Forum Get Well Card for Nirokun

[BaneTheBrawler]

and when you're coming up with pet-names for his junk you can call it The Dilanator or Dilatron or dilatador bailando.

[Nirokun!]

The Expander, The Stretcher (Oh nurse, The Stretcher is here!)

[Charismatic]

To be quite honest, calling them TMI updates is woefully inaccurate. So far its more like NEI updates.
I want more.


EDIT: Also, as far as feeling goes... do you prefer your new vagina or ye olde penis (I know you haven't had the vag long and haven't worked out all the kinks yet so it may be too early to say)

[Nirokun!]

To be quite honest, calling them TMI updates is woefully inaccurate. So far its more like NEI updates.
I want more.


EDIT: Also, as far as feeling goes... do you prefer your new vagina or ye olde penis (I know you haven't had the vag long and haven't worked out all the kinks yet so it may be too early to say)

Feeling as in? Ease of orgasm? Penis is easier. It's not just yanking it back and forth, I'm sure anyone with a penis knows there's more to it than that (I've seen women in videos try to alternate yanking it off and using it to try and stab him in the groin as their up-and-down motion, lol). Post-op, it's all about circles. The clitoris is just one part, and I don't know about other women, but the erectile tissue above the clitoris (I guess this is part of the clitoris) and the area below it between and including the labia minora all feels nice, so you try to circle and hit them all, that has felt the best. That being said though, I've only tried masturbation post-op 4 times so far (once with the vibrator), with varying levels of pain and drug use, paired with zero sex drive to make it interesting. It was more or less a test, to relieve anxiety and post-op fear about sensation and orgasm. Sensation is there, but there's no "escalation" to orgasm, there's no "rush" or "build up" (idk what to call it). It's like starting to masturbate when you're not in the mood, and you're like "this feels okay, but I'm not ***oh yeah there we go***", but before that point where it escalates. You feel something because it's your body, but it doesn't go anywhere. This could be due to low testosterone/no sex drive, or the drugs, or that it's too early (I read about others that didn't achieve their first orgasm until past the point I'm at now), or maybe those nerves were severed during surgery and I'll never orgasm again (now I'm thinking about the possibility of "wet dreams" where I'd orgasm in my sleep, but I haven't had that either and it's been +4 months). I expressed my concern about orgasm to my PA during my visit yesterday, and she said there's a possibility that I won't be able to do it on my own and would need a partner to make it happen. Whatever the case is, I'm going to withhold judgement until the granulation goes away, I stop taking drugs, and I start having a sex drive again. The granulation between the labia minora is starting to heal (at least a small part of it), I'm weaning off of the tramadol, and I'm lowering my estrogen dose (allowing what little testosterone I make now start to creep back up), so I'm hopeful.

[Charismatic]

That's exactly what I was looking for.
Glad I have a penis.

[tancients]

How to contribute, where to contribute....

I remember being told that the first orgasm could take up to 1.5 years post-op to actually occur, though I managed to dodge that bullet by remembering the sensations and thoughts that got me off with another partner and orgasmed around week 6. It wasn't a circle motion either but rapid patting on the lower vulva area. Circle is good, but it only is 'playing' rather than building up to an O. Direct clitoral stimulation is a bit much still and borderline painful. Interestingly, surgery at about the same time, fwiw, but different surgeon. Different strokes for different folks applies quite aptly here!

I could go into detail of my own experiences, but I've already gone way beyond my norm for self-sharing on a public forum, for which I blame the overwhelmingly supportive and inquisitive commentary of the other posters here. So there it be.

[Nirokun!]

I will try this "patting" next time. 0/5

[kuronosan]

Just stay optimistic, Niro.

[Abandon]

is this pat the same enthusiastic one we see in porn? if so, lol

[Viq]

is this pat the same enthusiastic one we see in porn? if so, lol

Total tangent, and maybe showing my age a little, but am I the only one who can't stand modern porn? A girl slapping her pussy like it's an old CRT tv with a fuzzy picture while making some unnatural sounds gagging on a dick is just not doing anything for me. Don't be that girl, Niro. Don't be that girl.

[Abandon]

Total tangent, and maybe showing my age a little, but am I the only one who can't stand modern porn? A girl slapping her pussy like it's an old CRT tv with a fuzzy picture while making some unnatural sounds gagging on a dick is just not doing anything for me. Don't be that girl, Niro. Don't be that girl.

fucking lol

[Nirokun!]

Total tangent, and maybe showing my age a little, but am I the only one who can't stand modern porn? A girl slapping her pussy like it's an old CRT tv with a fuzzy picture while making some unnatural sounds gagging on a dick is just not doing anything for me. Don't be that girl, Niro. Don't be that girl.

If it's for an orgasm, I'll try it. >_> Maybe it simulates a man's body "thumping" the general area? Whenever I could get that before during masturbation, that was really nice. But really, I just see women doing circles or doing the up and down motion (I may have been watching women masturbate on xtube and compared notes rofl). I just feel like, post-op, I don't have that much loose skin to move around. It looks very uh, neat and tidy, but I can see the benefits of more loose/stretchy skin down there.

Edit: And I see what looks like "scratching" of the area. Like really scratching it all up! Obviously no long nails, and cue the jokes about lesbians with short nails.. lol

[Charismatic]

Let us know how patting goes. Hopefully you can share with us all of your vagina tickling tricks.
Especially helpful for Lucavi... he'll already know exactly what you like.

[tancients]

If it's for an orgasm, I'll try it. >_> Maybe it simulates a man's body "thumping" the general area? Whenever I could get that before during masturbation, that was really nice. But really, I just see women doing circles or doing the up and down motion (I may have been watching women masturbate on xtube and compared notes rofl). I just feel like, post-op, I don't have that much loose skin to move around. It looks very uh, neat and tidy, but I can see the benefits of more loose/stretchy skin down there.

Edit: And I see what looks like "scratching" of the area. Like really scratching it all up! Obviously no long nails, and cue the jokes about lesbians with short nails.. lol

The 'patting' as it were involves some pressure on the mons pubis and some ancillary stimulation to the erectile tissue around the clitoris. Two fingers also need to be in a particular place, and it's most certainly not interesting to look at. Beyond the first time or two, it's just been for a quickie release rather than a good one. Not an exact science. Just gotta explore.

As long as you're in pain though, unless you're wired to get dopamine release from pain (good ol' masochists), it'll be much more difficult to actually peak. The more worked up about hitting orgasm the harder it'll be too. For now I'd say, play, explore, and if something feels good, explore that some more. Eventually you might find that trigger that can push you over. There's also different types of orgasm, clitoral and vaginal, but might be going a bit much more than needed.

I'd suggest bloodwork if you haven't, to see what your levels are at. Your body might be metabolizing some of the E into T, or you might benefit from some vaginally applied T cream to help arousal hit more. Just relax. Stress/anxiety also often makes it harder to peak!

If you have specific questions or curiosities, feel free to PM if you're not comfortable sharing your proclivities out and about.

[Abandon]

Check Niro's title. There hasn't been much left to imagination, lol

[tancients]

But a few things have been, so I just left the doorstop in the door as an option!

[kuronosan]

But a few things have been, so I just left the doorstop in the door as an option!

Are you an OB?

[tancients]

Are you an OB?

OB....GYN? And no, no I am not.

[Rionel]

I don't remember how I wandered into here but oh well~

Good luck with all your current transitioning Nirokun! I can't imagine how tough it's been on you, but you totally deserve the long term happiness it'll bring for you in the end.

[Nirokun!]

If you have specific questions or curiosities, feel free to PM if you're not comfortable sharing your proclivities out and about.

PM sent!

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Small update:

Because not all updates are good updates, this will be a spoiler.

Spoiler: show

The culture taken of my secretions tested positive for E. coli. I was sent home with the prescription for antibiotics just in case, so I just took the first dose. Makes me a little sad, I've been diligent with front-to-back, and trying to avoid cross contamination. I hope this resolves quietly!