How many is too many?

[BaneTheBrawler]

At this point,



I'll try one last time to explain, though: It's not the pussy. The reason my woman's opinion would matter is the same reason yours doesn't: I'd care about her. I don't care about you. I value the opinions of the people I care about. THAT's what you're seeing on the pedestal. I'm not talking about one-night stands, here, either. As I said, I don't want that, and never will. So the woman I'd be having sex with wouldn't just be some chick, she'd be very important to me. As a person. Which is what makes her opinion about our sex important. If I do end up having a one night stand or two (I'll admit, even though it's not what I want, it still might happen anyway.), that chick's opinion isn't going to matter any more than yours does.

[Salodin]

I can't separate emotion from the whole thing. If my woman is an easy lay, I just can't find myself attracted to her enough to want a serious relationship with her; she just feels cheap, and I don't want a cheap girlfriend or wife.

There's a difference between enjoying your single life and experiencing things sexually, and being a cheap, easy lay. A big difference.

[Mazmaz]

Am I the only one who's interested in number of ex-boyfriends as opposed to number of cocks? Or is asking this too much for the delicate egos too?

[Salodin]

Am I the only one who's interested in number of ex-boyfriends as opposed to number of cocks? Or is asking this too much for the delicate egos too?

If we exclude the number of "boyfriends" or "girlfriends" we think we have when we're kids, I figured it wouldn't matter. What kind of person has a bf/gf and doesn't fuck them? Just sayin~

[hey]

This. It shouldn't be a big deal, unless there's something the female is ashamed of or wants to hide. And if there's a reason to feel ashamed of by having a large number of partners, well then don't have a large number of partners. I thought this was all simple stuff, but I guess not.

Except not, since they may not be ashamed, but for some people, it's a deal breaker, for whatever reason.

I want a relationship to mean something to me, and it doesn't mean something to me if I know my partner is easy. I know some women just want sex cause it feels good, more power to them; but it's not for me.

This would make sense if you all you wanted was sex. Wanting a challenge makes sense. But just because someone is easy to have sex with, does not mean it's easy to have a real relationship with them.

[Mojo]

At this point,



I'll try one last time to explain, though: It's not the pussy. The reason my woman's opinion would matter is the same reason yours doesn't: I'd care about her. I don't care about you. I value the opinions of the people I care about. THAT's what you're seeing on the pedestal. I'm not talking about one-night stands, here, either. As I said, I don't want that, and never will. So the woman I'd be having sex with wouldn't just be some chick, she'd be very important to me. As a person. Which is what makes her opinion about our sex important. If I do end up having a one night stand or two (I'll admit, even though it's not what I want, it still might happen anyway.), that chick's opinion isn't going to matter any more than yours does.

Having criteria the way you do is going to keep you single. It's sex, not a shuttle launch. You shouldn't aim for an 8 hour debriefing on the matter.

[BaneTheBrawler]

Read the rest of the thread.

[Aksannyi]

I'm curious, Aksannyi, would you give generalizations?

Yes, absolutely. I don't see why an exact number is so important though. I enjoy sex. A lot. I am a sexual person. I know that when I end up with someone, the fact that I've had multiple partners won't faze him, just as it won't faze me that he's had a lot. It will be someone who is as sexual as I am and will understand that sex is sometimes just sex and sometimes it's deeper (lolpun).

I'm not at all insecure about it, but the hell I went through in that past relationship seriously tainted me against wanting to be nearly as forthcoming in the future. I have no trust issues and I'm not afraid to share that I've been with a good number of people, I just don't see why anyone who is with me now needs details. "I was with other people, more than X and less than Y, I'm with you now, let's leave it as it is." My past is my past, I do dwell on it from time to time but I don't live in it.

That make sense?

Also, to say that because I've had N partners means that sex is considered meaningless to me (N being whatever threshold you deem it to be, I suppose) is stupid. Sex is a fun thing to do sometimes when I just want to get some, and sex with someone I love means a whole lot. Shit is situational. I'm sorry, but the battery operated boyfriend doesn't always do it for me. Sue me. There is a difference between sex and making love. One means something, the other doesn't.

[dejet]

We have some people who think like our parents did. (or some of the generation at least) Why are you guys trying you turn them into people who think nothing of sex.

There is nothing wrong with them caring, the more partners you have had the better the odds they have something. That is fact. Even if you warp that shit up.

Everyone in the thread sides with that woman can do what they like, and not a single person has said that a woman who has had 100 partners is evil and should feel like crap. It is just not a trait they want in their GF/partner/BF/. I wont date a woman that smokes, did that once pain in the ass to keep your car not smelling like; even though I would not let her smoke it in it and having her go outside at random. I see nothing wrong with their view. Hell I even told her do not smoke before you/I come over if you plan to have sex.

Also, to say that because I've had N partners means that sex is considered meaningless to me (N being whatever threshold you deem it to be, I suppose) is stupid. Sex is a fun thing to do sometimes when I just want to get some, and sex with someone I love means a whole lot. Shit is situational. I'm sorry, but the battery operated boyfriend doesn't always do it for me. Sue me. There is a difference between sex and making love. One means something, the other doesn't.

I feel like I started this a little with N partners means sex is meaningless. I did not mean it in that way by any means. How I stand means that sex with N partners(N being a random large number that is on a person to person bases) means yon can sleep with a person easy. It is not bad, it means you like sex. However to me, it feels like if I get to that point it means less, at least at the start.

Think of it like this, a woman/man(to me it is for both) sleeps with you. great sex you think the relationship is going great, you just hit that all important part where you feel everything is now in the open. Then you find out you are number 23. he/she is 23 years old. That, to me anyways makes it feel like we got pushed back a little. Is it bad? not really but it slows down the relationship in my eyes because I now have to see if you just wanted to sleep with me or you care.

Person to person this case will be different. Like I said my numbers not so low and I fall into this case I posted myself, and I posted 1~10 even though I am over that. It is just how I see it. I had a girlfriend who was 18 turning 19 last year. She was sorta turned off by my number and I can not really blame her. She got over it after a few months but it did make things a little rocky at the start.

[Plow]

wanting a partner that "takes sex seriously" and hasn't had many partners because they want it to be very meaningful is all good


unless you've not treated that way and aren't willing to give someone a chance to prove they can be serious but expect someone to do so for you, then you're just being a douche

[dejet]

this is also why I said from person to person. It falls into any trait you do not want. You might compromise or it might be a deal breaker.

If I wont give the light of day to a smoker why should someone who feels strongly about sex be any different. Everyone I feel thinks it means noting and should have zero baring because well most of us are on the high side. good/bad if someone does not give you a shot thats up to them if it is a trait they do not want. Its also your right to think its moronic.

[AoE]

I feel like some of the opinions espoused in here are or will become kinda irrelevant because I'm inclined to think through personal experience the longer you stay single after being in atleast one meaningful relationship that failed for one reason or another, and the older you get, the more likely you are willing to look past some of your more shallow aspects of attraction to get/hook-up with someone, even if just casual unless it just comes that easy for you. My mindset on relationships changed the fuck up after breaking up with the girl I was with for 4 years on-top of me simply getting older and not caring so much about some of the ideas I had about women.

I remember when I was young and had all these pure ideas for what I wanted in a girl. In hindsight, that mindset probably kept me out of potential relationships/hook-ups because I was being selfish, only caring about what I wanted. Naturally though, there are just some chicks I'm not fucking with no matter what and that's fine too.

I think it's ok to be shallow to a point but the more you descend into the ocean, the less fish you have to choose from.

[dejet]

you are right, if someone is 30 and single odds are they will say "screw how many you have been with"

but by the looks of it most people on our forums are in their 20's and want to look for mr/miss right. so ya to say irrelevant is fully wrong.

I could take it a few steps out more, why give a fuck at all you have 40~60 years on average to live left.

we are talking about right now, in this moment.

[BaneTheBrawler]

Yes, absolutely. I don't see why an exact number is so important though. ....more stuff....

Makes sense.

[Apelila]

I love my dick size lol. The look of fear, intrigue, and eventually "challenge accepted" on their face when they see it are priceless.

Made it to this post before chiming in. Not picking on you HK, yours was just the post I got to when I smirked and said "No one's posting their width, just length".

I'm not going to get into a whore off, but

Spoiler: show

I'm pretty comfortable saying that there's only one other gay on the board who definitely has a number higher than mine.
This subject came up the other day, for 2012 so far I'm at 67, not including repeats. And this is a very slow year for me because I'm in the middle of freaking no where and a few of those 67 are repeat offenders.

So I'm getting a kick out of these "no more than 10 ever" replies.

On size: Size absolutely doesn't matter if you're hot and active. If your hot and willing to put energy into it, this should never, EVER be a concern. If it does turn into one, use toys. Toys when used by another person take on a completely different life than when used solo.

Also, if you have a pencil dick and expect to lay there while someone uses it for you, then you're in for a rude reality. No one wants a lazy top. The very same thing goes for big guys. Actually DOUBLE for big guys. Nothing is worse than a guy with a big ol' thing who doesn't know how to use it. Huge guys are fun exactly twice if they don't know what they are doing and they wont let you ride because:
The first time because of hormones and getting all the walls hit
The second time because until it's over you know for certain it will always be bad, you can at least pretend.

I actually feel bad for guys who are truly 8+ and girthy because that can hurt if you aren't up to the challenge. # of people you've had before does not matter when it comes to men who are truly bigger. 5-6 inchers are not going to get as far in as an 8, and a skinny six incher will do less than a big fat 4.

Here comes math mother fuckers.

Yes most people taper to the end, so these numbers are a bit skewed. Think of it more as a guideline, since said taper is almost universal.

Using basic math for volume of a cylinder (Pi*R²*H) we see:

A guy 6" and 2" wide is going to have roughly a total volume of 19 cubic inches.
A guy 8" and 2" wide is going to have a volume of 25 cubic inches.
Now let this sink in: 4" and 3" wide is .... 28 cubic inches.

Stop here. Imagine a cubic Inch. Now imagine the difference between 19 and 28 of them. Ok good? Now next.



A guy 8" and 3" wide* is going to have a volume of 56 cubic inches.
Gentlemen, girth is more important. So quit focusing on length you morons.
Also, if you have a gigantic dong realize you are going to hurt someone shoving that fucker in balls deep on the first thrust. Don't be an idiot, work up to it.

[Mazmaz]

It's always hilarious when gays come boasting about the number of fucks they've had, like it's a hard thing to find men to sleep with.

[Apelila]

I like how straight men, who judge all size, shape, color and manner of women act like gay men aren't just as freaking picky over what they'll stick their dick into or ride.

Edit:
Is it hard to find a any man to screw, regardless of hazard? No.
Is it hard to find a man who isn't ugly, stupid, lazy, a drug abuser, alcoholic, unsatisfying, mean, married, bad in bed, unattractive or crazy? Yes. All of the above is impossible.

Double edit, pulling up things as I'm reading through the thread:

That brings up another thing. Fat... well maybe not fat fat, but overweight cops. They might not look like they're in shape but they'll still run you down. I'd hate to get chased by some of the cops around here just for the fact that I'd probably be killed when they tackled me.

My ex was an MP, 5'7" and 190, 200 lbs. He could sprint really, REALLY fast. I watched him chase down someone in full gear one time, I would never, EVER want to be hit by that. The guy turned and .... it wasn't pretty. The look on his face before impact when he turned though was -hilarious-. That moment of "oh fuck me" followed by "oh fuck, that is about to slam into me and wreck my shit" and not in the sexy way.

[Milkster]

It's always hilarious when gays come boasting about the number of fucks they've had, like it's a hard thing to find men to sleep with.

It's not difficult to find numerous women to sleep with either, if you have the skill to pick them up that is.

[Apelila]

Actually it's a double standard. If any of the straight guys had pulled the amount of tail I have who among them should be ashamed? Who would be believed?

[Churchill]

It's not difficult to find numerous women to sleep with either, if you have the skill to pick them up that is.

ok plow