I don't like the name of this thread: giraffes

[Zealot]

Decades of unhappiness wrapping up in a murder suicide. Or leaving to go buy some smokes and never coming back.

I could learn to smoke.

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[Roranora]

what in the dominican jew is going on here

[Cantih]

My girlfriend wants to have a baby, I have concerns.

tbf, this could be your exit point.
idk if you do want kids and have said so

But if you don't and she does, and it's irreconcilable, that's a "Were do we go from here?" "Our separate ways."

[Zealot]

I do want to have a baby. I think I might actually make a good dad, I've got a pretty big chip on my shoulder about it from my dad never being there.

If we take all other emotion out of it, here's the situation:

Pros: My girlfriend comes from a pretty well-off family and her parents are throwing money at her to get her to her first house. My family was always pretty poor so I don't have anything like that. A child born into her family will probably never want for much.

Cons: She's got a chronic condition that requires immunosuppression and also untreated ADD. Her family also has a whole history with cancer and gastrointestinal issues plus a lot of other mental conditions. Besides how this might all play into her being a mother, I can't imagine pregnancy itself will be a positive for her health. Also if we have a baby it's pretty much a guarantee that my family will never be a big part of their lives growing up since she has no intention of moving from this area.

Other considerations: I'm 42 years old and my chances of finding another woman who wants to have a baby are pretty slim. It could be now or never.

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[Zealot]

Other pros: she does indeed have giant tits and I like looking at them.

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[Salodin]

You sound fine and just scared of commitment.

It's either this or get with another girl who already has kids and that suckssss

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[Anoat]

How about adoption? Skips the health concerns at least.

[Tyrath]

Oh if you actually want a baby then don't be running away

[Andalusian girls]

but also absolutely run away if you still don't actually wanna be with her but feel indebted / worry about aging what kinda marriage that child finna be born into

[Milkster]

I do want to have a baby. I think I might actually make a good dad, I've got a pretty big chip on my shoulder about it from my dad never being there.

If we take all other emotion out of it, here's the situation:

Pros: My girlfriend comes from a pretty well-off family and her parents are throwing money at her to get her to her first house. My family was always pretty poor so I don't have anything like that. A child born into her family will probably never want for much.

Cons: She's got a chronic condition that requires immunosuppression and also untreated ADD. Her family also has a whole history with cancer and gastrointestinal issues plus a lot of other mental conditions. Besides how this might all play into her being a mother, I can't imagine pregnancy itself will be a positive for her health. Also if we have a baby it's pretty much a guarantee that my family will never be a big part of their lives growing up since she has no intention of moving from this area.

Other considerations: I'm 42 years old and my chances of finding another woman who wants to have a baby are pretty slim. It could be now or never.

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Do you actually like this woman? Do you get excited to see her and tell her about things or do you tolerate her?

[Zealot]

I mean, she's always been good to me.

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[Milkster]

Do you actually want a kid? Most men it seems want a child in the same way a 6 year old wants a puppy or other pet.

[Milkster]

I mean, she's always been good to me.

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Oh.... yeah you need to go.

[thetruepandagod]

If you travel enough, get an Amex Plat for the lounge access and travel perks.

But if it's just for your current trip, the Costco Citi is fine.

my current trip may last the next 2 years.

Google tells me there are 20 costcos in South Korea

there is one that opened near us when i first moved here but i don't have my physical costco card and their system was not set up to find my membership any other way

Doesn't that card have an annual fee of $900? Not something I would recommend to someone not familiar with CC management

i am incapable of keeping track of payments. u are right to recommend me against it.

[thetruepandagod]

Other considerations: I'm 42 years old and my chances of finding another woman who wants to have a baby are pretty slim. It could be now or never.

i have not been using protection at all in korea and will marry the first girl i get pregnant. i don't know what i'll do if there are multiple pregnants

[Salodin]

I think it's important to contextualize whether zealot has EVER been excited and head over heels for a woman, and he's just not feeling this one. Or, maybe this is just his personality and he'd be like this with anyone. If it's the latter, this is just who you are and you should do the thing that's better for your future; shacking up and reproducing (imo).

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[Demosthenes]

1. There is NO contextualizing. If you're not happy, you're not happy. If no woman makes you happy, then you shouldn't be with any woman.
2. If he were to be bullheaded about it and stick with her, despite not being into her/being happy with her, having a fucking kid is ABSOLUTELY not the thing to do.

What the fuck is wrong with you man?

[Demosthenes]

That's some "kids will save our marriage" type shit, which is only slightly worse than "we'll stick together for the kids" nonsense. No child deserves to grow up in such an environment.

[Demosthenes]

Zealot, I'm begging you as your friend, pull off the bandaid, it only gets worse the longer you wait. If you're into kids, you can adopt solo and there's also no shortage of single moms looking for Mr. Right.

[Xno Kappa]

That's some "kids will save our marriage" type shit, which is only slightly worse than "we'll stick together for the kids" nonsense. No child deserves to grow up in such an environment.

A good friend of mine did this with his high school sweetheart. They had a kid thinking it would solve all their issues and it just made everything exponentially worse.

They still divorced shortly after that with the poor girl ending up being raised by her grandma. Now she’s in college and hates both her parents guts. Myself as her godfather along with her uncle were one of the few close friends/family members that went to her high school graduation.