So, as a white person: It would be a blindness to my experienced social privilege that would have me question why a Black colleague can’t just cut off his neatly-coiffed dread-locks or afro, and have a more professional hairdo. Why a girl has to have such a distracting afro hairdo, and can’t just do something more pretty and normal with her hair.
We’re born with these symbolic associations via appearance, nationality, gender, sexual orientation, etc., but it’s our experiences accrued moving through life in these symbolic roles of privilege or subjugation, that inform our sense of context, self-awareness, and expectations of others through the same system of symbolic associations (aka semiotics) that we then act upon towards others in our adult lives. As bulldozers or as ballerinas, that’s where we can exercise our own choices.