Random Fail FWP Thread 2: Something, Something, Your Mother's a Whore.

[zoobernut]

Yeah as a parent of three kids. They are all spoiled brats to a certain degree and we have done this plenty of times when it makes sense. You know why? Because when you have multiple kids there is enough shit going on that is tough to deal with and you will do anything to avoid another battle and another tantrum. Not only that but in that particular instance it is actually benefiting you in the long run because imagine the parent deals with the tantrum from the 5 yo and the kid gets over it. They will constantly try to steal or play with the older siblings toy and that will cause further strife and tantrums and battles. By getting a second one for the younger sibling you also help out the older sibling by allowing them to fully enjoy their new toy instead of having to fight their younger sibling for it.


Not always the best strategy and certainly not what you do all the time. Believe me we tell our kids no plenty and are working to get them to be not spoiled or selfish but there are also times when it is an ok strategy to take to smooth things over.

That being said your mother sounds terrible in many other ways and context definitely changes the flavor of situations like that in a big way so I can understand how you would feel terrible about it given everything else.

Edit: To be clear we never did this on the kids birthdays those are always treated as special for that child. But more like other moments when we decide to get them something spontaneously special. Also doesn't apply to things they earned for good behavior or good grades etc. Though in situations like that we try to give all the kids goals to work towards to earn something.

[Myrrh_Quetz]

That’s the thing. It wasn’t a random day. It was my birthday. And it’s not like he got his toy the next day or a few hours later. It was in the middle of a birthday party. I think back to my friend Christian. He had CF aswell. He had a brother and a sister. Christian was spoiled because his parents knew he was most likely going to die young and his siblings were nothing but supportive. And I wish so much I could be 1/10th of the person he was. Even though he was spoiled to such an insane degree. He was so thankful and happy for everything. He deserved to live. Not me. He didn’t even make it to his 17th birthday.

And by reinforcing his cry baby behaviour, my mother made my brother into a massive piece of shit. I’m talking, one Christmas, money was tight. He wanted an XBOX But all mom could afford at the time was a Wii. He opened it. Saw it. Proceeded to scream at her. Threatened suicide a number of times. Took the Wii, smashed it. My mom then went and bought him an Xbox.

And ya. Of all my grudges and hate against my family. That’s probably the smallest one

[Boyiee]

My pizza isn't here yet the estimated delivery was 7:11 it's 7:08 this is a nightmare.

[Myrrh_Quetz]

Just got another grocery delivery that I didn’t ask for, want, or need. It’s about 250 dollars worth of food that I can’t eat due to meds, and the wife can’t eat due to not being able to actually eat. The only, and I mean THE ONLY useable items are a 4 litre of whole milk, and Pepsi.

Wasn’t feeling well. Decided to nap. Wife vomited. She too decided to nap. I had fallen asleep for about 5 minutes. Same smashing at the door. As I open the door. There are 6 massive cloth bags full of food. And it’s not like me being picky or anything. Like, she got me 10 Grapefruits. Those can literally kill me. There is what is clearly expired and starting to grow mold “crispy” chicken, chicken tenders that are a pale green, loaves of bread that are squashed beyond use, and the list goes on.

I had the wife message my mom to tell her to come back and take this shit since I don’t want to waste food. “I just home, have some fucking respect. I worked 23 hours today. I need a break. If you don’t want it. Throw it out”

WE USED TO BE SO POOR THAT THIS AMOUNT OF FREE FOOD WOULD HAVE MADE US CRY IN JOY.

[Tomiko]

Oh god, trying to narrow it down to five instances would be a pain in the ass. I think my ah-ha moment for me though was when I tore and dislocated my shoulder playing baseball with my cousins. I'm crying and screaming in pain I've never experienced before, my shoulder feeling like it's on fire with any movement, my cousins are practically having to carry me back and my mother just acts like I'm wanting attention and if my arm is moving, it must be fine.

[Ratatapa]

So heard today that the baby has 1/71 chance to have trisomy 13-18 or 21

While it seems small they passed from 1/4000 to 1/355 to 1/71 due to age and other stuff

We passed some blood test and should know in about 10 days ish

GF is 26 weeks preggo

[Cream Soda]

almost a year since my last wave of tooth pain but it's back

[Myrrh_Quetz]

man, ever since Covid, I'd had to do all medical appointments over the phone and the night before, I don't know why but it causes me such anxiety that I end up having a panic attack.

I don't know if its just the fear of being cut off cold turkey from my pain meds, which has happen before, the the fear that they'll keep trying to declare me an mentally troublesome patient so anything I say against them gets discredited, since I'm like 95% sure I got my Transplant Nurse fired and my Transplant doctor in a lot of trouble.

So, I've popped sleeping pills, I haven't slept in two days, I should be passed the fuck out. But I can't, anytime I close my eyes, I replay a lot of the outright abuse I received at the start of Cancer. And I'm on bare bones pain killers as is and I"m barely able to get out of bed most days. If I get cut off cold turkey again, I can see some serious damage happening to my lungs.

To say I feel unwanted is a massive understatement

Phone call appointment went good. Spoke to a new doctor. I forgot I filed a massive complaint against my two primary CF/Transplant Doctor and Nurse. I filed a complaint against my doctor for her telling me that she was okay with and had hoped Cancer would kill me, she violated doctor/patient confidentiality by telling my mother my entire medical history and how they think “I’m mentally unstable and can’t be trusted”, multiple times, and a whole myriad of other shit. And I filed a complaint against the Nurse who basically told me to go fuck myself at the start of cancer and had admitted to me that she was hoping I’d have waited the two months for that CT I asked for at the start of cancer so that “I wouldn’t be her problem anymore”. I can also confirm that I did that get bitch of a Nurse fired.

Now, my only fear is meeting with a new psychiatrist. I know it needs to be done. I know I need to fix my fear, anxiety, and PTSD, but that’s easier said than done.

Fuck, I am just a mental mess

[Botosi]

Hit a piece of ice going into my driveway and cracked my front bumper. Wasn’t even pulling in fast.

Super annoyed because it’s a new car and I’m trying to save money for a down payment on a house. Not sure if I’m going to get it fixed anytime soon or not now depending on the price. Every time I look at my car I’m going to be in a bad mood now.

Getting super depressed lately because my job sucks and has me working extra hours for free because I’m salary based, and now this.

[AoE]

As someone who wanted to buy the same car, I'm sad for you, fam.

[Byrthnoth]

working extra hours for free because I’m salary based

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I have worked something like 3 hourly jobs in my life / don't remember them and I know the billable hours are an entirely different fiasco, but in theory I feel that hourly wages should set up very healthy workplace practices. Pay me $75/hr and have me bill my time to projects based on a strict accounting of my meetings and crap. I bet a lot of the sprint planning review re-review pre-meetings would get trashed.

[Ksandra]

OMG I JUST WASTED MY WHOLE MORING.

So we are doing Wednesday as asynchronous learning. Basically we don't meet with the students but give them assignments to do on Wednesday to complete for credit. Wednesday for teachers is supposed to be grading and all the extra stuff we have to do with distance learning.

We are using a new program this year and the program has a placement test (one ELA and another Math) for students. We have to have the results filed for LAUSD and we have some students who haven't completed yet. My boss asked for a list of our students who haven't taken the tests so they could organize a way to get the kids to complete them. She had put another teacher in charge of the program. I love this teacher and trust her (first mistake). I asked the teacher if there was a way to print out a report, she said no you had to go to the students profile one-by-one.

Problem is, too, I archived the tests last semester which means I had to generate the class list, click on student, click on archived, click test, click unarchive, view whether student completed, re-archive. Rinse repeat. Took me three hours to go through the 9th grade, then I remembered the math teacher asked if I could do the 10th grade math for her.

I said, nah, I can't this is monotonous. Messed with reports for 10 minutes, FOUND A WAY TO MAKE A SPREADSHEET OF COMPLETION FOR ALL STUDENTS AND ALL TESTS. Why oh why did I trust that teacher. *flips table*

[Koyangi]

You don't need 5~ more years of this to be a good Administrator.

[Astylla]

Just fell at work because I'm a clutz and apparently didn't move the desk chair away as far as I thought. Worst part was I was on a phone call with mental health so hit the speaker button so they heard it all , lol.

Pride is hurt the most right now but expect to be sore tomorrow.

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[Petitssk]

How little can people care about their business correspondence? I get that auto-correct can be annoying, but why would you ever send an e-mail in which you address a business partner as Mr. Kleenex? Not sure if I should feel insulted, but Jesus, take the two seconds it takes to check if at least the name is correct.

[Outlaw]

I'm on Entyvio for my Crohns disease. It's sorta like Remicade where it is administered via IV slowly over a period of time. Unlike Remicade though or other similar drugs it's designed to only treat Crohns or Ulcerative Colitis and supposedly does not suppress your immune system. I started it last year after a colonoscopy showed the disease had returned. I had to have a bowel resection in January 2019 because a small part of the intestine had gotten so damaged and scarred that it was only a matter of time before I got obstructed. My GI doctor said it was only in two small spots near the surgery site but it was serious enough that he wanted to put me on something right away to try and get ahead of it this time. I have taken it before years ago kind of.. When it was new my doctor wanted to try it on me to get me into remission. He was enthusiast about it because studies had shown good results, only works in your gut, etc. Thing is like Remicade it is VERY expensive. When you first start treatment they give you what they call, "loading doses" very close together and if you tolerate it and their are no side effects you start treatment of one infusion every eight weeks. Back then just after I had started my first regular treatment like a week later I got a letter from my insurance company saying, "NOPE! TO EXPENSIVE!" and they wouldn't pay for it so I had to stop it. I was put on and off Prednisone (FUUUUUUUUU >_<) and it just gradually got worse. Cut to recent times.

So I'm on it for real now and they said at first not to worry that insurance covers it now and that costs have come down. The lady that handles insurance at their office said that I would only have to pay $358 every time I have a treatment. That's it. Well she was WRONG!! I got a bill the other day for over 4,000 dollars! Turns out that the 358 is just the co-pay every time I have the treatment! The insurance company does pay a huge chunk of the cost and they eat (lose money) on some of it. My out of pocket cost is $1,428 for each treatment. So with the co-pay it's really $1,786. The bill I got was just for the first few loading doses and not my latest treatments. I literally don't know what I'm going to do. I can't afford this.

Talk to the hospital billing department, see if there's any assistance programs you can sign up for. Humira and Remicade, for example, have programs through the pharmaceutical company that help with payments. Also, some hospitals have specialists whose job is to help patients figure stuff like that out, so even if the billing department has nothing for you, ask if they have any other staff that might be able to help. Your doctor may also be able to help.

Failing that, the billing department might be able to make accomodations for you to get a discount for paying a certain amount up front, or something like that. There are also charities that often help with this sort of thing. If nothing else, check with the Crohn's and Colitis Foundation. They might be able to offer better advice/resources.

I thought I would give an update on this for the heck of it. I talked to someone at the hospital and they said I didn't have to pay the four thousand all at once and it was on a payment plan. I have already paid for half of the 4k. That's the good news. The bad news is I don't qualify for any financial assistance. They are pretty much tapped out because of Covid and they only giving aid to the most desperate in need. I don't have a lot of money but I'm not poor. I didn't mean to make it sound like I was in my original post. I just freaked out cause I thought I would have to pay all that money at once. The bill just said, "Balance due" and nothing about payments. It was the first time in my life that I got worried I would have to choose between medical treatment or normal bills. That said I'm still going to have to thigten my belt for the foreseeable future. No more unnecessary spending. Any future stimulus payment we get is just going to go poof I guess. The cost of one treatment after insurance is $1,786 and I'm going to pay 890sih a month. I think I can do it. I thought about calling the Crohn's and Colitis Foundation but I will only do that if it gets bad.

[Cream Soda]

lmao i got fired and rehired in the same shift

The fail is that i didn't stay fired. She thought she fired me for something I wouldn't get unemployment for; when she found out I would, i said nvm on the firing lmao. If they want to pay me to sit at home and not come in, I woulda been 100% down for it

[Myrrh_Quetz]

I might have kidney stones, so that’s fun. Waiting on my doctor for confirmation.

[Cream Soda]

I don't have a smart phone/telephone service. Lost hours due to covid there's unemployment benefits for that even on lost hours if you're working. Can't even apply if you don't have a phone one is required to apply so stuck until i can get someone w/ a smart phone willing to come spend the time with me to go through the application process and then i'd need them for any time i wanted to log in via 2 factor authentication

[Anoat]

You can apply for a free smart phone on the stats of FL benefits website. I got asked if I wanted to apply for one when I did my SNAP application a little while back.