Deleted all my porn today, this guy won by logic

[Rhyis.]

Could've done something more productive like fapping.

[Day]

or worked on that Cmaj scale bro

[Charismatic]

Could've done something more productive like fapping.

Sounds about right.

[Silenka]

poidh

I'm not sure if you're talking about pics of my porn collection or sex with my bf. I'm going to hope the former.

@ silenka

check out the info over at r/nofap, they encourage females to undertake the no fap challenge as well, since females can experience decreased pleasure due to (no joke) the "death shlick" which is putting too much pressure on the clitoris (the male equivalent is the death grip) desensitizing the member itself even before the D2 receptors are affected

it sounds like you have some strong attachments to some fairly unavailable fetishes, you may want to discuss this with your partner and perhaps aim to share and vocalize some of your desires. There's an excellent scene in the TV show called Girls where the main characters boyfriend is pleasing himself while she is in the apartment and she starts yelling at him (at first) upset that he would do that when a living breathing girl/woman is there in the apartment with him

her chastising ultimately arouses him and he goes with it. Their dirty talk in other episodes involves some pretty "out there" content (including fantasy underage roleplay), which she feels really uncomfortable about in early episodes, but has later come to find sex without it to be sorely unsatisfying

my point is that fetishes which may seem unattainable or even illegal can be shared with a partner, even if they don't vocalize back, but "participate" by at least being receptive enough to allow you to voice it, perhaps eventually even more

be careful going down this road though, because ideally the partner you would stay with would be open to these, and while this has strayed a bit from fapping/shlicking, the attachment to these fantasies (along with fapping) can lead to decreased pleasure with an actual partner

there's tons of literature on fetishes, I enjoy Dan Savage's outlook on them, although I believe he is strictly a columnist (syndicated via the Village Voice), but some people suggest that if you cannot fulfill your fetishes with a partner or share them in some way, then perhaps if they are not comfortable enough to engage in it, even passively, then perhaps you should be free to explore it outside of the relationship

stopping fapping/shlicking or accessing fetish porn does not mean shutting off a part of you that experiences arousal in regard to a specific fantasy/action (strictly speaking a fetish is something you can achieve satisfaction without the presence of it). The info at r/noFap, I recall, suggests moving away from these fantasy images if possible, and return to "natural" stimulation with a live partner

I think there is breathing room when it comes to fetishes, but the goal is to get away from self stimulation, especially out of boredom or anxiety, and the end goal being that you experience all your sexual activity with a live partner, be it your bf or elsewhere


I say all this because a close friend of mine suffered through not being able to engage in their fetish and I believe firmly in sexual expression, so good luck

Oh, thank you for your long post. Some good ideas there, but actually, it's the idea of the fetishes that gets me off, not the actualization of them. I'm pretty sure I would hate most of my fetishes actually being done to me. So maybe it's more like a mental fetish? I think bf would be open to most things if I wanted to do them, but I've never asked - not because I'm afraid of weirding him out, simply because I haven't actually felt like doing them. Thinking about them is the thing I enjoy, if that makes any sense.

"The info at r/noFap, I recall, suggests moving away from these fantasy images if possible, and return to "natural" stimulation with a live partner"

^ it's this idea that is the important one to me in this. I feel the need to be able to respond to the natural stimulation only without fantasizing. It's not that it makes me feel dirty or inadequate that I have to fantasize, just maybe...a little unnatural? I like going the natural route when possible.

As for the "science" behind all this, I think it's just common sense. If you do anything a lot, you will become desensitized to it. Whether it makes you a "chick magnet" or not is one thing (not sure I believe that part), but increased stimulation with real life partners? Not only believable, but I'm sure it's true, just based on good sense.

[Abandon]

most certainly the latter, i'm p. sure

[Rhyis.]

no shit this

The fuck do you know about real life partners son.

[Abandon]

^

[Rhyis.]

I thought spam understood backhanded jokes towards others. Why is it that none of you seem to get them?

[Rhyis.]

I'm starting to think you don't know what latter means. Ain't nothing retarded about a good old fashion fat joke.

[Abandon]

possible tits will always trump a fat joke. unless we're talking about fat tits.

[Rhyis.]

Tits are no joking matter.

[Milkster]

lol; these last few pages.

[Milkster]

The reason I stopped fapping is because I reached a point where I couldn't cum during sex, hours on end and nothing, no stimulation at all; I was just going through the motions. Whenever I take a break from fapping and internet porn, everything just feels better.

Which is a probably now since my naked body is on people for five hours a day, NRBs pop up all the time now.

[Rhyis.]

Maybe boys just don't do it for you anymore. Starving your dick is but a temporary fix.

[Rhyis.]

This conversation reminds me of this shit.

[Qalbert]

[Conrad]

so I learned that people should do things in moderation

mind-blowing I know

[MF Perm tha Fineass]

I'm not sure if you're talking about pics of my porn collection or sex with my bf. I'm going to hope the former.

of you fapping. just to be sure.

[MF Perm tha Fineass]

or worked on that Cmaj scale bro

why would anyone waste time playing with a piece of wood with strings on it. sounds dumb bro.

[Qalbert]

I play with a piece of wood but there aren't any strings on it