person bullshit.

Call me a pussy, but I left the window open to get in contact years from now when we are on totally different wavelengths. Not an attempt to hold on or anything. We shared a lot in life and despite all this I never wish malice on anyone...but I won't cry if she fucks her career up, gets the aids, or herps.

I really need a good slump buster so I can get the image of someone else banging her out of my head.

You guys have any other suggestions on how to 'get out there' I was looking on meetup.com and it seems like a great site to meet randoms. I'm in an area where I only really have one good friend, and I can't rely on him to do everything with me lol. I relied too heavily on vidya games, traveling to see the female or her traveling to see me, and the pretty constant contact with her over the summer so there's quite a void to fill. So yea I really just need to get out there now and be me.

Curious question. How many of you guys in relationships have that one thing (or many) that you only do for yourself, without the lady-friend, and would you say it positively impacts your relationship and self-image?

[miokomioko]

If you're down to hump some random... craigslist.

*shudder*

[vagus]

Stop trying to find a deeper meaning in the breakup. These type of things happen and doesn't reflect a bad image of you. Also, as stated by many find something to occupy your time. Hit the gym, find a new hobby, start a new project at work / school. Better yet do something that you've always wanted to do. Maybe join a cooking class or pickup a new book. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. As for "getting out there", it will come on it's own. Seeking one will just cause problems in your current state. Once you're no longer moapy and have a bit more confidence. You can hit up a bar, ask that barista you've had a crush on or try POF.Com.

[Souj]

don't forget to delete her number from your phone.

off subject; Guy I worked with would always talk about how good his relationship was going, but recently his girlfriend had cheated on him and they broke up. Now all he does is talk about how he's so great with picking up women and says he's going to try and sleep with everyone he works with. To his word I think he is trying. He's slept with one so far. an ugly fat chick with dreadlocks. Most of the other girls there have just started calling him a creepy guy.

[RandomJoe]

Oh yea its deleted lol.. have it memorized so that will take time haha. But yea i'm not feeling sorry for myself I just wanted the right level of closure. I got it. The breakup will never result in a negative reflection on myself, so I'm not worried about that. Shot web for the first time in like five days. hueg mess. Big step forward lol.

I'll definitely take some of the 'shit to do advice'. maybe classes, more hiking, more reading. I want something where I can meet some cool people.

[RandomJoe]

Feel free to lock if Its getting too live journall-y. I think I've taken the steps I need to take to get past the inital break-up. Once again you guys have been bad-ass.

[Dimmauk]

don't forget to delete her number from your phone.

off subject; Guy I worked with would always talk about how good his relationship was going, but recently his girlfriend had cheated on him and they broke up. Now all he does is talk about how he's so great with picking up women and says he's going to try and sleep with everyone he works with. To his word I think he is trying. He's slept with one so far. an ugly fat chick with dreadlocks. Most of the other girls there have just started calling him a creepy guy.

He went from slump buster to try hard mode. LOL gotta pace yourself.

[Manako]

Stop trying to find a deeper meaning in the breakup. These type of things happen and doesn't reflect a bad image of you. Also, as stated by many find something to occupy your time. Hit the gym, find a new hobby, start a new project at work / school. Better yet do something that you've always wanted to do. Maybe join a cooking class or pickup a new book. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. As for "getting out there", it will come on it's own. Seeking one will just cause problems in your current state. Once you're no longer moapy and have a bit more confidence. You can hit up a bar, ask that barista you've had a crush on or try POF.Com.

Pretty much this. Find a way to enjoy your free time, and the rest will follow. Before I got busy with life I used to take dance lessons and that made me feel great, and toned my core rather nicely. My fiance could care less, but it made me happy. Normally we do all the same things, but occasionally he'll go out of town and I admit I do appreciate the alone time. I typically spend it eating food he doesn't like, reading and gaming late into the night. When I'm working late he typically watches mediocre horror movies, he could watch them all day which I really can't comprehend.

[Mayareira]

It'll hurt for a while.

You'll hate her for a while. Its ok, normal. One day there'll be a time where you'll no longer hold any grudges to your ex and heck, wish her to be happy in life. When that time comes congratulate yourself for being able to move on completely.

Been there, done that.