Thoughts on Casual vs. Serious Relationships?

[Nirokun!]

i live in maryland lol

Where at in MD? I used to live in Columbia

i go to school in baltimore, and come back home to waldorf on breaks

[JoOeetheplatypuS]

It was a sin since Adam and Eve >.>

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lol jk?

[Lbelle]

This is hardly a derail, it's sitll a topic about conversation. Besides, you've had five full pages of response.

Funny how I get five pages of response then you come along and fuck it up. That's never ever happened before.

...owait.

[Nirokun!]

What I mean is, what turns you off to women? Is there anything? Have you ever not been attracted to men? Have you always been unattracted to women? Was there a change, is there something that just changes your outlook?

oh, this question~

septimus has a better, more eloquent answer to this question, but since he's fighting bahamut, i'll try to give a summary of his interests with women:

"Women? Women are like cardboard boxes. They're useful and great to have around, but I dont want to fuck a cardboard box."

to me, women are like flowers, they're pretty, but i dont want to have sex with one lol :D they're just not sexy to me, all women are like sisters to me :X nothing really turns me off about them, they just dont turn me on lol

now for the sexual identity timeline:

as long as i can remember => 4th grade: liked guys
5th grade: thought i liked a girl, this girl played some school game thing with me, told me i couldnt open my hand (from a fist) until i touched a girl's butt, then i touched her butt and i thought i liked her
6th grade: liked a boy and maybe liked a girl. liked the boy physically, liked the girl emotionally
7th grade => now: like the guys physically and emotionally, i think they're easier to understand and make happy, and they tend not to lie to you to make you feel better (if they like you they like you, and i like that)(girls are nice too, i just dont want -that- kind of relationship with them + no penis)

sorry Lbelle :X hasnt been a thread like this in a while, you know they get derailed but im sorrrrrrrry :D <3

[Lbelle]

That's ok 8)

[Not Kuno]

That was definatly a derail. You just flat out went "I know this is irrelevant but ____" and shit. Why not just make a seperate topic it has nothing to do with how a relationship should be?

That being said, stop derailing shit or insert vauge threat here.

[Shaede]

How can one explain why they'd rather eat vanilla over chocolate?

[JoOeetheplatypuS]

Ok. Back to the subject.

Dont worry Lbelle. I'm sure you'll find some guy to just have some casual fun with

[Mekami]

This is hardly a derail, it's sitll a topic about conversation. Besides, you've had five full pages of response.

Funny how I get five pages of response then you come along and fuck it up. That's never ever happened before.

...owait.

go fuck your arrogant self? I had a question, this thread was the perfect timing for the answer.

Enjoy the rest of your thread. I got the answer I wanted. You can go back to playing your stupid shit games.

[Almaa]

ON TOPIC

I put more thought into your question and I think your definitions are a little wrong. Basically, the way I see it, every serious relationship started from a casual relationship, and every casual relationship becomes a serious relationship given enough time (if you don't break up before you get there.)

When I think of "friends with benefits" then that's not a relationship per se. It's a friend you fuck once in awhile. To me that also means not being exclusive to each other, also, friends with benefits usually means at least one of them doesn't want a relationship and just wants some ass. The only relationship quality friends with benefits has is the boning, and hey, someday it might lead to a casual relationship.

[Lbelle]

Almaa I agree that every casual relationship turns into a serious one, but personally I'd prefer a long lasting casual one before I make that step or decision to go full on into a serious one.

But like you said, these are my definitions of them that I thought of off the top of my head, and to me casual and friends with benefits almost go interchangebly. I don't mean a friend as in someone you meet one day though, I'm saying that friend would be a good friend that you actually care SOMEWHAT about though. Like a best friend, not just some acquaintence.

Anyway I think I got what I want out of this thread, and Kuno you can "Kuno" this thread before it gets derailed/flamed anymore.

[Nirokun!]

i think everyone has their own idea of the differences there are between relationships among ppl :X

just like there are degrees of friendship: acquaintance, friend, close friend, intimate friend; there are different degrees of sexual relationships: fuck buddy, FWB, Lover (lol), partner

find what fits you in your current life, make sure the other party knows what you want and how you feel about this relationship (agreeing helps :D), and play safe

i know i want an intimate friend who is also my partner throughout life. i'd like for there to always be that special someone who will always be there for me, and be involved in my decision-making, and that i'd want to be their most important person in life, because its something i've never had before I'd like to believe he's out there waiting for me, just as i wait for him <3

[Kuai]

i thought u were a guy niro

[Nirokun!]

i thought u were a guy niro

yes? lol

[Eaglestrike]

i thought u were a guy niro

I'm not sure if you're being sarcastic or if you never read any of his posts.

[Tape]

This is hardly a derail, it's sitll a topic about conversation. Besides, you've had five full pages of response.

Funny how I get five pages of response then you come along and fuck it up. That's never ever happened before.

...owait.

go fuck your arrogant self? I had a question, this thread was the perfect timing for the answer.

Enjoy the rest of your thread. I got the answer I wanted. You can go back to playing your stupid shit games.

Awww shucks did he take his ball and run home?

Also... lets see... bi/gay curious... attacking a female for no reason what-so-eva. If it smells like a turd....

[Lordwafik]

Tape can I come over with my gamecube? I'll bring lots of beer.


ps : i dont like to wear pants while playing

[Mekami]

This is hardly a derail, it's sitll a topic about conversation. Besides, you've had five full pages of response.

Funny how I get five pages of response then you come along and fuck it up. That's never ever happened before.

...owait.

go fuck your arrogant self? I had a question, this thread was the perfect timing for the answer.

Enjoy the rest of your thread. I got the answer I wanted. You can go back to playing your stupid shit games.

Awww shucks did he take his ball and run home?

Also... lets see... bi/gay curious... attacking a female for no reason what-so-eva. If it smells like a turd....

Not Bi/gay curious, looking for information because my roommate this up-coming year, myb est friend of 7 years, is bi, and he doesn't talk about it much.

I'm not attacking a female, she attacks me and I defend myself. That's reasonable, you know.

[Tape]

Tape can I come over with my gamecube? I'll bring lots of beer.


ps : i dont like to wear pants while playing

I never knew how much we had in common!!! Us Texas boys like to play ruff!

[Tape]

This is hardly a derail, it's sitll a topic about conversation. Besides, you've had five full pages of response.

Funny how I get five pages of response then you come along and fuck it up. That's never ever happened before.

...owait.

go fuck your arrogant self? I had a question, this thread was the perfect timing for the answer.

Enjoy the rest of your thread. I got the answer I wanted. You can go back to playing your stupid shit games.

Awww shucks did he take his ball and run home?

Also... lets see... bi/gay curious... attacking a female for no reason what-so-eva. If it smells like a turd....

Not Bi/gay curious, looking for information because my roommate this up-coming year, myb est friend of 7 years, is bi, and he doesn't talk about it much.

I'm not attacking a female, she attacks me and I defend myself. That's reasonable, you know.

Make sure you sleep on your stomach, make it easier on him.