That Aldi thing

[Zealot]

About 10 weeks ago my sister-in-law, who'd had a post-partum related psychotic break and believed she was inhabited by her dead grandfather's spirit and was hearing voices telling her to hurt her twin babies and kill herself, and had always been a drinker but started heavily leaning into it, told my brother that she wanted to bring the twins on a trip to Florida by herself. He said no, so she said she wanted a divorce.

In the weeks that followed she almost instantly devolved from wanting a divorce to calling my brother stupid, worthless, terrible with the kids, screaming at him until he'd finally snap something back, and then smugly showing that she'd been recording him so she could play his 2-second reaction for her attorney and her family to show how awful and abusive he is. She works, he's retired former military with 100% medical disability so he stays home and takes care of the kids. She vanishes for days at a time to, as my brother discovered, go to North Carolina to be with her new girlfriend. When she comes home she takes a few selfies of herself with the kids to post on social media and then tosses them back at my brother and goes upstairs to drink or out on their porch to smoke weed and facetime with her girlfriend about how terrible she's being treated here.

A couple of weeks ago he got tired of her shoving his phone in her face and took it out of her hand. She scratched his arm so badly it left a scar, while he was holding a baby. He tried to escape and she followed him, and when he called 911 she started screaming that he was trying to crush her hand in the door. He then loudly announced that he was filming everything and she shut up. Cops came and did nothing. He followed up to ask if they could file a report, they hung up on him. Finally he goes to a magistrate and asks for a temporary order of protection. They almost say no just based on the arm alone until he shows them the video, and then they consent to a 5-day order. She's already left the house and is gone for all 5 days, but somehow finds out about it.

When I posted my original thread, she had gone straight to the magistrate before ever going home and used the same incident, her with no injuries and no video, to get an order on my brother for 7 days. He comes home from taking his sick daughter to the doctor (which she never asked about) and she locks herself in the nursery until a cop arrives and tells my brother that she had the order taken out and since he was out of the house, he can't come back in. Before he leaves she tries to get the officer to tell him he can't take either of their cars and should just walk out into the street with nothing. The cop told her he wouldn't do that, so he at least had a vehicle. I told him to come stay with me. This was over Labor Day weekend so he couldn't get to court and had to spend 6 days with no idea what his kids were doing. He did find out from a neighbor that eventually the girlfriend did show up while he was gone.

She took almost all their money out of their joint account and removes her paycheck as soon as it deposits. My brother gets his retirement from the Army but he's paying 100% of the bills, mortgage, and child care with it so he has nothing now. He's filed for divorce - which was enraging to her for some reason - but they do have a settlement proposal on the table wherein she would have to leave the house by July 1. He would probably be fine with signing it except it also contains a joint custody agreement and he can't imagine leaving his kids alone with this woman. He's heard her say (because when she drinks, which is always, she facetimes other people loudly) to her mother that she doesn't feel any attachment to the kids and doesn't want to be a mom. I personally am pretty sure she only shows interest because her girlfriend wants them.

Anyway, in the midst of all this my older sister went to visit the kids and smoked weed one night. My sister-in-law told my brother she was recording that and she'll show the court video of him letting his sister get high in the house with their kids in it. My sister's response was that there were probably a dozen videos of her getting high out there, she didn't care about another, so she asked me to help her find out who to complain tonat Aldi, where my sister-in-law works, to get her in trouble for all the shit she gets up to. That was the original basis for my request.

Honestly I don't know what the right thing to do is. My brother is going to need child support to care for the kids on his own until they're older and he can go back to work. That's gonna be tough if she loses her job for psychoses and alcoholism - not to mention that adultery is still a misdemeanor where they live so every time she calls her girlfriend on the company phone she's using company property in the commission of a crime. My sister wants to nail her to a wall, and having spent the weekend there for the twins first birthday recently, I don't know how my brother is even still sane. Also after we left she told him that we owed her money for the birthday cupcakes we ate because she never said we were allowed to.

She's dangerously unstable, makes my brother's life crazy and miserable every second she can, and odds are he's going to have to leave his kids with her a few days every week. My sister wanted to get her in trouble and make sure she stayed in trouble, so I took a chance here and asked if anyone knew how to reach Aldi HR. I eventually did figure it out myself (my sister is visiting again and the sister-in-law is pissed at her so I imagine she does know the letter exists).

Anyway so that's the story, Salodin.

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[Salodin]

You came through, fuck the haters.

Feel bad for your brother cause he seems to be doing everything right even with the struggles of medical disability. He really should be recording EVERYTHING, at all times, when shes around. It sucks that the courts are being sexist in favor of the mother, which is to be expected in 2019, but it doesnt suck any less.

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[Melena]

Yeah, like Salodin mentioned, everything needs to be recorded now, 24/7. I would strongly advise also that any interactions he has to have with her soon to be ex wife, have another family member he trusts there, and also recording.

Also document everything. Document the days he drops off the kids for visitation, what time he drops them off, date and time he picks them up. Doctors appointments, school/day care appointments, everything.

[Zealot]

I've been telling him that since day one, I know he has a lot but it's also tough for him to do while also caring for the twins and having no idea when she's going to come and go.

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[Melena]

Anyone in the family remotely technical that can come in and put in IP based cameras in the house, like the security type that can maybe also pick up audio?

[Milkster]

I have questions: sounds like she's always been some level of unstable and now has fully gone off the deep end? Why did he marry her and have multiple kids with her?

Are any of you close enough to stay with him to help be a witness record or assist with the children?

[Melena]

People change. My mother went jealous psycho and it took me moving out for my dad to finally move forward on divorcing her. The person you're divorcing very well may not be the same person you married.

[D44kpunk]

I have questions: sounds like she's always been some level of unstable and now has fully gone off the deep end? Why did he marry her and have multiple kids with her?

You serious bro? You've never made a mistake or misjudged someone? Everywhere I go it's you posting terrible takes.

Also damage is done so your goal here is to add insult to injury? You're a good person

[Zealot]

To the multiple kids thing, it's not like they could control the fact that it was twins.

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[Greatguardian]

He straight up said at the start she had a PPD related break.

[Salodin]

He straight up said at the start she had a PPD related break.

A lot of people dont understand how PPD messes with a person. You're right though, it explains everything...as unfortunate as it is.

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[Demosthenes]

Holy shit! What?

[Salodin]

Holy shit! What?

PPD, or his story? Lol

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[Demosthenes]

PPD, or his story? Lol

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Both. Wish I hadn't read it to be honest. Due date is today, but kiddo's not ready apparently. The thought of my wife getting PPD absolutely fucking terrifies me and this is a literal horror movie to me right now.

[Fiye]

Jesus christ

[Demosthenes]

I feel so bad for the dude and the kids and the ex wife to be.

[Salodin]

Both. Wish I hadn't read it to be honest. Due date is today, but kiddo's not ready apparently. The thought of my wife getting PPD absolutely fucking terrifies me and this is a literal horror movie to me right now.

Oh God lmao this is the wrong thread for you Haha bye demo

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[Salodin]

There are things you can do to cope with PPD, but she has to want to do it. Clearly the soon to be ex wife wants nothing to do with dick anymore though.

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[Demosthenes]

Maybe just his dick. Bisexuals exist.

[Salodin]

Damn I feel even worse for him now...

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