The obvious solution then would be to simply throw in the towel on Al'Taieu gods. If the rewards aren't worth it to you, don't go after them. If you get to Absolute Virtue and wipe, well idk what to say other than oh well. They are worth it to some people, and those people will most likely pioneer a strategy for defeating Absolute Virtue.
If all FFXI boils down to for you is having pre-determined 100% win strategies for every mob in the game just so that you can equip some new item which doesn't really help you anyway since you only fight mobs which you had a 100% win strategy for even before you had this cool new item, then just accept that that's what the game is to you, move on, forget about Absolute Virtue, and go back to killing the 3 kings. If you value your time more than you value an Aureole, a Futsu no mitama, or a Novia earring, then move on and forget about Absolute Virtue. Apparently, just like relic weapons, these items simply are meant for only a select few people in the game. If that's not acceptable to you, take the stance than many already have adpoted with upgraded relic weapons and forget about ever having one, and move on to things that interest you more in the game.
If on the other hand the items are worth it to you, then you have no reason to complain about a monster being hard because you determined beforehand that you are willing to accept the time consuming nature of farming the pops and possibly wiping to any of the Jailers or Absolute Virtue and losing months worth of pops. If you don't agree to that, just don't go after them. Either it's worth it to you, or it's not. Make a decision.