Random Fail FWP Thread 2: Something, Something, Your Mother's a Whore.

[Zetanio]

She does sound like she sucks.

Good job fam.

[Tokitoki]

Her response was "well I was disappointed and embarassed that you didn't have all your things packed when our friends got here to help.".

Fuck that. Good riddance.

[Zealot]

I should mention that our friends didn't move anything of mine besides my furniture and some miscellaneous boxes. I brought over all of my belongings on my own.

Also feel like I should mention that I spent the entirety of the 3 days prior helping HER move into her new place, since it was just right across the street, so moving day for her was "oh let's get this couch in here and order pizza, done" whereas for me it was renting a truck (which I let her use for the couch), loading up furniture, driving back and forth to where I'm staying 4 times, etc.

[Tokitoki]

I hate moving. I feel you.

[Zetanio]

I hate her. I feel you.

ftfy

[mallister]

Yeah this is not a fail, it's a victory dance.

[Tokitoki]

ftfy

I mean yes, but the moving process sucks. Renting a truck and making that trip back and forth many times.

[AoE]

Alright so I'm not gonna lie, this break up had me fucked up for a minute.

Starting as far back as two years ago I was thinking to myself that there was no way I could spend the rest of my life with this woman. She's needy, she's depressed, her weight bounces back and forth, she's insecure, she constantly complains about people she works with, and she thinks of herself almost exclusively. Now obviously this isn't her 100% of the time because we did have a pretty great and drama-free relationship together with a lot of laughs in it, but that's a brief summation of the stuff I had to deal with. And I mean I had to deal with it because it became my full time job to be her emotional support boyfriend. I let her move in with me after we met to get her out of the terrible apartment she was in. Then I moved us into our own brand new place together. I bought her a dog. I took care of that dog 90% of the time. I took in the cat from her old apartment so it wouldn't be abandoned and take care of it 100% of the time. I paid all our bills for a year so she could go to grad school for Classical Acting. I spent that year driving her to class at 8AM or picking her up at 9PM if she missed the metro or was just "too tired." I made cakes and candies for all of the class's special occasions. I talked her out of dropping out a dozen different times and listened every single night as she complained about the same 5 people in the class or the same things she found egregious about it. I made her meals for her. I introduced her to my larger circle of friends and made sure she got in good with all of them so she'd have more support if she needed it. I introduced her to the woman who became her new best friend in the world. She... got me good birthday presents, I will give her that.

So finally the talk comes up about marriage and she comes clean that she just never wants kids. Perfect. Like everything else that I had to do, all the times cleaning up after her (and then hearing that I didn't clean well enough), enduring her coming home from something fun only to announce "I'm sad" an hour later, the just constant slow drain on my emotional strength, the kid thing seals it. So we make the decision to wait out our lease and go our separate ways.

Two days before move-out date I was just struck by not wanting to do it. I have no idea where it came from but I was just shook about uprooting the life we had (which I should mention was super convenient for her but left me with an hour-long commute each way every day). I don't know, seeing my apartment getting packed up, knowing everything was really about to change, the end of everything familiar for the last 4 years, it really shook me up.

But then after everything was all moved out and we were saying goodbye and my guts were all wrenched, I said hey, I really thought this would work out. I really saw a life with you (wasn't exactly true but I wanted to end 4 years on a romantic note). Her response was "well I was disappointed and embarassed that you didn't have all your things packed when our friends got here to help."

So in the end, I really gotta thank her, because she helped me feel 100% better about my doing the right thing. I peaced right out, came back the next day to clean and lock up the apartment, dropped her things off with a friend, and did not look back. I'm staying with some other friends for now but should be set up in my own new place this weekend. Phew, I'm only telling this story here now instead of in Random Win because this is where it started, but it literally feels like I've been trying to move forward for 4 years with all my strength except I had a boulder strapped to me, and suddenly the straps came off.

I know I'm making her out to be pretty terrible and she's not, but damn, it does feel good to be out of that.

My dude. You know we go way back in FFXI and we've met irl several times. If you want my contact number to just get shit out of your system, I'm a great listener. I went through a retarded assed breakup recently and it fucked me up a bit but I have exciting stuff to look forward to soon and I'm doing my best to stay positive. Seriously feel free to contact me if you need it. Plus I'm like 5% Ashkenazi Jew so we're practically family.

[Zetanio]

Just come play FFXI with us and we'll nurse you back to being awesome.

[Zealot]

As soon as the internet is turned on at my new place, I'm there.

My dude. You know we go way back in FFXI and we've met irl several times. If you want my contact number to just get shit out of your system, I'm a great listener. I went through a retarded assed breakup recently and it fucked me up a bit but I have exciting stuff to look forward to soon and I'm doing my best to stay positive. Seriously feel free to contact me if you need it. Plus I'm like 5% Ashkenazi Jew so we're practically family.

My man.

Damn. Good community.

Sent from my SM-N960U using Tapatalk

[Moss]

Well it's normal to be fucked up from a breakup even if the relationship is shitty. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

Sent from my Pixel 2 using Tapatalk

[Celestialstrife]

Sorry to hear that, Zealot, sucks but sounds like a better thing in the long run, also lemme slide into your DMs now haha jk jk but if you do need someone to talk to I am always around most of the time! I hope things go better for you!

[Kalmado]

Don't worry dude you got this. I felt the same sort of after an almost 5 year went down the drain. 10 1/2 years later I'm in a good marriage. Even with our ups and downs, ramen diet from being broke and other things I'm glad the other didn't work out. You will feel the same at some point.

Sent from my LG-H901 using Tapatalk

[Byrthnoth]

something something helpful agrarian analogy about plowing different fields something

Diving back into FFXI would be comfortable, but if you can make yourself go hang out with friends then you should probably do it. This is the breakup phase where you battle for contested friends. Can't phone it in.

[Kalmado]

My fail is updating bios and it bricking windows. Get to now go thru fresh install hell.

Sent from my LG-H901 using Tapatalk

[Ksandra]

I can imagine that's hella hard, but glad you got out when you did. No point in sticking around for something that isn't working.

I agree with Byrth. Seek irl friends, too, but don't feel bad about enjoying the company of gaming friends as well. Just don't be an introvert about it. Seems like as people get older and technology has overtaken us, it's just to easy to ignore the good people around you.

[Ksandra]

My fail: Got a valentine's day gift for my hubby, and it has been sitting at UPS for like 3 days now, so he may not get it on time. And I paid extra for faster shipping. (Won't say what it is because he reads BG now and then.)

[BaneTheBrawler]

good job Z. glad youre pulling through.

[arus2001]

Who gets the dog, though? I know he said it got it for her, but taking care of it 90% of the time is gonna suck for the dog if she gets it.

[Boyiee]

She does sound like she sucks.

Good job fam.

This and a half.

Also now I want to play XI fuck why did I come here.