How many partners?

[Elesirdur]

Id rather be with someone who has no experience with sex, then someone who has done every trick in the book.

Im sure some people like the opposite, but thats just the way I feel about it.

I'm one of those opposite people. 23 now, and from when I was about 17-21 I dated mostly older girls, usually 3-5 years my senior. I greatly enjoyed being with a partner that had an idea of what they wanted and how to go about getting it. Over the last year or so I've had 2 girls that were 18-19 and in one case I was their first, and the other, their second partner. I can easily say, the sex just sucked. Honestly, they were the most attractive girls I've been with but amongst all the confusion, emotional baggage, and flat out inexperience they were very unfulfilling sexual experiences.

However, I can see where you folks are coming from. Being with someone who's done it all might lead to a rather bland and blaise experience; conversely the more experienced partner may also feel the way I did and you're left with an imbalance of sorts.

[Boyiee]

Id rather be with someone who has no experience with sex, then someone who has done every trick in the book.

Im sure some people like the opposite, but thats just the way I feel about it.

I'm one of those opposite people. 23 now, and from when I was about 17-21 I dated mostly older girls, usually 3-5 years my senior. I greatly enjoyed being with a partner that had an idea of what they wanted and how to go about getting it. Over the last year or so I've had 2 girls that were 18-19 and in one case I was their first, and the other, their second partner. I can easily say, the sex just sucked. Honestly, they were the most attractive girls I've been with but amongst all the confusion, emotional baggage, and flat out inexperience they were very unfulfilling sexual experiences.

However, I can see where you folks are coming from. Being with someone who's done it all might lead to a rather bland and blaise experience; conversely the more experienced partner may also feel the way I did and you're left with an imbalance of sorts.

That's how I am now. My ex is 30 and i'm 20, so the sex after her so far has been eh but she was a total knockout, I couldn't keep up. But I learned alot so now that i'm back with girls more around my age I can show them a good time that they can't get elsewhere.

[SilverBreeze]

you know, i never understand why people will choose to hold off sex until marriage? would you buy a car without testdriving it?... also if both of you don't have any experience, (talking about blind leading a blind) sex will suck for both for quite a long time.

[I took the ethics part out of the quote because I'm not really responding to that part]

Actually quite the opposite I've noticed. Me and my husband were both virgins when we met, totally inexperienced. When we fist had sex it was a new and wonderful experience that we were sharing together for the 1st time, not really as clumsy as you imagine "blind leading the blind" to be. Although I can certainly understand if your first time was with someone more experienced you'd feel like, well, a noob. But if both are in the same situation, It doesn't 'suck' at all, It's a new thing to experiment with. "Ooh, what happens if I poke it this way?"

And over time It's gotten better and better, because I don't know "guys" I know Him, what turns him on, what he likes, and so forth, learned what fetishes we both had [I use the term generally, everybody has some]. And we still have hot kinky sex multiple times per week.

I've only slept with one man, and it gets better every time.

i am sure you guys will be fine eventually if you are willing to experiement. but wouldn't you rather he had some experience to begin with even if you didn't? you know he could have fucked your brains out from the beginning and everytime if he had some experience instead of getting better over time (not saying there is anything wrong with that). and since you never had sex with any other guys, how would you know how good your husband is in comparison to the others? not to mention inexperienced guys usually get way too excited too fast and sex would last way shorter than you both would like.

look, i am not saying people who save their virginity until marriage are dumb or stupid. matter of fact, they have my respect being able to resist all the temptations. but they are naive oftern times because they are anticipating for a magical first time and setting themselves up for a huge disappointment.

Fine eventually? How do you now they are not fine now? Even if he had had sex before how do you know he would be an expert by now, and how can you even question their sex life because they have never been with anyone else so they can't compare? If you are truly happy with something you shouldn't need to compare it with anything else.

This is the kind of mind set I'm talking about, people think that because they have had sex in the past, or before someone else that they will always be superior in bed than someone else. That's not how it works, experience is great but that's not the only thing that matters. Everyone is different and you may have had sex with 50 people but get to one person and not be able to do anything for her.

I honestly have always believed there is more to sex than just fucking, people who choose to wait to have sex aren't naive. I'm sure the vast majority of people who choose to wait are not expecting some fairy tale dream of some amazing sexual experience the first time they have sex. But there are getting the one thing they do want, having sex with a special person they love and care about and that it will be a special experience no matter how it turns out, and I don't see how anyone can be stupid for wanting that.

[aznmajiktaru]

did I mention I love you SB?

[JoOeetheplatypuS]

The question SB, is will it be less special if he's not your first?

[Tonko]

Did I mention live and let live? Stop trying to tell people they're doing it wrong. As long as they're living true to what they feel is right, it's not anyone's place to tell them how it could be "better."

[SilverBreeze]

Did I mention live and let live? Stop trying to tell people they're doing it wrong. As long as they're living true to what they feel is right, it's not anyone's place to tell them how it could be "better."

I'm all for that Tonko. I've never bashed anyone for having sex now because they choose to, but it seems that people think virgins are stupid and they need to remind us of this at every opporitunity.

[cassiraa]

i am sure you guys will be fine eventually if you are willing to experiement. but wouldn't you rather he had some experience to begin with even if you didn't? you know he could have fucked your brains out from the beginning and everytime if he had some experience instead of getting better over time (not saying there is anything wrong with that). and since you never had sex with any other guys, how would you know how good your husband is in comparison to the others? not to mention inexperienced guys usually get way too excited too fast and sex would last way shorter than you both would like.

look, i am not saying people who save their virginity until marriage are dumb or stupid. matter of fact, they have my respect being able to resist all the temptations. but they are naive often times because they are anticipating for a magical first time and setting themselves up for a huge disappointment.

Honestly, the first time was extremely emotional for both of us, not just physical, I attribute that to it being our first times. Now mind you, I'm defining sex as penetration. We experimented/oral/masturbation on each other plenty in the weeks/months beforehand, and continued [and still continue] to experiment with things. It wasn't "hey, lets fuck" it was "we're both ready to take this next step." and to answer "do you wish he had experience" question, No: I'm glad that we did everything together.

Yeah, if you were both noobs and hadn't done anything sexually, then jumping in bed would be like a grandmother trying to program a VCR, You wouldn't know what to press to make it do what you wanted it to.

Basically, I'm agreeing with you that people who have never seen a cock shouldn't jump into bed and expect everything to happen perfectly. But I'm also saying that can also be part of a growing in a relationship: learning each other intimately. And yes, this was before marriage.

and as far as it lasting short, I can say a resounding 'No' to that one! ^^

[Elesirdur]

Did I mention live and let live? Stop trying to tell people they're doing it wrong. As long as they're living true to what they feel is right, it's not anyone's place to tell them how it could be "better."

(word)

Unless they're sticking it in the nose or ear, that's just wrong on so many levels.

[SilverBreeze]

Did I mention live and let live? Stop trying to tell people they're doing it wrong. As long as they're living true to what they feel is right, it's not anyone's place to tell them how it could be "better."

(word)

Unless they're sticking it in the nose or ear, that's just wrong on so many levels.

No way, Nasal Sex is the newest taboo, everyones doing it!

[Elesirdur]

Did I mention live and let live? Stop trying to tell people they're doing it wrong. As long as they're living true to what they feel is right, it's not anyone's place to tell them how it could be "better."

(word)

Unless they're sticking it in the nose or ear, that's just wrong on so many levels.

No way, Nasal Sex is the newest taboo, everyones doing it!

Well as long as I'm not getting spooge up my nose I let people have their fun.

[Boyiee]

Ear sex lol, fucking meg.

This thread is really itching me to make a poll about multiple sexual partners at the same time.

[SephYuyX]

Im still a fan of neck sex.

Now where is that guro pic..

[Boyiee]

Did I mention live and let live? Stop trying to tell people they're doing it wrong. As long as they're living true to what they feel is right, it's not anyone's place to tell them how it could be "better."

(word)

Unless they're sticking it in the nose or ear, that's just wrong on so many levels.

No way, Nasal Sex is the newest taboo, everyones doing it!

might be double posting (this thread gets bumped pretty fast so I might not) but lol nasal sex is pretty big I heard.

[finale23]

Fine eventually? How do you now they are not fine now? Even if he had had sex before how do you know he would be an expert by now, and how can you even question their sex life because they have never been with anyone else so they can't compare? If you are truly happy with something you shouldn't need to compare it with anything else.

This is the kind of mind set I'm talking about, people think that because they have had sex in the past, or before someone else that they will always be superior in bed than someone else. That's not how it works, experience is great but that's not the only thing that matters. Everyone is different and you may have had sex with 50 people but get to one person and not be able to do anything for her.

I honestly have always believed there is more to sex than just fucking, people who choose to wait to have sex aren't naive. I'm sure the vast majority of people who choose to wait are not expecting some fairy tale dream of some amazing sexual experience the first time they have sex. But there are getting the one thing they do want, having sex with a special person they love and care about and that it will be a special experience no matter how it turns out, and I don't see how anyone can be stupid for wanting that.

i am sure the guy who has never had sex before would definitely have a better chance of pleasing his woman than someone who has quite extensive experience.

with everything being equal, meaning both guys are willing to do what they can to please you, the more experienced one will usually come off better. and i have no idea how and to whom you compare when you only have sex with one person you entire life. also, did i mention that it's difficult for guys to contain their excitement and most of us don't know what we were doing the first few times around? you can't hope the guy to last for 25 mins his first time just because you guys are crazy in love. one way or the other it's ganna be over way too fast for both of you, and it will take some time to get better.

you reiterate that there is more to sex than just fucking, i wonder what that would be, a special love connection? i am probably too cynical and jaded to understand you. also, if you are waiting for Mr. Right for whatever the reason for the past 21 years, inadvertently you are ganna build up expectation. furthermore, a vast majority of people who wait until marriage are either involuntary or due to religious reason. i am sure you are in the minority, and that's good for you. i never say people who wait are stupid, just naive.

[finale23]

i am sure you guys will be fine eventually if you are willing to experiement. but wouldn't you rather he had some experience to begin with even if you didn't? you know he could have fucked your brains out from the beginning and everytime if he had some experience instead of getting better over time (not saying there is anything wrong with that). and since you never had sex with any other guys, how would you know how good your husband is in comparison to the others? not to mention inexperienced guys usually get way too excited too fast and sex would last way shorter than you both would like.

look, i am not saying people who save their virginity until marriage are dumb or stupid. matter of fact, they have my respect being able to resist all the temptations. but they are naive often times because they are anticipating for a magical first time and setting themselves up for a huge disappointment.

Honestly, the first time was extremely emotional for both of us, not just physical, I attribute that to it being our first times. Now mind you, I'm defining sex as penetration. We experimented/oral/masturbation on each other plenty in the weeks/months beforehand, and continued [and still continue] to experiment with things. It wasn't "hey, lets fuck" it was "we're both ready to take this next step." and to answer "do you wish he had experience" question, No: I'm glad that we did everything together.

Yeah, if you were both noobs and hadn't done anything sexually, then jumping in bed would be like a grandmother trying to program a VCR, You wouldn't know what to press to make it do what you wanted it to.

Basically, I'm agreeing with you that people who have never seen a cock shouldn't jump into bed and expect everything to happen perfectly. But I'm also saying that can also be part of a growing in a relationship: learning each other intimately. And yes, this was before marriage.

and as far as it lasting short, I can say a resounding 'No' to that one! ^^

that's great, i am happy for you. :D

[Marsala]

0 @ 21. Waiting till I'm married. Havent even kissed a girl yet. Lol, my wedding night is going to be hot!

[SilverBreeze]

Fine eventually? How do you now they are not fine now? Even if he had had sex before how do you know he would be an expert by now, and how can you even question their sex life because they have never been with anyone else so they can't compare? If you are truly happy with something you shouldn't need to compare it with anything else.

This is the kind of mind set I'm talking about, people think that because they have had sex in the past, or before someone else that they will always be superior in bed than someone else. That's not how it works, experience is great but that's not the only thing that matters. Everyone is different and you may have had sex with 50 people but get to one person and not be able to do anything for her.

I honestly have always believed there is more to sex than just fucking, people who choose to wait to have sex aren't naive. I'm sure the vast majority of people who choose to wait are not expecting some fairy tale dream of some amazing sexual experience the first time they have sex. But there are getting the one thing they do want, having sex with a special person they love and care about and that it will be a special experience no matter how it turns out, and I don't see how anyone can be stupid for wanting that.

i am sure the guy who has never had sex before would definitely have a better chance of pleasing his woman than someone who has quite extensive experience.

with everything being equal, meaning both guys are willing to do what they can to please you, the more experienced one will usually come off better. and i have no idea how and to whom you compare when you only have sex with one person you entire life. also, did i mention that it's difficult for guys to contain their excitement and most of us don't know what we were doing the first few times around? you can't hope the guy to last for 25 mins his first time just because you guys are crazy in love. one way or the other it's ganna be over way too fast for both of you, and it will take some time to get better.

you reiterate that there is more to sex than just fucking, i wonder what that would be, a special love connection? i am probably too cynical and jaded to understand you. also, if you are waiting for Mr. Right for whatever the reason for the past 21 years, inadvertently you are ganna build up expectation. furthermore, a vast majority of people who wait until marriage are either involuntary or due to religious reason. i am sure you are in the minority, and that's good for you. i never say people who wait are stupid, just naive.

Yes the guy with more experience will probably do better, but that's with most things in life. I don't see how you think you have to have someone to compare sex against to get satisfaction out of it. As long as it feels good, and you're enjoying yourself, and you're getting off, who cares how good it is compared to someone else. If you are truly satisfied there is no need to compare. Yes I know its hard for guys to "contain their excitement" and I surely don't believe that if indeed he is a virgin too that he will last 25 minutes. Did you last 25 minutes when you lost your virginity? I don't believe that love makes you the best lover in bed ever, but I'm sure it adds to the experience. You act like he's only going to have sex with someone once and never again. He can learn the same way you did, through experience, and there's all the time in the world to improve.

I really wish you would stop trying to degrade how someone's sex life is going to be because they decide to wait, it's their choice, why do you care so much? Is it wrong to want to have the experience to be with someone special, or someone you love, other than someone that you pick up at a bar or something? I don't think so. Do you think I claim to save myself because I'm too ugly for someone to want to have sex with me? I've had plenty of opporitunities where I could have had sex but I chose not to, and I'm an atheist so there is no religion holding me back. It's my body and its my decision what to do with it, and my decision is to wait, so you can take your derogatory comments else where.

EDIT: Dammit I should have made this my 1000th post, since the vast majority of them are usually rambling about sex. Hurry up and say something stupid finale so I can get my last post.

[Lbelle]

0 @ 21. Waiting till I'm married. Havent even kissed a girl yet. Lol, my wedding night is going to be hot!

I'd imagine your wedding night will be awkward if you've never even kissed anyone at 21.

[Zalius]

0 @ 21. Waiting till I'm married. Havent even kissed a girl yet. Lol, my wedding night is going to be hot!

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