Feminism Thread

[archibaldcrane]

What if you have no reason to believe they are interested in your greeting? It's ok to do even though you think it's likely unwelcome?

[D44kpunk]

But yes, this subjective, setting-specific guideline does require a person to possess a modicum of perception, self-awareness and social acuity.

so people in this certain part of NYC not possessing that is surprising and makes the world a terrible/sexist place?

i still have never witnessed behavior like some of the men in this video my entire life and i'd like to think i've been with females as attractive as that lady. makes me think it's somewhat regional

[Ksandra]

What if you have no reason to believe they are interested in your greeting? It's ok to do even though you think it's likely unwelcome?

are you asking me? if it's just a "hi" that to me is very regional. Some people do it to everyone, some to no one. I am of the opinion it's polite to at minimum nod when walking past someone. But I grew up in CT.

My dad believed it was polite to wave at everyone driving by (or if he was driving) in our general neighborhood even if he didn't know them. Same deal imo, he wasn't trying to hit on anyone. But our whole town is 4,000 people so it's different than NYC.


I hate to say it, too, and maybe it's a bad stereotype, but often when I hear "god bless" on the street I usually think it is someone poor/homeless, simply from the nature of the fact if I walk by one, or if they approach me for money, or after I give money they always always say it.

[archibaldcrane]

so people in this certain part of NYC not possessing that is surprising and makes the world a terrible/sexist place?

I think they do it knowing the attention is unwelcome. It's not an accident.

i still have never witnessed behavior like some of the men in this video my entire life and i'd like to think i've been with females as attractive as that lady. makes me think it's somewhat regional

See my sig

(dudes rarely catcall women who are with dudes)

[thetruepandagod]

I have to tell the next jolly black woman that tells me to have a blessed day to go fuck herself because I'm too autistic to deal with a greeting.

[GoggleHead]

Things I have learned from this thread:

1. It is never ok to initiate a conversation with a woman I don't already know. Ever.

2. I am apparently an outlier because having to put up with total strangers constantly trying to talk to me all the damn time would drive me to gratuitous violence.

[D44kpunk]

I think they do it knowing the attention is unwelcome. It's not an accident.

See my sig

(dudes rarely catcall women who are with dudes)

i guess lol. but i would assume i would at least notice them doing it to other women, here's to hoping i'm not completely oblivious to it. i've seen this kind of behavior in a bar or places like that, but not on the street.

[thetruepandagod]

Things I have learned from this thread

I learned I am a rapist because while drunk I let a drunk girl initiate sex with me and we both regretted it.

[hey]

i still have never witnessed behavior like some of the men in this video my entire life and i'd like to think i've been with females as attractive as that lady. makes me think it's somewhat regional

Because you were there. Ask them if it happens when they are alone.

[BaneTheBrawler]

i learned half of bg harasses me on a regular basis

[quannum]

feminism has taught me that women are too infantile to avoid succumbing to social pressure, it's ok to devalue rape and there's quite a bit of gullible ones with disposable income, but it's really about equality.

[Galkaeater]

Maybe they are just grinding thier charisma, do you have any idea how hard that is to level up?

[Salodin]

I bet if these people on the side walk got out of a Lamborghini before telling her to have a good day, she'd be all over it.

God forbid a man try to pick up a woman on the street...sure these guys suck at it, but sucking at flirting isn't really a crime...is it?

[ronin sparthos]

I bet if these people on the side walk got out of a Lamborghini before telling her to have a good day, she'd be all over it.

God forbid a man try to pick up a woman on the street...sure these guys suck at it, but sucking at flirting isn't really a crime...is it?

Because all women are gold-digging psychopaths who want rich men in fast cars to proposition them for sex.

Surely this guy wouldn't register as a pimp, guy looking for a hooker or other ne'er do well in the mind of a female. Nope.

[BerenTebogo]

Easy to follow guidelines:

The south: It is okay to talk to people you don't know. Say hi to them, talk in elevator, okay whatever. (It's weird for me, getting used to it).

The north: No. Fucking no. Are you still talking to me? Who are you? I have mace.

[Salodin]

Should have had Emma Watson walk down the street, she likes it when men are bold.

[ronin sparthos]

Being complimented on your appearance is a negative..................?

Is this only when it happens too much? Only when people who don't know you say it? Give me the rundown. Is it ever appropriate to compliment a woman's looks? If so, when and why? When isn't it and why isn't it? Because we arbitrarily decided so or is there any other reason?

I'm referencing the women who soak up the attention of men making lewd gestures or catcalls in general. It's indicative of serious self-esteem issues which is no different than that bro who can't stop showing off his impressive physique to any and everyone he can get to admire him. Over-compensation as it were.

Catcalls are pretty much the cold calls of courtship.

As for the rest of it? Context. Some guy making a passing compliment as you pass by is a different can of beans from the stalkery-types who follow chicks up the street lookin' for 'dem digits. It's desperate, generally annoying and generally unwelcome. In NYC it's pretty understood to leave people right well alone unless you got something to say and your shitty sales pitch for sex is almost always an eyeroll inducing affair.

[BaneTheBrawler]

The north: No. Fucking no. Are you still talking to me? Who are you? I have mace.

upper midwest is okay though.

[thetruepandagod]

Just went and ran the track down at my college and saw a girl that was flawless tomboy 10/10 but i remembered what i learned on BG and didn't say hello or make eye contact for fear of harassing her and ruining the rest of her week.

[D44kpunk]

would be interesting to see this done in other parts of the states, i feel like poorer parts of NYC are not the best for truly looking at feminist issues.