BG Forum Group Therapy #23

[Mephisto]

Keep in mind that he's probably very emo over the breakup right now

just make fun of him, letting him back in the group will only get you infected

[Nirokun!]

i wasnt aware boys made drama like this lolz

just have him back as a subordinate, i know you boys do that, with your leaders and your followers make him a follower for a while

girls are much easier to deal with, EQUALITY WITHIN THE GROUP, HEIRARCHY OUTSIDE

but really, just do stuff, boys arent all that complicated as friends at least, just have fun (*'-') you're not making out so dont worry about it

[Not Kuno]

Alleya what did you expect me to say? A vat of fire? I wanted to say lava but that wont stay in a vat very long.

[Manako]

girls are much easier to deal with, EQUALITY WITHIN THE GROUP, HEIRARCHY OUTSIDE

kwah? I dunno what girls you're hanging with but definetly not true! Guys are lucky all their guy friends just do whatever and don't seem to get into huge spats. Girls can be mean, they can be backstabbing, and 2 faced, and manipulative, and turn things that arent a big deal into one. At least I have never seen my guy friends have this problem with their friends, I assume the rules might be different for girls who have friends that are guys, so I won't count my direct experience with guy friends.

[Fhqwghads]

I'd let him back in. The reason is, during and for a while after High School, you'll keep hanging out with your same gang for a while. People are going to naturally drift apart. Careers will come into play, marriage, kids, the works. Time will cause everyone to lose contact anyway, so why speed up the process when someone still wants to stay close?

[Awoir]

Remind him: Bro's before Hoe's. Take him back, he needs you.

[othellojr]

girls are much easier to deal with, EQUALITY WITHIN THE GROUP, HEIRARCHY OUTSIDE

kwah? I dunno what girls you're hanging with but definetly not true! Guys are lucky all their guy friends just do whatever and don't seem to get into huge spats. Girls can be mean, they can be backstabbing, and 2 faced, and manipulative, and turn things that arent a big deal into one. At least I have never seen my guy friends have this problem with their friends, I assume the rules might be different for girls who have friends that are guys, so I won't count my direct experience with guy friends.

So true, I found my Army buddies we had it simple, if we got mad at each other, usually it would result in a drunken brawl in a bar or in the aparment building we lived in, we would fight till we passed out or got knocked out then woke up, shake hands and everything was fine....but as Manako explained here...I seen girls hold grudges and plot against you if they are ever mad, they will fucking hold shit in for years before you realize 8 years later they were mad that you kissed a friend of theirs on the cheek in high school during lunch or some shit stupid like that and it really meant nothing but saying "hi"(I had this shit happen to me...fucking psycho bitches)...

[Almaa]

girls are much easier to deal with, EQUALITY WITHIN THE GROUP, HEIRARCHY OUTSIDE

kwah? I dunno what girls you're hanging with but definetly not true! Guys are lucky all their guy friends just do whatever and don't seem to get into huge spats. Girls can be mean, they can be backstabbing, and 2 faced, and manipulative, and turn things that arent a big deal into one. At least I have never seen my guy friends have this problem with their friends, I assume the rules might be different for girls who have friends that are guys, so I won't count my direct experience with guy friends.

so true, I know guys that are like that though, they are drama queens (kings?) but they quickly dramatize themselves out of the group because normal guys don't deal with that shit.

If he was your true friend, and a girl fucked him up for awhile, let him back into your group, but don't sympathize, give him non-stop shit about it just so he knows he fucked up. But do it jokingly.

[Sirenia]

girls are much easier to deal with, EQUALITY WITHIN THE GROUP, HEIRARCHY OUTSIDE

kwah? I dunno what girls you're hanging with but definetly not true! Guys are lucky all their guy friends just do whatever and don't seem to get into huge spats. Girls can be mean, they can be backstabbing, and 2 faced, and manipulative, and turn things that arent a big deal into one. At least I have never seen my guy friends have this problem with their friends, I assume the rules might be different for girls who have friends that are guys, so I won't count my direct experience with guy friends.

So true, I found my Army buddies we had it simple, if we got mad at each other, usually it would result in a drunken brawl in a bar or in the aparment building we lived in, we would fight till we passed out or got knocked out then woke up, shake hands and everything was fine....but as Manako explained here...I seen girls hold grudges and plot against you if they are ever mad, they will fucking hold shit in for years before you realize 8 years later they were mad that you kissed a friend of theirs on the cheek in high school during lunch or some shit stupid like that and it really meant nothing but saying "hi"(I had this shit happen to me...fucking psycho bitches)...

Ya tell me about it. I mean my two best friends are girls....but every other bitch I've come in contact with is a backstabing cunt. I'd rather be friends with guys, from my experience they don't try and sabotage your relationships, spread rumors, talk behind your back, try to steal your men, tap into your phone calls, or stalk you like some pyscho bitch. (Bad experiences!) And guys usually aren't as two-faced either, with some exceptions. I just hate fucking cunts. :D lol

[Nirokun!]

girls are much easier to deal with, EQUALITY WITHIN THE GROUP, HEIRARCHY OUTSIDE

kwah? I dunno what girls you're hanging with but definetly not true! Guys are lucky all their guy friends just do whatever and don't seem to get into huge spats. Girls can be mean, they can be backstabbing, and 2 faced, and manipulative, and turn things that arent a big deal into one. At least I have never seen my guy friends have this problem with their friends, I assume the rules might be different for girls who have friends that are guys, so I won't count my direct experience with guy friends.

what im saying is that, at least in my experience, girls can hold grudges but you generally wont know because they dont let it come up and affect the situation. sure they'll cut you off and offside effects RUIN YOUR LIFE LOLZ but its not outright, and its playing nice well, as far as i'm concerned. i've never had bad experiences with girlfriends like that, but generally nowadays, its not big groups, just this one friend, and that friend~ my girlfriends arent necessarily part of the same group.. you know?

not that i dont like guys lol~ with boys you can do stuff and talk about other things, like something you saw on tv or in a class, with girls its like, you do stuff to talk about stuff regarding eachother on a more personal level? i like both~ but sometimes i just like to relax and just play a videogame with the boys or go eat with the boys and not have some great big discussion about it lol

i like both kinds of friends

[Manako]

There always are the occasional female who does not do such evil things, but they are few and far between, and in one on one situations it is far less common. I also happen to go to a school where the ratio is 1 girl for about every 7 guys, so this inflates the whole bitchy thing.. we call it RIBS Ratio Induced Bitch Syndrome.

I don't think I'm a normal girl though, I love talking about games and movies and stuff, the personal stuff is ok but its not a facination like alot of other women have. I don't know how some women can just talk about people all day, but thats me.

On topic: From what I know of you Daahan, you are a nice guy. So I'm sure that whatever your gut feeling is will be the right decision. You also don't have to be black and white about it, you are probably more attached to your friends who have been with you while he was not, if you remain concerned that he might disapear again don't put as much effort in. I think you have valid reason to be skeptical, and hopefully he will turn around.

[Okan]

If you truly are his friend, hang out with him again. You would be there for him no matter what. No matter if it was 10 girls or 10 years.

If you are not his friend or not wanting to be his friend, tell him to piss off.

[tiberion02]

Give him copies of FFXI or WoW... you'll never hear from him again.

[Unklemonkey]

Give him copies of FFXI or WoW... you'll never hear from him again.

That'll backfire, he'll start bitching about how much the games suck, and how much he hates them, but he won't quit either. He'll end up being like a mini-Flux... nobody wants that :/

[Zigma]

sounds like you've never had a girlfriend who you've cared about..


Bro's before hoes as they say.

[Daahan]

sounds like you've never had a girlfriend who you've cared about..


Bro's before hoes as they say.

If that's directed at me, I disagree. I've had girlfriends while I have hung out with the group of guys I mentioned. Unlike the friend who ditched us, my girlfriend liked my friends and often didn't care if I did things with them as long as I spent time with her.

[Zigma]

sounds like you've never had a girlfriend who you've cared about..


Bro's before hoes as they say.

If that's directed at me, I disagree. I've had girlfriends while I have hung out with the group of guys I mentioned. Unlike the friend who ditched us, my girlfriend liked my friends and often didn't care if I did things with them as long as I spent time with her.

Did any of them last for 2.5 years? Maybe though about getting married, starting a family and shit?

[Daahan]

sounds like you've never had a girlfriend who you've cared about..


Bro's before hoes as they say.

If that's directed at me, I disagree. I've had girlfriends while I have hung out with the group of guys I mentioned. Unlike the friend who ditched us, my girlfriend liked my friends and often didn't care if I did things with them as long as I spent time with her.

Did any of them last for 2.5 years? Maybe though about getting married, starting a family and shit?

i lived with one in our own apartment for close to a year.

[Zigma]

sounds like you've never had a girlfriend who you've cared about..


Bro's before hoes as they say.

If that's directed at me, I disagree. I've had girlfriends while I have hung out with the group of guys I mentioned. Unlike the friend who ditched us, my girlfriend liked my friends and often didn't care if I did things with them as long as I spent time with her.

Did any of them last for 2.5 years? Maybe though about getting married, starting a family and shit?

i lived with one in our own apartment for close to a year.

soso

[Daahan]

sounds like you've never had a girlfriend who you've cared about..


Bro's before hoes as they say.

If that's directed at me, I disagree. I've had girlfriends while I have hung out with the group of guys I mentioned. Unlike the friend who ditched us, my girlfriend liked my friends and often didn't care if I did things with them as long as I spent time with her.

Did any of them last for 2.5 years? Maybe though about getting married, starting a family and shit?

i lived with one in our own apartment for close to a year.

soso

point is it's kind of stupid to assume i've never had a girlfriend i've cared about. I cared about one of them enough to move in with her and live basically as a couple. We shared the costs together and maintained the place together. And yes, we did contemplate getting married until certain things happened that caused us to break up. So yes, I have cared for a girl before, up to the point where I started a life together with her, but I never forgot about my best friends. Believe it or not, in rare cases you can be close to a girl and still be close to your friends. I'm one of those rare cases.